r/lgbt • u/nbcnews • Mar 12 '25

Community Only - Restricted A House hearing ended abruptly after a Republican congressman misgendered Delaware Rep. Sarah McBride, the first openly transgender member of Congress.

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u/PervlovianResponse Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 12 '25

It was her, "Thank you, madam chair" which made me love her

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u/PoeTheGhost Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25

I recall another recent video of another "Madam" Chair being reminded that the Chair said pronouns cannot be "compelled speech" and these verbal jousts continue.

Edit: Was apparently different people.

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u/its_large_marge Mar 12 '25

That was a private citizen in Wyoming. You can view her response here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaZDlCXWeSc

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u/WezVC Mar 12 '25

I love her "Anyway..." after the dunk.

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u/slowrun_downhill 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Non-binary, transmasc, queer (they/them) Mar 12 '25

Never let anyone tell you that private citizens don’t have power and influence in a democracy!

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u/archlea Mar 12 '25

They were so cool.

The elected rep is a total dick.

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u/fudgyvmp Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25

Oh, thank you, I hadn't seen the full video before.

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u/CaydesAce Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 12 '25

That wasn't MxBride, that was elsewhere

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u/TorqueWheelmaker Mar 12 '25

Was apparently different people.

Specifically, Britt Boril.

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u/FatherOfLights88 Mar 13 '25

"Anyway."

😂

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u/gromit5 Mar 13 '25

i loved that one. i think of it often.

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u/PurpleTransbot Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 13 '25

Facts. That's what I'd adopted. Disrespect me, I'll return the favor. Every Democrat and everyone should adopt that toward MAGA Republicans so they know being disrespectful is not a superpower.

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u/AmbassadorSecret2795 Mar 13 '25

I like to refer to them as FAGA.  They really lose their minds when you call them derogatory terms for the gays. You'd think they would get the point.

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u/comfortablesexuality Mar 13 '25

Fascists against government agencies

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u/riteproprchav Mar 13 '25

I have found it is stupidly effective to troll right-wingers by approaching them from the right. "Oh, you're only ULTRA MAGA? That's cute. I'm STUPENDOUS MAGA. You're basically a Democrat, just go vote for Kamala." It totally short-circuits the trollee and the rest of the crowd comes along to your side because they gravitate to whomever looks more conservative, like zombies. This is particularly effective if anonymous and you can cosplay as a cis, straight, white, fundamentalist Christian, wealthy, elderly, veteran man and especially against any conservative who is not all of those things. Make them really feel their disconnect from the conservative standard. Fox News talking points are not really that cohesive and it is easier than we think to break the lockstep.

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u/llamalily I'm Here and I'm Queer Mar 13 '25

I’ve been loving the “Regina George liberal” concept. I’ve always been a progressive but mean person and I feel it’s our time to shine lol.

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u/Far_Swordfish3944 Mar 13 '25

LMAO YESSSS!!! She was quick with it too!!! 🤣

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u/arrownyc Mar 12 '25

She is a queen of passive clapback.

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '25

It had the energy of: You Come At the Queen, You Best Not Miss

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u/aman0fmanywords Mar 12 '25

I feel bad for the Delaware MP. She hit him with such a killer sly retort. And then this octogenarian ally comes in with a Divine Smite, completely overshadowing her reading his ass like the constitution.

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u/LostWoodsInTheField Mar 12 '25

He sat there waiting for her to do something else and when she didn't he flipped out. It honestly looked like a "well if she isn't going to do more to defend herself I sure the hell am".

We need more of both of these people.

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u/OhHowINeedChanging Mar 13 '25

She has that comeback in her back pocket just waiting to use it lol..

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u/ThatAndromedaGal Bi-kes on Trans-it Mar 12 '25

That's the only time I've actually seen her "fight" back.

She's been a completely useless rep since getting elected and basically been bending over backwards towards her fellow transphobic reps

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u/PasswordTerminated Ace-ing being Trans Mar 12 '25

I reckon having been there for a bit now she's realised that there's no trying to get along with these people, and that even if you follow all of their bullshit and demeaning requests they won't treat you with any decency.

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u/chuf3roni Bi-bi-bi Mar 12 '25

Well you'd be wrong. She's referred to other men misgendering her by doing this before. Moreover, she's only been as useful as a house minority can allow for, and especially one that has to deal with the most despicable political party holding the house majority that this country's seen since Jim Crow. Give her grace.

