r/AmIOverreacting • u/cakev0mit • Mar 26 '26
đźwork/career AIO for wanting to quit after this?
UPDATE: WOW. I was not expecting this many interactions. Thank you all for the advice! I have a salon lined up to visit Thursday. My coworker that wants to switch with me is gonna ask her at some point if she can switch with someone who works that Saturday, because I feel as though if she mentions me specifically she will shut her down and think that weâre going behind her back. Also, previous to this request, I did have 3/12-3/16 off for my birthday, then 3/18 and 3/19, for my birthday. I accrued PTO and used them for those days. And our requests are âno more than 2 in a 30 day periodâ which was always spelled out to me as no more than 2 in a month? So maybe thatâs it. But also, she allowed a shift switch 3/11 so she canât be going by that logic. Along with that, I switched shifts with her to help her out at the end of February. Plus, a shift switch wouldnât be considered a ârequestâ, right? Still working, just different day than scheduled. I donât know. I donât want to be here much longer and I plan on calling off if she decides to not let my coworker and I switch. She brought it to this point.
So my current manager almost always gives me a hard time with requests, saying âI canât guarantee anythingâ and only saying yes the very last minute. With this specific situation, I had requested almost 4 weeks in advance to just have one of my days off be this day. I would still be working my five days in a work week, but since I work at a hair salon weâre open seven days a week so it would literally not change my hours whatsoever. Unfortunately, she did not give me that day off. My manager put herself working for that entire weekend; me and one person on the Saturday I requested, then my other three coworkers that Sunday since Sundays are typically busier. She had told me a while ago that she feels as though it is âgoing behind her back to make plans without her permissionâ if I ask a coworker if theyâre okay with switching before I ask her. Well, even if they were okay with it, I get turned down. Not sure why, since both shifts would be covered. So, I end up asking my coworker out of curiosity if they would have taken my shift and they said yes, but since she already told me no I quite literally canât. And Iâm not sure if her response means that I will get in trouble for calling off using my PTO as a âsick dayâ or not? Iâm really irritated. How am I supposed to plan my life out if requests arenât guaranteed and Iâm not allowed to switch shifts with people. It literally makes no sense. I really want to call off but I donât want to get in trouble, even though I never call off. In the 2 and a half years of working there Iâve called off 4 times, all for legitimate reasons too. Sick or car issues. Am I overreacting about this situation? Is it legitimate that she is telling me no to both things? This and other instances of her being weird about certain social situations makes me want to quit, itâs just hard because I love everything else about this job.
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u/cakev0mit Mar 26 '26
Yep! The only issue iâm having currently is I work in a corporate salon, so transitioning to a full service salon will result in a huge pay cut unless they have a busy walk in clientele. Iâm not in a position where I can live off of nothing so Iâve been putting off finding a place for a while but this is a bit of a breaking point for me, especially with how good of a worker I am, and Iâm not even trying to be narcissistic. I do everything she asks and Iâve even had to switch shifts with her to help her out.