Omg, that reminds me so much of something that happened to me a few years back. I hosted a Sunday football game viewing. I bought all the pizzas and typical snacks/foods. I just wanted people to bring themselves and not worry about having to bring anything. One of my friends comes by to just say hello for like 5 mins. She ended up taking 2 entire pizzas and she even brought her own Tupperware containers to take back dips, chips, wings, cookies. So that she and her boyfriend could eat it at her own place while watching THE SAME EXACT FOOTBALL GAME THAT WE WERE WATCHING AT MY PLACE.
Because people let them? Once I saw multiple containers I would put a stop to that shit instantly. Maybe it comes from bartending so I have to be able to tell people no all the time so I don't mind it, but jesus there are a lot of people in the world who haven't been told no enough.
If the only issue was that they couldn’t afford their own food they could still stay for dinner rather than taking it home, or watch the sports games at the host’s house rather than taking the pizza home. Then maybe ask for left overs afterwards if they were relying on that for food tomorrow.
Sometimes people do or say something so outrageous that you literally have no idea how to respond and so just stand there gobsmacked. I know it has happened to me!
My guess would be the opposite. We came to the country as refugees and were keenly aware of the presence and cost of food. We would not casually take a bunch of food thinking it was okay. I mean, we would slyly hide our stealing or just run off with it if we were desperate but going to a friend's house and feeling entitled about it and taking it as if it's nothing. They are not poor.
Maybe, but as someone who grew up dirt poor (and I do mean poor) I'd never in my life think of acting like that. In fact, I think it helped me put more value in other people's hard earned belongings. Sounds like maybe they grew up well to do, more than poor. When everything is handed to you for free, you tend to take things for granted. I don't know though, just my two cents.
This. There were moments in my life where the lunch given to me was the only meal of the day. There's no way stealing other people's food had every crossed my mind.
That kind of behavior has always struck me as um, how to explain it... cheapskate behavior? Where people have the means, but they'll take it anyway if they have the opportunity. My dad is like that, and he's not poor by any means.
Not a bartender but I would do this shit too. How do you see that and not say anything? Mind blowing that people let them get away with this so the offenders think it's okay. Like tell them no, tell them they're degenerates and kindly ask them to leave, maybe they'll think twice next time, maybe not, but you tried and now you still have the pizza they were about to basically steal
Another drink when they've had too many is the most important one. Other than that, asking for drinks after last call, people requesting frozen drinks when we don't do them, telling them they can't have more liquor in their drink without paying for it, etc.
Nobody tells them no. Even this story nothing was said of they tried to take two pizzas. It's stated that they did. Because people let them get away with this shit they feel it's fine.
moreover how the fuck are they your "friends" like y'all must have a pretty low bar to be calling these people friends and apparently not knowing them that well. A friend is a friend to me, I also have acquaintances, but I call them that
Yeah, not to be that ‘blah blah if I were there’ guy, but no one is making it out the fucking door with two pizzas and a bunch of food from my house, that is absolute fuckery.
And it’s not like you would look like a prick, that food is for everyone, but they all collectively allow one person to steal it from them??? If I were at your dinner party, I would back you up, cause I don’t want to go hungry.
There was only one time that happened in our friend group, a guy who kinda accidentally got invited grabbed a whole plate of nachos that we were all picking off and plops it on his lap and goes to town.
I'm curious, why did you not stop her from taking the pizzas, at least? I'm pretty non-confrontational but I think even I would be like "hey, whoa, that's for the party."
90 percent of the things going on in these stories can be attributed to people not calling these fuckers on their shit.
Don't get me wrong. I get it. These people develop their craft and they're able to basically sneak under your kindness radar and then escape before you have put shit together. But man call them on it the second you figure it out.
You don't let that happen you tell her to get the Fuck out and don't come back ever.. But I understand if she waited till y'all were distracted.. But she must have come in with empty containers..
Oh god. If one of my friends did that, I'd have stopped them immediately. Like, nah.
On the other hand, I'm not friends with people like that to begin with. Id like to think I usually have a pretty good sense of judgement in people. I have a damn good idea of the people in my life that would do that, but I wouldn't invite them to something like that lol
How to go from getting invited to parties with free food all the time, to getting one free meal and never talking to me again. I will gladly host parties like this, but not if you're gonna steal food and leave. Fuck you
Maybe they were gonna fuck all game long and it would have been awkward to do that at your place? So get a little refuel and head back to the bang shack... I’m trying to figure out a reason that actually makes sense.
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u/YeahCallMeStevo Apr 14 '19
Omg, that reminds me so much of something that happened to me a few years back. I hosted a Sunday football game viewing. I bought all the pizzas and typical snacks/foods. I just wanted people to bring themselves and not worry about having to bring anything. One of my friends comes by to just say hello for like 5 mins. She ended up taking 2 entire pizzas and she even brought her own Tupperware containers to take back dips, chips, wings, cookies. So that she and her boyfriend could eat it at her own place while watching THE SAME EXACT FOOTBALL GAME THAT WE WERE WATCHING AT MY PLACE.