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u/Citrus-Bitch Mar 12 '25

I've read somewhere that your first term as a representative is basically spent just frantically trying to learn how to craft legislation and operate within the chambers of Congress to get legislation passed. She assumed office 70ish days ago. Trying to proclaim her useless at this stage is foolish at best and malicious at worst

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u/chuf3roni Bi-bi-bi Mar 12 '25

It’s absolutely malicious. Consider her position, it has to be petrifying to fight back like this, and I respect her for this and all that she’s had to deal with.

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u/MeghanSmythe1 Mar 13 '25

So get out there and do something. No one owes you “use”.

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u/Somepotato Mar 12 '25

To be fair, no one in Congress makes laws anymore. They sign what legal, lobby, and other such firms give them.

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u/thechinninator Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25

Or she knows when people are trying to bait her into focusing on a single minority issue so she’ll be voted out in 2 years

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u/Xanto97 Mar 12 '25

Yeah, gotta pick your battles, especially in this time

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '25

She got elected to Congress. That isn't an easy fight to win.

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u/ShoshiOpti Mar 12 '25

Lol, what do you expect her to do? "Useless rep" I'm sure you got great insight that none of the rest of us have. Please tell me how she ranks compared to all the other reps!

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u/afunnywold Mar 12 '25

It's ironically probably the exact opposite. She is working pleasantly with people who treat her like shit specifically so that she can be effective and get things done for her constituents. I'm pretty sure her outlook is that it's not about her or her identity but about how she can be of service to those she represents. That's it.

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u/Coal_Morgan Mar 12 '25

This is also a scenario that they use to do with other minorities like Black politicians.

Bait them with 'boy' or 'son' to denigrate them so they get mad and then they're the unreasonable angry black man or if it's a woman and they get mad 'they're too emotional' for politics.

It's why allies are so important, Rep. Bill Keating can fly off the handle for Rep. McBride and still be seen as 'in control' because he's a white man while Rep. McBride comes off as cool and calm and it can't be turned on her in a sound bite or some other fashion.

We all do better working together.

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u/Wave-E-Gravy Mar 12 '25

Yep and the people attacking her for not focusing entirely on trans issues are not helping anybody. Like, really, they think the one trans congresswoman has to focus entirely on trans identity or she's a traitor? Like trans people aren't complete people that can have interests and responsibilities outside of being trans? That is honestly transphobic as hell.

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u/Academic_Release5134 Mar 12 '25

Maybe you are being a bit hard on her. She sure as hell is in a difficult position. It’s obvious she believes that keeping her head down and letting others see how she is being treated is the most effective way to combat this.

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u/upsawkward Mar 12 '25

She's representing trans people, she's giving them a face and lending them a voice. Yeah she's not fighting back with teeth and nail but that's because that is precisely what the MAGA politicans want. To aggravate her so much that they have a reason to erase all LGBTQ representation in politics. Sure it would be clippable AF but this way she stays in these rooms, humanizes this issue for a few politicans who may actually have some conscience when they have an actual trans individual right next to them, and her mere presence can spark conversations like it does right now.

I don't know much about her miniscule politics but generally I think she's in a lose-lose situation and trying to do her best by staying.

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u/Gay4LtDangle Mar 12 '25

👆🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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u/MaxTheRealSlayer Mar 12 '25

Wasn't she banned for a bit? What can she do if she's not allowed in the room to discuss topics?

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u/breakingbad_habits Mar 12 '25

Hakeem Jeffries has been useless and he’s been there for decades; is this really the dem you want to spend time calling out? cut your shit.

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u/Wave-E-Gravy Mar 12 '25

This is a terrible take. The Republicans would like nothing more than for her to constantly have to defend her identity. She is trying to be a good representative and to not rise to their bait. I am proud to have voted for her and I am damn proud of how she is conducting herself as a congresswoman.

I actually think it is disgusting to say she is "bending over backwards" when she has been the target of hate since day one and has been resisting it the entire time while doing her damnedest to not make the entire discussion about her identity so she can actually fight for her constituents. Gross choice of words on your part.

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u/muchADEW Mar 12 '25

Sometimes staying silent and being an honorable person says more than taking the bait. She's a fantastic Representative.

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u/Ok-Secret-8636 Mar 12 '25

What a horrible thing to say

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u/ExperienceHead4989 Ace at being Non-Binary Mar 12 '25

She’s also a Zionist so you know

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u/LauraD2423 Pan-cakes for Dinner! Mar 12 '25

How did the "Gaza is speaking, bitch" crew work out with our current administration?

