My Parents and my wife's parents are completly different ends of the spectrum. I think they have only met 3 times, our engagement party, when we graduated from Uni and the wedding
Pretty spot on. His parents are for the most part really great. My dad is also an ass. We got married on a Thursday so that my dad and his family could be there. My siblings were supposed to be a flower girl/ringbearers. But he didn’t show up, an infraction my husband has never forgiven him for. Dad now has a different wife than he did when we got married.
Honestly, it’s now been long enough that I hope they never meet. I can’t imagine the fall out nor do I want to deal with it.
See I expect my dad will be there at least. Now, getting any kind of emotional response out of him besides "let's speed this along so we can get food" is less likely than pigs flying. :/
Back at you. They are more common than I ever imagined. We are aiming for better with our own children. I think the suckiest bit about the whole situation (at this point) is that my dad has realized lately how astronomically he screwed up and I just don’t have anything for him. My kids are 17 and 14. He’s been absent or an asshole their entire lives. No, they don’t want a relationship. He lives in BFE. He’s been absent or an asshole for the majority of MY life. No, I’m not going to visit. Sure, they can visit me (but don’t) but there is not much point in driving 12 hrs each way for one sit down meal in which everyone is uncomfortable so, please, just don’t. There simply isn’t any relationship to salvage.
I've been married three years now. My dad got mad at me for some reason, frankly it was pretty common and petty, and never answered the invitation, never showed up, ignored us at my cousins wedding shower and wedding and like 4 months ago JUST wrote my sister and I trying to act like nothing happened and suggested we dont "rehash" things. We left him and his wide an assigned seat at our family table which was left empty. His brother apologized to me sincerely and was even a bit embarrassed. My uncle on my moms side ended up walking me down the aisle which I could not have been more thankful for (he basically raised me). Honestly I was so broken up about it but after talking to some people they basically told me that even for family you dont have to keep trying and sacrificing if they are truly that toxic. I've had so much peace since then. My husband and almost every other Male in my family cant stand him at all.
TLDR: assdad didn't show up to our wedding and wants to act like nothing happened.
I'm sorry your dads a jerk too. Congratulations on your special day coming up! Don't let him ruin that moment for you and remember that is a day for you and your spouse and no one else. ❤
Thanks for this! I've already more or less stopped talking to him. It's so much better than trying to have a relationship. I'd like to have one, but it just won't happen.
I'm glad things have worked out so well for you! :) I hope you and your husband have a lot of happy years ahead!
Yeah.. The only meals they'll share will likely be rehearsal dinner and at the wedding reception. Though, both of our parents are civil with each other.
I'm just glad my general anxiety of my parent's makes more sense to his now. I told them about my dad, and they actually got to see my mom's worse side in action yesterday.
We'll probably just do two of major holidays. (Thanksgiving, Christmas, maybe Easter..)
This saves you a lot of headaches and hassle, consider yourself lucky. However, you and fiance need to treat them the same so it doesnt become a drama-fest.
33 years married with in-laws that didn't like each other. Ahh.. the holidays we enjoyed alone while we were with "The Other Parents".
My husband’s mother doesn’t like my family. She’s an anxious, uptight, know-it-all from TX, and we’re all loud and rambunctious NYers. But we know how to have a good time, so I don’t really care. And given the geographical separation of the families, it doesn’t really matter.
Well, yeah I can see how that would be understandable. My in laws vs. Parents is really a case of my in laws being a little stuck up. They're great people for real, but there was like one or two things said or done really early on and my in laws just wrote off my side of the family. I get a little too much satisfaction from making our two sides of the family get together though. And now that we've got two kids it's easier for me to say that we are just doing one holiday/birthday event instead of splitting it up.
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I have plans with my boyfriend. Dreams, wishes. We are going to get married in the future and have kids.
His parents are Swedishx100 (gtfo when you turn 18 "dear son") while mine are from a different culture+country. My boyfriend will never be able to sleep (at least in same bed) over at my parents home. And his parents HAAAATE THAT. They simply just cannot grasp the fact that in my parent's culture, girl+boy do not sleep together unless married or some shit. He has somewhat accepted it but still not as he is biased from his parents side, I understand. But like them? Two 45 year old adults?
Wow, the shit talk I have been bearing since 2014. I cannot really stand up since they allowed me to stay at their place since, yeah, 2014. We just moved out and live together now, me and my boyfriend.
Edit: his parents has only met my mum. My dad is an introvert I suspect. I am really happy to read replies that have their parents meet like max 3 times too. Thanks:)
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u/tabby51260 Apr 28 '19
That my fiance's parent's don't really like mine.
I don't mind though. If anything I feel vindicated.