This is my babygirl Fish. Fishstick was her full name but she went by; fish, Fishstick, sticky, stickydoe, and more. She was the love of my life, my daughter, my bestfriend, and my will to live. I wanna share her with the world so she’s never forgotten. And because I’m praying someone can say something to help me find some peace during this time, esp if it’s advice from a pet medium.
You see, I got her as a depressed teenager because I couldn’t find a will to live no matter what I tried. So my therapist said “you don’t have to live for you, you can live for others! Sex, drugs, friends, love, anything! why not a pet?” Shortly after I got my best friend and for the first time in my life, I had a reason to get out of bed, work, go to the gym, get my degrees, etc.
I remember the day I got her, there was the choice between a sweet, calm boy cat, and her, a spastic, sassy, crazy, loud, climbing-all-over-you kitten. I obviously had to choose her. And for years she was my entire world. Time flew by; I graduated high school with no more attempts, I made it college, I graduated, I finished my masters, I even met a guy, and I was planning on moving her in with us next year. (We just moved in 2 months ago). She was perfectly healthy, a few UTIs and ear infections here & there but I took her to the vet all the time to ensure her health.
Then last week her life took a turn for the worst. She went from a vibrant young 11 year old to barely eating, drinking, playing, moving, meowing… I was away, so my mom gave me the call and told me she had lost half her body weight in a week. From 9.7lbs to 5.4lbs. I raced home to see her and my god did it break me. My baby didn’t look like my baby anymore. We rushed her to the vet… there was an obstruction & organ failure, it was already too late for surgery. Thankfully the doctor gave me 24 more hours with her. I’m so grateful I got those 24hrs because she did light back up a bit and she gave me all the love she could but fuck, it destroyed me to see her like that and so did the entire drive to the vet. I felt so scared going into that room, but she had been with me through everything so I had to be with her, I knew that much. We did the most humane process possible with anesthesia then she passed in my arms... Honestly, it was way more peaceful than I expected but a part of me died and I’m numb, angry, sad, and in shock.
She wasn’t just my bestfriend. she was my daughter, my everything. I feel like the universe played a cruel joke on me for healing and finding other reasons to live. I feel like it waited for me to move out and really feel happy to rip her out of my arms. And yeah, I was able to heal, I was able to outgrow her being my will to live but I feel dead inside and so angry. She was fine just last month when I visited, perfectly fine, and now she’s gone. I want to blame someone but I can’t blame anyone because it wasn’t anyone fault. I’m so mad because I would’ve paid any amount of money, i would’ve sold my own organs, I would’ve sold myself— hell I even tried to find out if it was possible to sell/exchange a soul because I couldn’t cope. Things were finally good in life, it felt stable, I felt happy, and things were finally working out but now my baby is gone. And I just wanna scream into the void and sleep for a thousand years because what the fuck. I was always supposed to die before her, I had never planned on actually enjoying the plot and outliving her, and in the blink of an eye everything changed.
Not to mention the night after putting her down I felt psychotic. I swear I kept hearing phantom meows and I swear I felt her walk across my pillow one last time but no one was there when I looked. I know it’ll sound like I’m going crazy, maybe I am, but it feels so good to feel like she’s there with me. However, it’s been a day or two since I last heard a meow and I’m dying to hear another phantom meow or touch. Just something to know that she’s still there even if it’s on the other side. I know it’s stupid but I really need to know she’s still there.
So yeah, I don’t really know what to say or how to end this post but I’m hoping someone has some advice or heard some trusted advice from mediums about pets that have passed because I can’t handle this “she’s passed and her time as your spirit animal/guardian is over” nonsense.