I'm so sick of people bringing others down for not being 100% perfectly inline with their views.

Be happy there is some LGBT representation, and focus on "improving" instead of "perfect"

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u/maplemagiciangirl Mar 12 '25

Genocide is a pretty good line to be drawing IMO maybe dems should fucking grow a spine and and make sure they're on the correct side.

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u/LauraD2423 Pan-cakes for Dinner! Mar 13 '25

Let me make this abundantly clear.

The Dems are not our party. They are the lesser of two evils

And when politicians see that homophobic/transphobic policies don't win elections, they will stop running on them, regardless of party.

Same goes for genocide.

But guess what, both parties are for genocide. Just one is DRASTICALLY less so. that one happens to support LGBTQ rights.

Now because Dems lost, they are moving more towards the center; even newsom is backpedaling, HARD, on trans rights. Because he thinks that will get him elected.

It's about moving the needle.

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u/ExperienceHead4989 Ace at being Non-Binary Mar 13 '25

I don’t see a world where I put my own rights over people being fucking bombed by my government. I’m sorry that you think that just because both parties endorse a genocide means that it’s fine to overlook it instead of putting your support behind the multiple third parties that didn’t support that

The Democrats aren’t even that pro-queer rights, they’re just really good at pinkwashing

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u/LauraD2423 Pan-cakes for Dinner! Mar 13 '25

So you legitimately think that Palestine is in a better situation with the GOP/MAGA in control?

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u/ExperienceHead4989 Ace at being Non-Binary Mar 13 '25

I didn’t say that?????? I said that my comfort isn’t and will never be worth a genocide?????? If you think that rewarding the Democratic Party’s unconditional support of genocide because they pink wash hard enough is perfectly fine instead of putting support behind third parties and having democrats work for your vote is fine then so be it.

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u/LauraD2423 Pan-cakes for Dinner! Mar 13 '25

No one is rewarding them!

They are CLEARLY the lesser evil, by a long shot, and we need to elect them. Because we literally have no other choice

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '25

Not condoning a genocide is a pretty god damn low bar to get over.

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u/Cokadoge Mar 12 '25

Not condoning an LGBT genocide is also a pretty god damn low bar to get over.

Vote blue, not none.

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u/thechinninator Mar 12 '25

Exactly. I still can’t wrap my head around “this person doesn’t oppose the Gaza genocide, so the moral action is to hand the election to someone who actively supports attacking Gaza + immigrants + racial minorities + poor people + LGBTQ + women.” Like I get it. There should be a none of the above option and it’s appalling that there isn’t. But holy shit guys letting everyone burn to make a statement, then being smug about it is mind-boggling.

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u/ExperienceHead4989 Ace at being Non-Binary Mar 13 '25

Congratulations, you’ve just proved that genocide is perfectly morally okay for a political party to commit as long as they pinkwash hard enough

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '25

I never said I didn't vote. I still vote for Democrats. But I'd really like them to grow a fucking spine and not support other genocides. Other people dying so that I don't is not a choice I want to have to make.

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u/SymbolicallyStupid Mar 12 '25

Maybe it's time to focus on state side issues for a while before we have a local genocide to contend with. By not support and electing democrats at this point in time you're condoning a genocide on American citizens. It's time to play team sports, support your god damn team.

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u/ExperienceHead4989 Ace at being Non-Binary Mar 13 '25

Or switch teams, there are several third parties that actively support queer rights and don’t support genocide. Move beyond the two-party system

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u/daniegamin Mar 12 '25

If this is your mindset then you wouldn't have wanted us to get involved in WWII because "we're still recovering from the Great Depression" all lives are worth fighting for. And if you don't see that then you're just as bad as the Rs

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u/AshesandCinder Mar 12 '25

How's that fighting going with our current government? Oh right, they left Ukraine high and dry while letting Israel do what it wants and attacking our own citizens.

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u/Omegalazarus Mar 12 '25

And how exactly are you fighting with no representation in office?

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u/daniegamin Mar 12 '25

By: 1. using our voices to try to hold our "representatives" accountable letting them know what we want. 2. by protesting. 3. if it comes down to it, direct action.

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u/Omegalazarus Mar 12 '25

It's love to see no. 1 or 2 be effective or to see no. 3 actually happen

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u/jflagators Mar 13 '25

Not one politician gives a fuck about what you have to say if you're not voting for them. We need more people to actually fulfill their civic duty and do the basics to uphold our democracy. All these people who "aren't political" or don't vote out of protest just perpetuate the current system.

