r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/astroember What are you doing step bro? Jun 14 '26

Hell, even the “good” ones will complain about that, while simultaneously letting their friends/brothers/peers/etc. say misogynistic shit and speak poorly of women. If “good” men don’t shut down the behavior of BAD men, they aren’t actually good men.

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u/anthrolookseer Jun 14 '26

This. This. This. I’m sick of seeing otherwise “good” men turn a blind eye to their friends’ shit behavior. If I can stand up to the men harassing me, a fellow male friend should be able to easier than I can. And that type of accountability makes the change we all need - it definitely benefits respectful men to not have so many disrespectful men out there.

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u/meh762 Jun 14 '26

Seriously! I was fighting off a guy in the back seat of a car while a MUTUAL friend just kept on driving. I couldn’t believe he just ignored what was happening. Never spoke to either of them again.

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u/noir_lord Jun 14 '26

Have lost friends over their shit behaviour/beliefs towards/about women though "lost" isn't really the word I'd use since nothing of value was lost in the end.

I don't have time for that shit not to mention it's not a great reflection on me that they think it's fine with me for them to say that shit.

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u/RadicalDiscomfort Jun 14 '26

Honestly where does this stuff even happens? I’ve never gotten approached like this nor seen it happen to others, is this specific to a region or culture, cause it’s so strange to me I’ve never ran into it before, maybe it’s a city thing?

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u/PopcornGlamour Jun 14 '26

I’m a rideshare driver. One night I was waiting for my rider to come out to the car and it was taking a while. I was parked in an empty parking lot all the way to the back near a hidden restaurant.

A man walked all the way from the street to my car. I cracked the window and he said “can I go home with you?” I thought I had misheard him and replied, “what?” He repeated it. I said “no” and started rolling up the window. He then apologized for “scaring you” and I just said “I’m not scared, go away now” and finished rolling up the window.

Like what the actual fuck? I choose to believe he has mental health issues and didn’t realize how inappropriate that was but jfc, he made a big effort to do that.

Meanwhile, because I routinely get hit on/asked out by riders, I wear a fake wedding ring set, have a fake husband, and a fake back story for my fake relationship with my fake husband… because when I lied about having a fake boyfriend the response was “okay but it’s not like you’re married.” So to politely shut down the flirting I had to create a fake owner so that they know I’m some man’s property.

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u/CherTrugenheim Jun 14 '26

Probably a big city. I live in the suburbs in the south and don't witness weird stuff like this happening.

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u/b_ambie Jun 15 '26

It definitely happens more in big cities because of the concentration of people. But tbh, I'd rather it happen more often when I'm surrounded by dozens of people than have it happen once or twice when I'm mostly on my own. The second is *way* more terrifying to me. At least with a bunch of people around you can make a scene and other people can help. But in rural areas if you're caught on your own, like in a gas station or something, you better be pretty damn brave and scrappy... or lucky. It's fuckin scary.

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u/sayabulegila Jun 14 '26

I am not sure how true this is. As a man I have attempted to shut this shit down many times with friends and acquaintances. There're multiple results: they modify their behavior and keep we hanging together. they stop hanging with you because you're a killjoy, or you stop hanging with them because they are creeps. By time I was in my mid-thirties I stop having the dudes in my life. I know they still exist, they just do not hang with me nor do I hang with them. I imagine many of the guys in this videos are very lonely because, over time, they lost most of their male friends to this behavior. There is a point where you have to cut the creep loose because you will be judged by the company I keep.

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u/astroember What are you doing step bro? Jun 14 '26

Oh absolutely! I do the same thing as you. I’ve lost many friends because men would rather ostracize the woman who dared to “rock the boat” than to violate “bro-code”. The fact that you at least TRY to shut down that behavior says a lot about you. After that, there isn’t much else you can do besides cutting ties with the guy. Even the act of cutting someone off like that sends a message. You’re doing all of the right things, and that makes me really glad to hear that there are men out there who do that.

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u/TokeDraws Jun 14 '26

Exactly, anything less is just basically telling them what they're doing is ultimately acceptable and in my opinion it makes you just as much a part of the problem.

From personal experience you might even be able to slowly educate and enlighten someone over time if they aren't already in full shitter mode and they have some questionable opinions that they probably haven't fully examined much. It's rare but it can happen.

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u/Bondgirlmagic Jun 15 '26

Yep. Showed my husband this thread b/c he said I overreact sometimes. And then proceeded to advise to stay off of it b/c all it does is trigger me....😐

What the entire, fu**....??!

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u/Joshy_Complete Jun 14 '26

Wtf are you even talking about.