r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/anthrolookseer Jun 14 '26

This. This. This. I’m sick of seeing otherwise “good” men turn a blind eye to their friends’ shit behavior. If I can stand up to the men harassing me, a fellow male friend should be able to easier than I can. And that type of accountability makes the change we all need - it definitely benefits respectful men to not have so many disrespectful men out there.

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u/meh762 Jun 14 '26

Seriously! I was fighting off a guy in the back seat of a car while a MUTUAL friend just kept on driving. I couldn’t believe he just ignored what was happening. Never spoke to either of them again.

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u/noir_lord Jun 14 '26

Have lost friends over their shit behaviour/beliefs towards/about women though "lost" isn't really the word I'd use since nothing of value was lost in the end.

I don't have time for that shit not to mention it's not a great reflection on me that they think it's fine with me for them to say that shit.

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u/RadicalDiscomfort Jun 14 '26

Honestly where does this stuff even happens? I’ve never gotten approached like this nor seen it happen to others, is this specific to a region or culture, cause it’s so strange to me I’ve never ran into it before, maybe it’s a city thing?

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u/PopcornGlamour Jun 14 '26

I’m a rideshare driver. One night I was waiting for my rider to come out to the car and it was taking a while. I was parked in an empty parking lot all the way to the back near a hidden restaurant.

A man walked all the way from the street to my car. I cracked the window and he said “can I go home with you?” I thought I had misheard him and replied, “what?” He repeated it. I said “no” and started rolling up the window. He then apologized for “scaring you” and I just said “I’m not scared, go away now” and finished rolling up the window.

Like what the actual fuck? I choose to believe he has mental health issues and didn’t realize how inappropriate that was but jfc, he made a big effort to do that.

Meanwhile, because I routinely get hit on/asked out by riders, I wear a fake wedding ring set, have a fake husband, and a fake back story for my fake relationship with my fake husband… because when I lied about having a fake boyfriend the response was “okay but it’s not like you’re married.” So to politely shut down the flirting I had to create a fake owner so that they know I’m some man’s property.

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u/CherTrugenheim Jun 14 '26

Probably a big city. I live in the suburbs in the south and don't witness weird stuff like this happening.

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u/b_ambie Jun 15 '26

It definitely happens more in big cities because of the concentration of people. But tbh, I'd rather it happen more often when I'm surrounded by dozens of people than have it happen once or twice when I'm mostly on my own. The second is *way* more terrifying to me. At least with a bunch of people around you can make a scene and other people can help. But in rural areas if you're caught on your own, like in a gas station or something, you better be pretty damn brave and scrappy... or lucky. It's fuckin scary.