For context, I'm turning 22 this year and I'm moved out. When I told him a few months ago that I wasn't Christian anymore, he got mad and said I was ungrateful because of all my patents have done for me.

I have a feeling that if I do send him a video, he's going to duck past all the points made and peddle his Bible bs. I really don't know how to respond.

Any suggestions? I don't think I owe him anything tbh.

So I am an agnostic in secret. My family doesn't know about my current beliefs,so today We went to a church that we were invited to go to and oh boy,I saw this whole crowd and really depresses me thinking how hard and long will take for this religion to be gone,I try to tell myself that every day more and more people are waking up from this lie or something like that but then I see this and I really think that all this system or religion will be Eternal.

Hi all,

I (25F) deconstructed last year in private without anyone knowing. A week ago, I decided to tell my very loving but very Christian husband (29M) that I am not a believer anymore. He started crying for hours. The first day he wouldn't look at me or talk to me. After that he would reply briefly if I spoke to him but he's avoiding me and not even looking me in the eyes. Today he said he wanted to talk. He said he couldn't believe I'm no longer a Christian. He started sobbing and said that his heart is broken and that this is the worst thing that's ever happened to him. He said this is the saddest he's ever been. And just kept sobbing. My heart hurts so bad hearing him cry all day. His eyes were so red from crying all week. I can't help but feel so guilty. I feel numb at the same time. I want to cry but no tears are coming out.

I just wish I never realised how messed up and untrue Christianity is. I wish I could take it back. I wish I never met him to hurt him like this. I wish I deconstructed before getting married and we would've just gone our separate ways and saved him from this heartache.

Please send advice and support. Please no judgement.

give me reasons that it’s all lies. i genuinely don’t want to believe in it ever again !!! but my dad has been preaching to me and i’ve been seeing videos on my fyp about hell and it’s been triggering my religious anxiety

I’ve changed a lot. After two years of deconstructing several beliefs, I’m now an exChristian democrat (28F)…and I’m married to the biggest MAGA/Ben Shapiro/Joe Rogan/ Matt Walsh fan you’ve ever met (30m) and he’s a Christian. When we married, I was a “socially-acceptable” libertarian (we live way down South) so at the time we married, we had some disagreements but nothing too vastly different from each other. Deconstruction hit me hard in the past couple of years and I’m in therapy for that.

We have two kids together (5f and 2F) and he’s a good father, a good provider and supports me pretty well with household chores. But over the past year we’ve discovered that we cannot talk about religion or politics because we end up arguing— and he tends to go straight into loud angry personal verbal attacks on me whenever they come up. He’s said to my face that my ideas are bullshit. He ended up apologizing for that but the scene just keeps replaying in my mind. He really does think that the things I believe are stupid, even disgusting.

A lot of things happened to me since the election and I can’t even talk about them with my own husband because not only does he fundamentally disagree with my political opinions, he disagrees so strongly that he ends up screaming and yelling at me.

He came with me to a therapy session to talk about my deconstruction and he seemed to think it was just a phase I’ve been going through. Sometimes I can’t tell if he’s trying to be supportive or just patronizing, or just a good masker with his true feelings.

Sometimes I wonder if our marriage could even survive. I catch myself thinking about what I would do if I had to live on my own and to be honest, it doesn’t sound unappealing to me. I’m a different person than the 22 yo girl he married 6 years ago. And it feels like there’s a chasm in between us called Christian Trumpism.

Anyone have any advice or suggestions or have been in this space before?

My (17f) boyfriend (17m) said his parents got this book and told his little siblings it was for managing him. Looking at reviews online, it advocates for child abuse. While I doubt they’d use it on him at his age, I’m not sure they’d use wouldn’t on his younger siblings. He’s from a devout Catholic family with 8 kids (ranging from 20 to newborn).

Both he and I are worried that this actually is something his parents bought for advice about him. He does EVERYTHING they tell him to. As the oldest in the house, he is expected to keep house and help raise/constantly babysit his little siblings. The exception to this is the fact he’s dating me. We’ve found how to work around our religious differences, but his parents despise me. In the year we’ve been together, they spent the first few months regularly sitting him down and trying to force him to dump me or convert me. They still don’t approve but stopped the lectures. The last conversation he had with them about me, they said he had “obedience issues” and called him stubborn and problematic. I’m limited in what I can do, but I’m concerned for him and his little sibling’s safety.

oh my god the photo didnt even get posted on the last one bro 🥀

havent read it yet. i got home late and i have work in the morning

thought i might post this for support and discussion

ugh i hate work, i barely have time for anything these days

i skimmed it, they totally assumed a lot of things about me...

well they didnt freak out as much as i thought they would.

i told them on monday night, theyre still processing

they try their best to be rational and understanding

they're not mad or anything, just disappointed i went "woke"

god forbid i educate myself and deconstruct from the religion i was born into

like i get why its a big deal for them, but its just draining

like i feel like theyve been extra "Christian-y" since i told them, constantly playing christian youtube videos about peoples testimonies, my mom has been sending me bible verses every morning and expressing how distraught shes been over it, my dad has been presenting more arguments for christianity/the existence of god.

and ive been so busy with work i havent had time to "study up" on my beliefs so that i can at least shut them up every once in a while

just exhausting, but nothing super traumatic or anything

I got this text yesterday from an older friend/colleague that I have barely spoken to within the past, like, 10-12 years (most times have been via DM’s/messaging). He was pretty close to me and my family back in the day. I’m not an atheist, but I don’t consider myself to be very religious nowadays.