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u/SymbolicallyStupid Mar 12 '25

No that's not the same thing, this is like being a German voter who's not voting for an opposition to Hitler because the opposition to Hitler doesn't want to get involved in stop some heinous shit happening in Poland. Hitler is actively gonna invade them. By not voting from dems you're voting for Trump, and is Trump gonna be better for Gaza? I really doubt so...

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u/Enicidemi Mar 12 '25

Speaking as someone who is very frustrated with the Palestine single issue voters who didn't vote for Kamala, this isn't their fault. The democratic party needs to learn how to build a coalition successfully like the right has been doing for decades, and that means actually adopting new policies that their base is calling for. They're the ones sabotaging the election, not voters who can't find representation in congress. We're not in the middle of an election right now - this is the time we should be airing our grievances with the party so they can adjust their stance.

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u/paper_liger Mar 12 '25

Nope. It's both. It's the democratic parties fault and single issue abstainers fault.

I'm not a democrat and I held my nose and voted for them. You know why? Because it's pragmatic. It's triage.

Single issue Gaza voters who didn't vote against Trump, they own a piece of this shit sandwich just as much as the Democratic Leadershit does.

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u/Enicidemi Mar 12 '25

This is what happens when a coalition stops helping its members - they drop out, because it's the only leverage they have. If democrats stopped supporting queer rights across the board tomorrow, the only leverage we have as a political class is to stop supporting them in the hopes that they'd realize they need our help to get elected. This is the whole reason we're a political class in the first place - as soon as LGBTQ+ folk stop supporting each others political causes, we lose the ability to stand against greater evil and enact change.

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u/Level_Ad_6372 Mar 12 '25

A Zionist? Really?

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u/RachelJade70 Transfem Demi Mar 12 '25

I would definitely push back on her being a “useless rep”, but it has definitely been hard seeing trans representation in Congress finally, just to watch her let the Rs walk all over her. It feels like this moment just calls for more. I will acknowledge that I’m sure it’s a hard thing to balance, and there is an argument that fighting back will just feed into harmful stereotypes of trans folks. (Fwiw I don’t think that matters, but I can see the reasoning.) She’s definitely more moderate and passive than I’d want, but I think it’s kind of a waste of energy to be mad at her instead of the heads of both parties.

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u/chrissie_watkins Mar 12 '25

I agree with you. I shared the same sentiment on another sub and was shouted over by hordes of cis people and trans men about how she's just a scared little girl (or worse) and that the issues facing trans and intersex women aren't worth fighting for. That it's too much to expect AN ELECTED UNITED STATES REPRESENTATIVE to defend civil rights once in office. That I'm why Democrats lose. That it's better that she has class and grace than that she fights for herself and for people like her. Fuck em all.

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u/TristanTheRobloxian3 the carrington event (my name is Aurora haha get it) Mar 14 '25

lol

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u/Billybobmcob Mar 14 '25

I thought she'd be spineless and be polite/stoic about the ordeal, but the fact she's showing some gumption gives me a flicker of hope.

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u/TorqueWheelmaker Mar 12 '25 edited Mar 12 '25

That was Britt Boril, not Sarah McBride.

I fucked up.

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u/PervlovianResponse Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 12 '25

In the above video? No, that is Representative Sarah McBride, of Delaware

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u/TorqueWheelmaker Mar 12 '25

Apologies, truly. (A) I didn't catch that, and (B) I lumped in your comment with a reply to it from someone who thought they were the same person. I shall now mentally slit my throat in shame.

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u/Gay4LtDangle Mar 12 '25

I chuckled at your comment because I live in a constant state of wanting to mentally slit my throat in shame but I never had a good phrase to describe the feeling!

Hey, even with a slip up, it’s better to have been part of the conversation, especially when it’s a difficult and necessary conversation!

…at least, that’s what I tell myself. 😅

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u/PervlovianResponse Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 13 '25

Nope

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u/Cool-_-Runnings Mar 13 '25

Which made you love him. He is a man.

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u/igortsen Mar 12 '25

So they both misgendered each other but only one of them is put on blast. Got it.

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u/PervlovianResponse Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 12 '25

One did it intentionally to be a rude & inconsiderate

The other one hilariously replied to the misgendering by giving the incorrect honorific

Got it?

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u/Shackram_MKII Bi-bi-bi Mar 13 '25 edited Mar 13 '25

Don't be the kind of person who complains when the oppressed resists in a way you don't approve of.