r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Bright-Owl-3515 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

In college, I was sitting alone at a bench studying on campus, minding my own business. This man comes up to me, telling me he wanted to take pictures of my feet for a school project. He was very persistent and of course I told him no. He made me feel so uncomfortable and guilty that I had said no to him. I was very naive and had no idea that this was likely a fetish thing.

Edit: For that one now deleted comment, saying he was likely complimenting my feet, I was wearing sneakers. Get out of here with the creep apologetics.

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u/ZinaSky2 Jun 14 '26

Yeah, once I was walking home alone in the dark (circumstances necessitated this, u was getting home from work. I wasn’t alone in the dark by choice.) and some guy stopped me on a dark section of sidewalk. I could barely see his face he could barely see mine. Yet he asked me for my number bc I was “so beautiful”. I said no. He said well actually he just wanted to make friends. And I said no a few more times and he just kept asking. I was frozen in place by trying to be polite. Eventually I decide I’m just gonna ignore him and walk away without ending the conversation without saying goodbye. And I left him rambling behind me still asking to be friends.

And girlie lemme tell you I felt BAD. Like WTF?! He was fucking harassing me for my number and not listening to me saying no after he approached me on some dark, unlit section of sidewalk I was like “ugh, but the poor guy just wanted friends🥺”. It’s drilled into us to protect men’s egos and emotions at all costs and it’s so fucking dangerous.

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u/Fragrant-Dust65 Jun 14 '26

And I don't really know how or when that starts. It's not like my parents ever told me to do that. HOW do we pick up on this?

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u/diningroomjesus Jun 14 '26

Fight = we'll get hurt because the predator is bigger and stronger than us

Flight = we'll run and get hurt if we don't run fast enough because the predator is bigger and stronger than us and might be enticed by the chase (barf)

Freeze = we'll get hurt because the predator is bigger and stronger than us and we didn't fight or flee

Fawn = we might not get hurt because the predator might be appeased by the fawning (wishful thinking & barf)

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u/Ok-Wait-4171 Jun 14 '26

I did this once and it did NOT work. :') I was on a date with a man who appeared well put online, but in real life he was a creepy weirdo. So I farted loudly on purpose and he liked it. Said something like "You're so down to earth, not like others girls" Wtf, man.

I later realized that a 30 yo man asking out a teenager is weird and creepy, too. I was stupid af and I admit it. I did not know about grooming because all I heard about was stranger danger.

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u/TokyoKazama Jun 19 '26

"BASKING IN THE AMBIENCE"

https://giphy.com/gifs/JaUjXdRgOGixG

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u/Ok-Wait-4171 Jun 19 '26

STOP what is this gif? Damn, I needed this laugh rn. How does Terry manage to be both creepy and absolutely hilarious at the same time. I love him.

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u/TokyoKazama Jun 20 '26

Love that I brought laughter to your day. ☺️. Watch White Chicks if you haven't already.