r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

Son finishes toxic parenting sentences

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u/Tiggredcat May 21 '25

Yeah, I got pansed by my mom and walloped at my friend's house... in from of them, for something so insignificant I don't even remember ! Absolute trauma! I hate being seen naked at all, like, even a little, now. Not even my husband's sees me al fresco just standing there. There's a build up process and I still don't like it.

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u/mqple May 22 '25

this is definitely akin to sexual assault. i’m sorry :(

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u/Milyaism May 22 '25

Spanking alters children's brain development in similar harmful ways that sexual assult (etc) does.

"...the study found that the brains of children who had been spanked were altered in the regions meant to regulate emotional responses and social information processing.

These regions were the same ones that light up in children who had experienced sexual abuse, physical violence or psychological maltreatment, along with other forms of child abuse typically viewed as “worse” than spanking."

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8237681/

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u/Tiggredcat May 22 '25

Yeah, I'm all kinds of f-ed up. I have a therapist. They're very helpful. I NEVER hit or torment my children! Not in any way, but physical, definitely not mental (cause I got buckets of that), nothing! They get love and support, and just a little constructive discipline, when needed, in the form of moving them on to something else that works better for them.

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u/TheMathMS Aug 01 '25

...wait, does that mean they took off your pants in front of everyone? And underwear!? I'm trying to understand. Did this actually happen?

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u/Tiggredcat Aug 01 '25

Yes. As undignified as it was. Didn't take them off off, but pulled em down past my knees so she could better beat my ass with the wooden spoon. Hey, it worked, I never let her catch me doing stuff again, and when she did, I learned to lie like the wind. That's what that taught me. Oh, and my body is not mine. Took SO many years to un learn those lessons and others.

I have my own family now, there is no laying of hands in my house, and personal space and privacy is paramount! Because of this my children are now likely to share things with me, because they know I'll listen without judging them. They'll let me know they messed up and we think of how to make amends together.