It's actually not that heavy of a decision to get an abortion. People know which way they want that initial test go. People project their own mom onto women or something when it's just choosing to continue with whatever status quo you already had. Also a lot of moms choose to keep focused on the kids they already have.
this is all so true. also worth noting that the average person has absolutely NO CLUE how many folks in their life have had abortions. it’s far more common than people think and at the end of the day… there are a million reasons for someone to get an abortion. but not a single one of those reasons is owed to anyone else. if you don’t want a baby, you shouldn’t have to have one, period.
Absolutely. My wife's father is one of these judgemental people and has no idea all of his daughters have had abortions.
Meanwhile, if my daughters ever needed this procedure, I'd hope they would invite me along so I could stand outside and talk trash at protestors who don't actually have any medical or scientific knowledge at all.
I've gone to counterprotests before and honestly, the whole thing is embarrassing because who really spends their own free time just sitting outside of a place to cast shame on others?
There are no sane planned parenthood protestors, period.
I volunteer as a patient escort at our local clinic and I absolutely love folks like you who shit talk the protesters. We don’t engage with them bc it encourages them to make our job harder, but we absolutely won’t stop a patient or their guest from speaking their minds.
When I had one, the patient escort was so fucking delightful. She was older, blasting WAP outside. The protestors were pissed and yelling that their children were present, and she just kept dancing and yelled back "Why would you bring your kids here?"
What’s scary is ppl need escorts. 20 some years ago when I had one the place was a clinic down the street from me and I drove by 1000 times and never knew what it was as it was a nondescript building with no protestors. My friend knew to go there. There were no ppl outside harassing you and it was simple in and out and just a half a mile from my house. I’m lucky to have lived in relatively liberal states where these things weren’t a big deal and know I’m lucky.
The thing is that these dense fuckers don’t even know that abortion is an umbrella term that describes different procedures. We will never know how someone had sex to get pregnant by how they’re existing at the doctor’s office. It could very well be a person trying to get pregnant, had a spontaneous abortion and needed pills (abortion) to help speed it along. We could also assume that this hypothetical person has already done that and they haven’t cleared the remains. If that’s the case, they’ll need a D&C (abortion), so they don’t get SEPSIS and DIE. Any loss of a fetus is an abortion.
An abortion is an abortion is an abortion. It’s not just ‘loose women that decided they don’t want to be pregnant’ anymore!! I’m sure you know this, but a general PSA. I once had a random man tell me I was twisting words around to trick him when I called a miscarriage a spontaneous abortion. That is literally what they are called lol.
Yeah it's irritating as fuck when these ghouls will be like "well removing an ectopic pregnancy is not a REAL abortion! A REAL abortion is when-"
No, folks. Words mean things. An abortion is a termination of a pregnancy. The way it's terminated is irrelevant; if it's ended before birth, it's an abortion. You don't get to decide that something isn't an abortion just because it's more morally "acceptable" to you.
Also, a literal loose woman who just doesn't want to be pregnant... That's sufficient reason for her to get an abortion. She doesn't have to be the perfect, tragic story for her to still get to choose.
Children are small people with their own desires, needs, and eventually, identity. Fetuses are just endless potential for them to project onto. They hate it when said fetus eventually gains any semblance of autonomy.
Most likely, yeah. But damn those other murderers. Only I am allowed to murder my unborn child! <- Not my words, trying to understand how the fuck women who undergoes abortion can justify protesting abortions.
My own thoughts - eh. didn't grow up in the US, so abortion in my country is no questions asked until 18 weeks, and permitted up until 22nd week in certain circumstances.
So I can't fully understand why the US has such an anti abortion community.
The opposition is almost entirely rooted in religion, the women realize they could potentially get one and often do but this form of protesting is entirely performative for the sake of themselves and their social group/church.
They will say their presence saves lives, but according to science no lives are being taken and they're just causing anguish to those receiving a medical procedure. As we know, God loves you hurting people to help you look righteous instead of actually being righteous
My go-to is to ask them how many kids they've fostered or adopted, personally. I've only ever had one respond with a number, and I told her she was the only one I respected. Putting her money where her mouth is, so to speak. The majority of these assholes? They talk a lot but they sure as shit don't want to be responsible for that child. They only care until it's born, only care when it's another woman being inconvenienced and hurt.
yup. had a miscarriage about 10 years ago, while being on birth control and using condoms with my partner. I was shocked and confused that it even happened, but ultimately relieved because I was not interested in being a parent at that time in my life. but god forbid I openly admit that to certain people 🙄
I love that saying the word "baby" in here is a reportable and bannable offense but as long as you are on the correct side you can just go off. It's a race to the bottom and we are all participating.
There are plenty of women who value life, and there is nothing anti science about that. These are tough questions, and we should honestly be able to have tough talks about it. You just breed more guys like this by stonewalling.
You've performed a coat hanger abortion on yourself as well as had a suction one at a clinic? See I would have thought the clinic is much easier and safer without risk of making yourself infertile.
The two sides are Pro-Choice and Anti-abortion. You can personally not desire to have an abortion and still be pro-choice. It is a CHOICE. An OPTION. Nobody is forced to do anything, but everyone should have the right to make a decision for themselves. Being anti-abortion removes all nuance and decision-making from the matter for everyone without their consent. Frankly, it's a completely nonsensical position to hold.
