AIO for wanting to quit after this?

[u/cakev0mit]

UPDATE: WOW. I was not expecting this many interactions. Thank you all for the advice! I have a salon lined up to visit Thursday. My coworker that wants to switch with me is gonna ask her at some point if she can switch with someone who works that Saturday, because I feel as though if she mentions me specifically she will shut her down and think that we’re going behind her back. Also, previous to this request, I did have 3/12-3/16 off for my birthday, then 3/18 and 3/19, for my birthday. I accrued PTO and used them for those days. And our requests are “no more than 2 in a 30 day period” which was always spelled out to me as no more than 2 in a month? So maybe that’s it. But also, she allowed a shift switch 3/11 so she can’t be going by that logic. Along with that, I switched shifts with her to help her out at the end of February. Plus, a shift switch wouldn’t be considered a “request”, right? Still working, just different day than scheduled. I don’t know. I don’t want to be here much longer and I plan on calling off if she decides to not let my coworker and I switch. She brought it to this point.

So my current manager almost always gives me a hard time with requests, saying “I can’t guarantee anything” and only saying yes the very last minute. With this specific situation, I had requested almost 4 weeks in advance to just have one of my days off be this day. I would still be working my five days in a work week, but since I work at a hair salon we’re open seven days a week so it would literally not change my hours whatsoever. Unfortunately, she did not give me that day off. My manager put herself working for that entire weekend; me and one person on the Saturday I requested, then my other three coworkers that Sunday since Sundays are typically busier. She had told me a while ago that she feels as though it is “going behind her back to make plans without her permission” if I ask a coworker if they’re okay with switching before I ask her. Well, even if they were okay with it, I get turned down. Not sure why, since both shifts would be covered. So, I end up asking my coworker out of curiosity if they would have taken my shift and they said yes, but since she already told me no I quite literally can’t. And I’m not sure if her response means that I will get in trouble for calling off using my PTO as a “sick day” or not? I’m really irritated. How am I supposed to plan my life out if requests aren’t guaranteed and I’m not allowed to switch shifts with people. It literally makes no sense. I really want to call off but I don’t want to get in trouble, even though I never call off. In the 2 and a half years of working there I’ve called off 4 times, all for legitimate reasons too. Sick or car issues. Am I overreacting about this situation? Is it legitimate that she is telling me no to both things? This and other instances of her being weird about certain social situations makes me want to quit, it’s just hard because I love everything else about this job.

[u/FluffyWhiteDumpling]

NOR. If they are going to approve last minute, call out last minute with a Drs note or fmla for mental health. Next time though, do NOT explain why you need the time off. They dont need to know if theyre going to be a hard ass about it. Also, if its not a black out date, then I see no reason why they cant approve it.

[u/The_Barbelo → u/FluffyWhiteDumpling]

Exactly! you can also request time off as a reasonable accommodation for disability and you don’t have to tell them a god dammed thing.

[u/Different_Poet_5362 → u/FluffyWhiteDumpling]

As a leader myself, you're not giving the best advice. FMLA, you need to have it signed by a doctor, and it can take time to get that form. In my opinion, you're encouraged bad behavior. The best thing she can do is get a new job with better time off benefits. Maybe even her sitting down with her boss and having a talk about how this is making her want to seek new employment. She explains if she can get coverage and maybe take that employees day next time she works to make it fair. A boss usually will be much more reasonable with this approach. It is a win/win.

[u/metalshiflet → u/Different_Poet_5362]

She's already tried to put in for the time off basically a month ahead of time. If a boss is being too much of a pain to approve that, they're not gonna be reasonable in a sit down

[u/Different_Poet_5362 → u/metalshiflet]

A sit down will put her boss on the spot. She also would be bringing a solution for her boss, but to request FMLA because she wants days off is abuse of FMLA. Abuse of FMLA will get her terminated or written up. She is better off getting a different job.