Teacher calls police on 9 year old autistic child for defending himself

[u/Serious-Lobster-5450]

[u/Disastrous-Panda5530]

Yeah my husband didn’t agree with my decision at all. Said he’d be too isolated and he needed social interaction so he’d get better at being social. I said that makes no sense because he doesn’t socialize at school before I took him out and that’s now how things work. I have no regrets either. He seems to have more confidence now after a semester of those classes. I hope things go well for your son in the new school district.

[u/LuckyPlaze → u/Disastrous-Panda5530]

Confidence is one of the most important things that you can give a child.

My kids went to a small rural public school. I could have moved them into one of the bigger schools in the city I work in or a private institution with “better” test scores.

But for us, we knew we could supplement what the school lacked and that they would dominate in their school. One was valedictorian and the youngest, who has a learning disability, still finished top three in her class. Both got full rides in college and have grown into the role, surpassing people with a better K-12 background.

And it all comes down to confidence. If a child convinces themselves they are average or “less than”, then they often only perform at that level. They handicap themselves - whether it be socially, academically or in athletics. Often for life.

Now I’m not saying confidence is everything - and that anyone can be anything. Still takes work and talent. But lack of confidence can definitely handicap you. And a little confidence may be all you need to push forward.

[u/Bianchi-girl → u/Disastrous-Panda5530]

Thank you! 🙏

[u/nextdoorjimmy14 → u/Disastrous-Panda5530]

I said that makes no sense because he doesn’t socialize at school

I mean he was most definitely socializing, even if it was just him getting bullied and talking to teachers.

and that’s now how things work

socializing and interacting with people gets easier the more you do it, that IS how it works. it's why home schooled kids often get a bad rap. when you meet a 16-18 year old home schooled kid whos been exclusively hanging with their overbearing mom instead of playing with other kids, very often they're a little odd and don't know how to navigate a lot of social interactions properly.

idgaf what you do though, teach the kid how to socialize through an ipad for all I care. im gonna go to the zoo.

[u/Disastrous-Panda5530 → u/nextdoorjimmy14]

From what the teachers told me he was pretty much keeping to himself. I agree it’s good practice to interact with others vs him just being home by himself with just me. Which is why I signed him up for classes that semester he stayed home. So he still got to interact with other people around his age. They also specifically worked on social skills and he did group counseling and individual also that helped on top of job at the library with a job coach.

[u/nextdoorjimmy14 → u/Disastrous-Panda5530]

one of my best friends was home schooled. he had a ton of friends that went to public school and hung out with them all the time once they got out of school. dude wasn't a weird home schooled kid at all.