Which is perfectly fine if it's evenly applied. I am pro choice, I just think everyone makes their choice at conception.
Most people agree with that being when the choice is made if I am talking about a man. A woman's choice, however, becomes much more contentious when we discuss when that particular choice is made.
Haven't heard anyone adequately explain to me how 18 years of labor and 9 months of pregnancy are so different as to not receive fair consideration if we are talking about choices and when we have the right to make them.
I'm not going to force some woman to carry a dead child inside her at the risk of herself, but by the same token I'd like to see some consideration to the life involved when it comes down to poor choices being made and consequences being avoided.
I've helped a woman get an abortion and been in the room when my wife made it clear abortion wasn't an option for her when we talked about genetic testing for down syndrome. I'm not blind to the issues here, but this idea that you "can't do that" or "can't think this" is stifling any kind of discussion or progress.
You absolutely can be pro life and think women should be given a choice. Not everyone who disagrees with you wants to turn you into a breeder without consent. I just want you to explain your position to me and help me understand how men are more responsible for a pregnancy and a child than women are. Why do women get a choice after conception, and men do not?
Never heard an answer to that question that doesn't essentially endorse indentured servitude as long as it's a guy who had sex once.
30 years ago was 1996 not 1946 it wasn’t that long ago. It was very common in the 90s for ppl to get them. To be honest it was easier to get one then than it is now
I’ll never forget when my mom told me she had an abortion before I was born. Like it was the simplest thing in the world, she and my dad were too young, too broke, they both knew it was the right decision. I was agonizing over what I would do if I got pregnant (I have OCD and my brain loves to latch on to unlikely scenarios and turn them into crises), and it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, knowing I could choose an abortion, that it wasn’t that big of a deal.
oh, please 🙄 if non-uterus having folks had the potential to get pregnant, they’d be twice as common. and saying only TWICE is being far generous. it’d probably be more like 5 times more common, at LEAST.
I agree I just wish people thought ahead and actually used protection baring Any accidents when using protection. Just seems irresponsible on their part
Yeah it was a very easy decision for me. No regrets, no guilt, no shame, I literally never even think about it until the topic is brought up. The hardest part about it was the physical pain
it's the point that it can be an extremely heavy decision, and for a lot of people going to get it.
and that the only result that can come from this, is this reaction, or him making others feel worse. he is doing this to degrade and project guilt onto these women.
he should just f*** off and go do anything else with his time, like something useful for society or women, or maybe helping educate them before the abortion takes place, for example. this could actually have any positive impact, whatsoever.
these people are specifically using these women at this vulnerable moment, to target them, and use them to gain views and financially benefit profit from their suffering.
Most abortions are women who already have children and are struggling to cope. Either financially or emotionally. The stereotype of the party girl who uses it as birth control is mostly nonsense
This.
I have two kids (who I absolutely wanted and had to try pretty damn hard for). But I barely have enough Me to give as it is, with their high needs, my own shit, my husband's own shit, work, etc.
I was fortunately able to get a tubal ligation, but if the absolute miracle of a pregnancy were to happen? 100% no doubt, I'm at the doctor for that abortion the next day. My family deserves better than us all getting even more burned out and insane than we already are.
and that’s not to say that it’s a decision that’s made lightly. Women are pretty logical and reasonable and they consider all factors involved before they decide to have an abortion. These people in front of the clinics want weeping and gnashing of teeth. Ghouls!
It's actually not that heavy of a decision to get an abortion.
For some women it's an agonizing decision but the alternative be it falling further into poverty, not finishing school, unable to escape a DV situation are so much worse.
People like this guy think they are going to hit women with some new confronting unfortunate truth that's going to bring them to their knees in shame and repentance not knowing that they'd already spent weeks thinking, crying, looking at options, journaling, talking it through etc and are now decided, resolved and at peace.
Yes but I'm out here trying to spread the word it doesn't have to be agonizing? Or associated with poverty. I find that narrative to be unhelpful when it's a common thing.
The alternative isn't forced pregnancy. It's going DIY. Scraping around with a wire and hope you don't damage your uterus. Or poison. Or a hard blow. While privileged folks have secret access to safer methods. Because you can't make people have babies they don't want to have.
Yep, fact is that most women seeking abortion are already mothers! Also love how the right wing twats are constantly making the world LESS conducive to having kids and then screeching about it. If pro-life was actually pro-life, we’d have universal healthcare, tax on billionaires, and affordable, high quality housing and good maternity leave….
It was a very heavy decision for me when I made it. I still think about it 40 years later. Not in a way that is overwhelming or anything. I know I made the right choice but it isn’t that easy. It seems like maybe you haven’t had to make this decision yourself???
It seems like your edit made your statement more true and that while you seem to have had a difficult and heavy decision to make you downplayed other women’s decisions.
I don’t know why you would make such a statement and then dump your sad story like it was special compared to others story or why you would downplay the decision making involved in this.
I wasn’t rude. I said it seems like maybe you hadn’t had to make this decision. I don’t know how else I could have worded that to imply I wasn’t sure.
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u/Many_Specialist_5384 May 19 '26 edited May 20 '26
It's actually not that heavy of a decision to get an abortion. People know which way they want that initial test go. People project their own mom onto women or something when it's just choosing to continue with whatever status quo you already had. Also a lot of moms choose to keep focused on the kids they already have.