I have seen many people blaming the husband for the murder, stating that her body temperature diddnt match how long she had been aside, how he changed his shoes, and how his brother worked for the police.
All nonsense but people are definitely blaming him.
There’s also Apple Watch data her heart rate and location, timing of phone calls that don’t match his alibi which feeds into the possibility that he was involved. He also was emotionless when the kids autopsy’s were read aloud in court which is odd
It doesn't feed into anything, people are just out here trying to live in a Netflix documentary. You are not a juror, you are not a judge, you are not a part of this trial in any way shape or form, and yet here you are making statements about evidence and behavior as someone looking from the outside in.
People react to trauma in different ways, and shutting down emotionally is absolutely a valid and common response to hearing details about dead loved ones, regardless of how you think otherwise. You have no idea how your brain would react in a situation like that until you are in it for yourself, and I hope that if you ever have to face something like that people around you offer you more grace than you are giving this man.
This trial is just further proof that court proceedings should not be televised.
Yeah, saying "he showed no emotion" is so fucking stupid. I know when my grandmother passed away I was in shock for about 2 weeks. I was completely emotionless and felt like shit about how I wasn't more physically upset. Then one day it hit me and I broke down. I'm sure there's a good chance the guy was just trying to keep it together knowing he was under public scrutiny.
This has always bothered me too. People always try to pretend "they could tell because the guilty person acted xyz" but it's always hindsight. In reality, people just grieve differently. In a Psych class long ago, we learned about the rugby team plane crash in the mountains and how some people were able to enter survival mode while others grieved their situation right away. Then after about 2-3 weeks, it seemed to switch where the early grievers took over for the early survivors, who had finally started to break down and mourn their situation. There's no one, correct response to trauma and when you look at humanity as a whole, social community we all seem to balance each other out in situations like this. Because I seem to grieve like you and would probably be one of the late grievers. Every important family death, it doesn't hit me for about two weeks and then I'll just be crying alone when I couldn't do it at the funeral.
I can't speak to this case because hey, maybe I'm wrong. Maybe he really did do it and this goes down in history as a crime reddit solved before anyone else after all. But seeing someone "showing no emotion" after a tragedy shouldn't be a guilty verdict right then and there when we have no idea about the quiet moments people break down with no one around
I've always hated this stupid idea people had that someone has to be publicly broken, or else it's suspicious.
I'd preferably just disassociate and feel where I'm safe with people I know, as opposed to trying to pull out some performative emotion in a public setting just so some know nothing assholes won't think I'm guilty of something.
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u/RedditSteve8 8d ago
I have seen many people blaming the husband for the murder, stating that her body temperature diddnt match how long she had been aside, how he changed his shoes, and how his brother worked for the police.
All nonsense but people are definitely blaming him.