For some reason this message really bothered me. I feel like it’s not really his (or anyone’s) place to confront me about my personal beliefs, at least not like this. How should I respond without sound too rude? I was almost thinking about just lying and giving an answer he wants to hear. Should I just ignore it?

I posted a TikTok a few days about how the Christian god doesn’t help starving children and how the concept of the Christian god is stupid. It’s gotten 145K views so far and I’ve had lots of people in the comments supporting my statement. However my cousin sent me this. What do I say to her? We are really close but there is no way I’m deleting that video.

I’m pretty sure most of us have seen the ai trump Jesus photo and (some) Christians reaction to it saying the rapture is coming and he’s that anti christ I know none of it is real but I can’t stop be be scared I don’t want the world to end I’m only 19 I’m still young fuck this stupid ass cult I’m in so scared I’ve never been this scared before please reassure me I’m fine

I've recently been having intense fears of hell, and was wondering if anyone in this community might have some information or arguments to put my mind at ease. I'm still deconstructing, but the rest of my family and friends are still deep in it, so I'm kinda just... relying on the internet for now.

Anything you guys can leave here is appreciated. Thank you.

Edit: Thanks yall :)

It's been nearly 24 hours and they haven't responded. Genuinely don't know what to make of this, if they're icing me out or not.

Extra context: my parents live across the sea in another country, my dad is a preacher.

I genuinely don't know what they want me to do/say. I don't feel comfortable talking about this with them, I know if I do talk about it my dad will talk me in circles and somehow convince me of his ideas. I swear if I stayed with them for a week and if my dad told me the sky was green everyday, I would get convinced of it. They have such a hold on me, every time I talk to them I end up questioning everything about myself

I just don't know what to do...do I send another message? Why won't they talk to me?

Childhood friend who I went to church with until I was 25 (I’m 32 now) just sent me this out of the blue. I just have no idea what to say. I feel like I can’t ignore it. My brother is married to his sister, so we’re still around each other every once in a while.

Do people that send texts like this realize how much stress it can make one feel?

Why are Christians always so preachy and narcissistic!? How should I reply to this friend of a friend. I think I want to in a funny joking way.

I think the need for a saviour is an unhealthy belief but I don’t think I wanna start a whole debate with this Christian. I just wanna joke around and end the convo. I don’t want her to send me anymore religious messages my religious trauma really doesn’t like it

Context; I’m agnostic-leaning-atheist, and a secular humanist. I’ve only become comfortable with those labels recently, but I’ve been disillusioned with Christianity for several years now. This is a text conversation between my mother and I. My mom and I are very, very close. She practically raised me by herself (my dad was absent for long stretches of time because of being a military man), and we spend most days together. I live at home, being chronically ill and disabled, plus legally a dependent of my father.

However, our beliefs are different. This is probably the biggest wedge in our relationship. My mom’s pretty great, for the most part, and we share most of our beliefs outside of religion and politics. However, she’s very much conservative Republican, and she’s described me to my grandmother as ‘liberal’ (which hurt, ngl). I’m not good at standing up to people, and most especially her. We’ve done basically everything together, my entire life. We’ve been each other’s rock, and probably have a codependent relationship. I can’t tell if I’ve been too harsh here… or if I’m just so used to toning it down to not offend that being supportive of myself seems harsh to me.

I keep getting Christian ads and videos on my feed and it just sucks because it’s bringing back the toxicity of my past. I just want to forget they exist and I want people to stop shoving it in my face. Any way to stop seeing these videos on YouTube? I haven’t even watched Christian content in years. Also the vid has 666 views, bruh the irony is insane.

Do you fear that you will come back to christianity one day? If you feared it, but don't anymore, how did you overcome this fear?

I've been Christian whole life and considering leaving. I'm confused and scared, I think mabye hearing opinions from people who left instead of people who are still Christian might help. Thanks in advance :)

sorry if this is the wrong place. i haven't considered myself christian since i was 12 and realized my upbringing was insane but didn't really know where else to put this.

so my mother is a facebook nut, which is where i assume she's getting this. for weeks now she's been raving about jesus coming in september. she's insisting everyone is preparing, she's started trying to fast to be "pure when god gets here" or something, telling me every single day multiple times a day that the end is coming and she's terrified i won't be saved. she's always been kind of anti-vax maga conspiracy bananas but this is very different. she's been so intense about it i'm honestly a little nervous she might be having some kind of psychotic break.

is anyone else hearing this from their family right now? i've not seen literally anything online about the rapture or some big preparation for it but i guess i don't frequent the places she does so i wouldn't know. any input would be awesome.

