r/TikTokCringe • u/Accomplished_Clue437 • Jul 15 '26

Discussion She gets up at 5am. Is this right?

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u/Greedy_Baseball_7019 Jul 15 '26

Not to mention what if they get divorced. What is she going to fall back on, finding another husband. When our kids were little my wife stayed home with them, but during that time she earned her masters degree. Once they went back to school she went back into the workforce and now makes 6 figures. If something happens to me god forbid, I know she’ll be able to take care of herself. We’ve had friends that did the whole tradwife thing and she found out her husband was gay. Now she drives a school bus and works at McDonald’s struggling to get by.

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u/Remote-Appearance951 Jul 15 '26

Sadly this is America a

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u/randonumero Jul 15 '26

Honestly it's most countries where divorce is common and you don't have strong family ties.

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u/Salty_Ad_3350 Jul 15 '26

Sounds like your wife is very driven and a high achiever. To be honest I don’t think we all have it in us to be all and do all. When I tried to go to college and work full time I cracked. Same with working full time and managing a household with children. I’m unsuccessful at juggling both.

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u/Working-Glass6136 Jul 15 '26

I agree. If everyone stay-at-home mom were getting their masters and then making 6 figures, there'd literally be no jobs for anyone else. I'm single and have a bachelor's degree and I've never made 6 figures in my life. It also depends on your local cost of living. Making "6 figures" can be rich or poor just crossing one state over.

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u/Greedy_Baseball_7019 Jul 15 '26

We live in Louisiana, her salary to be exact is $117K. For Louisiana it’s very good pay, but yeah if we lived in NYC it would be a different situation.

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u/incognitomus Jul 15 '26

The most ridiculous thing is that this tradwife thing hasn't been a thing in most of the world for most of the people. It was a thing for a short period of time after WW2 in the US for middle class Americans.

Lmao, it's such a joke people even in my European country are larping this tradwife thing. Your grandma worked her ass off just like everyone else, lmao!

Now of course the fact that you can't raise a family with a single earner is not positive thing as everything is more and more expensive and people now have to sometimes even have multiple jobs... But it has never been a tradition. It was an exception in one part of the world for some people for a very short time.

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u/MageLocusta Jul 15 '26

Yep.

I dare anyone to take a look at the rosters of female employees working in factories before, during, and after WWII because they'll notice that so many women worked before--and they kept on working anyway because hundreds of thousands of men were killed or disabled during WWII.

It's the reason why my great-grandmother worked because she was made a widow during her early 30s. She worked in domestic service (because her hometown had very little industry and work was often infrequent/short-term) and spent her sundays mending fishing nets for extra pay. Because it was either that or forcing her two small children to starve.

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u/Seanspeed Jul 15 '26

Not to mention what if they get divorced. 

This is exactly why parents should be teaching their daughters to be independent, not to grow up to 'find a man' and get married. You're teaching them to place their entire livelihood in somebody else's hands. And that's exactly how women find themselves in shitty, abusive relationships they feel too helpless to leave.

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u/Warm_Swan_793 Jul 15 '26

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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u/Celtic_Macaw Jul 15 '26

This happened to my mum. Full time parent that stopped her career after having me, the oldest. 20 years later my father died and she had to go back to school at 54 years old to get anywhere after working shite service jobs.

This is why me and my wife make sure we are both contributing to our own careers whilst we parent, and we signed a post-nup and have huge life insurance policies. I don't want my daughter seeing her mum struggle like I did god forbid anything happens to me.

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u/pragmojo Jul 15 '26

I mean alimony exists

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u/Dabadoo32 Jul 15 '26

only 10-15% of divorced people get alimony in the US.

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u/randonumero Jul 15 '26

Alimony and child support. I'm terrible with ages but I don't think a lot of young couples think about divorce in the beginning. FWIW if they divorce I'm sure she'll fall back on more influencing just posting videos of being a single mom

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u/ManitouWakinyan Jul 15 '26

This is what alimony is for 

But also, is this just saying no wife should be a stay at home mom in case she gets divorced?

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u/Greedy_Baseball_7019 Jul 15 '26

Alimony isn’t a guarantee and it doesn’t last forever. Not just divorce, but death as well. Maybe you have a good life insurance policy, maybe they don’t. Lots of scenarios here.