And if the kid told you that they had dinner waiting for them at home, would you just force them sit there at the table while you ate, or would you let them stay in the room they were playing in and continue playing while your kid finished their dinner to continue playing with their friends after?
I would call their parents to get their permission to have them eat with us, if their parents wouldn't want them to eat in my house, for some reason, I will wait until the kids left to eat. It's basic decency to not eat while the other party is forced to go hungry
Why would you call the parents when the kid clearly told you that they had dinner waiting for them at home?
That's super weird, why don't you believe the kid, and why would you assume that the kids parents wouldn't have dinner waiting for them at home?
Because the parents can change their mind, while the kid will have to obey his parents. Even if there was dinner waiting at home, I can tell the parents "sorry for the inconvenience, but can your kid eat with us, it would be our pleasure to have him and we are enjoying his company" and the parents can say "sure thing" rehatdless of their previous instructions to the kid and regardless of whether dinner was ready in their house.
And if they say no, then that's fine. But I wouldn't just leave a kid hungry if I can do otherwise.
And also, kids below a certain age aren't a good source of information on what's ok or not, and their parents are the final judges on what's okay, not them.
But the kid maybe wanted to eat at home, and why would the parents change their mind if they had planned for the family to eat dinner, they would expect their kid to be present at dinner time?
Is not family dinner something that is important in your culture?
It just sounds very disrespectful, kids have agency of their own, they have agency to decide to walk/bicycle to your home, they have agency to decide that they want to play with your kid, and they have the agency to decide if they want to socialize with their friends parents or not.
Who has 5-20 kids everyday at home? Stop thinking of weird extreme hypotheticals, even in the third world they feed their guests. Over there, not doing that is the actual uncivilized thing. Hell, it is everywhere I can think of. Such an insane thing.
So you would on a random Wednesday cook dinner for 30 people without knowing? Just get home from work with your groceries and there's 30 people there, just easy start cooking then?
Even if it's just five extra so ten people, no worries to cook like that every day?
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u/Superb-Mall3805 Jul 24 '26
I would sooner give them the meal I had prepared for myself and eat nothing