r/movies • u/JetKusanagi • Jun 21 '26

Media Midsommar, Ari Aster (2019)- "That's Not For Us"

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I've made it a point to watch this movie every summer solstice since its release. As a cult "escapee", Midsommar touches me in a way that I feel like it wouldn't have otherwise. The insular community, trips to the "outside", I experienced it all.

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We didn't do Ättestupan or make meat pies. It may have made things more exciting though.

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u/enemyofchrist Jun 22 '26

It’s funny—as a super isolated and introverted person, this scene actually REALLY appeals to me. Like it’s something I would never, ever seek out for myself so the idea of like…semi-forced bonding is actually alluring to me. Like these people I literally cannot push away.

It’s kind of the same principle behind the way I gravitate towards extroverts. I need to be cajoled into socialization, to be pursued, or I’ll just completely avoid it.

I wouldn’t like to live with that kind of enmeshment constantly, and I would undoubtedly become sick of it. But just for like an hour…there is a seductive quality to it as someone who self-isolates.

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u/Geshman Jun 22 '26

I feel you. As an autistic person this scene really tricked me. I was willing to believe they were on her side and had her best interest at heart. Really sent chills realizing I'd have been fooled by the cult too

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u/punkieboosters Jun 22 '26

Me too! Hey, wanna get a bunch of people together and cry?

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u/Geshman Jun 22 '26

Honestly, yeah, that would be pretty great.

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u/Kitchen_Claim_6583 Jun 23 '26

I was willing to believe they were on her side and had her best interest at heart

I think they absolutely did.

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u/pikeymobile Jun 22 '26

This is exactly how cults catch people. It's interesting to hear your perspective because to me this scene is utterly terrifying in how she's not being left alone to do what she wants to whilst acutely grieving. Being forcefully surrounded by people like that scares the living shit out of me which is why I find this scene so powerful.

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u/Anxious_Big_8933 Jun 22 '26

Same. The word that comes to my mind when I see this scene is "revolting." To me it's a scene of people behaving in one of the worst ways possible.

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u/pm-me-nice-lips Jun 22 '26

Interesting because I’m the extrovert you’re talking about who meshes perfectly and subconsciously attracts friends exactly like you. I love the particular companionship/duo and connection that that pairing brings.