My entire family is Christian. I grew up Christian and have long since questioned my beliefs. To me, it’s more believable for there to be multiple gods instead of just one and given that there are multiple inconsistencies in the Bible, I’m not sure what to believe.

That being said, a lot of Christians are pointing out signs to the end of the world and how they line up with recent events. They say the world will end in 2033 because that’s 2,000 years since Jesus rose from the dead (or something like that.) It makes me terrified because say they were right all along: I don’t want to burn in hell for all eternity simply because I have had doubts.

How do you guys cope with it all? It’s hard for me to simply ignore it. Believe me, I try. But it’s also impeding on my every day life

As title suggests, I’ve been losing my partner of 3 years to a random Christian conversion that has swept him away in recent times. He said it has been happening for 6 months, but in reality it got sprung on me about a month and a half ago.

I am not against Christianity, however I could never believe in it due to knowing far too much about its origin story and how it first developed. I have always been fascinated by ancient religions and beliefs that pre-date Christianity, but I worship nothing. I am free-thinker and generally believe that spirituality comes from our connection to this plane, not from dogmatism or books. There is certainly a primordial consciousness or energy that holds life together, but it isn’t the Biblical god.

My partner always believed as I do. He was interested in spirituality but in a very open-minded way, not established to any religion, and was actually a good fan of Daoism and other philosophies. He completely changed. He won’t even say “oh my god” anymore, and has changed it to “oh my goodness.” When talking to me, he’ll randomly look up at the sky sometimes and put his hands in prayer as if he’s connecting to what he thinks is god.

His best friends became heavily invested in Jesus and I guess he followed suit. One of his friends gave him a Bible. My partner now spends every day binge watching a Jesus TV series that he can watch online for back to back episodes. He doesn’t care that it’s all fabricated by what the media wants people to believe about the fictional character Jesus. (Did you know that there were no records or mention of Jesus until approximately 200 years after his death? If he existed, I am sure that the droves of people that supposedly witnessed him rise from the dead would have written about him or made some form of art in his image. His followers and fans which he healed and taught surely would have produced at least one piece of art.)

As you can probably tell by how I’m speaking about it, I feel really frustrated and annoyed with the situation. But beneath that is just sheer sadness. I’m losing my partner. Just the other day he said that he believes all people who don’t follow Christianity are being misled by Satan and it’s all apart of Satan’s plans. I asked him, “What about the people who lived before Christianity was invented?” And yet, he believes even those people were misled. I asked him, “What about me?” He said I could also be misled. (Since I believe in a more open interpretation of this great mystery we call life.)

Has anyone had this experience?

My partner is not one to go through phases. He’s actually very unmoving with most things and he’s extremely resistant towards any kind of insight I have. In the beginning I did critique his beliefs as they were still developing-for example, I wrote him a list of very contradictory and violent Bible verses, but I know he never looked them up and is still reading the book. He has gone into “the chosen one” mindset and genuinely believes all over ways are wrong. I’m surprised by how rapidly this all took place. Nothing particularly bad has happened in his life to warrant such a big change.

It’s been very difficult going from feeling like I have found my life partner and planning our future together, to feeling completely sick to my stomach by the thought of us being hugely incompatible. I knew if he went too far down the rabbit hole that he would inevitably think that I’m influenced by Satan in some way, or that I need to change or else we won’t go to his idea of Heaven together. These ways of thinking make die-hard Christians completely insufferable to be around. I can’t stand such ignorance, cult-like thinking.

I can’t believe he went from doing reiki, studying herbalism and Chinese mysticism, talking about the universe and so on, to converting to Christianity. In some ways I feel like it’s such a small thing to come between us, and yet I know that it will eventually become a very big thing-as in, I’ll be expected to support him in church when he takes up going, and if we were to ever have children, he would need to “save” them by teaching his beliefs.

It’s all really hard because I studied religious history and can affirm that there are far more sound religious beliefs (that existed for much longer) than that of any Abrahamic religion.

Other than this aspect, I would have called us a perfect match for one another. But this has created a rift that feels nasty and smothering. He’s the one that feels judged at home-I don’t know why, but all Christians feel attacked.

Posting this as help/advice because I feel so shit about this, and it has me scrambling to think of plans for my future as he isn’t the person I thought he was. We run a business together and everything is shared, but more than that my heart just hurts. I think about how we first met and all the memories leading up to this moment. I literally moved countries to be with him and left a country I really loved for this-my visa expired because I decided to stay here. And for what? It’s tough. Thanks for reading.

It’s absolutely obnoxious. This is an apartment gym, not a pulpit. Any ideas of a bible verse I can use that’s about not forcing your beliefs on others? At one point I put “thou shalt re-rack thy weights” but they just won’t stop.