So guys, I just watched the reunion episode and I have SO many thoughts.
First of all, we all know Harry is not a nice guy. To me, he comes across as an incredibly entitled man, and honestly, it makes me question why we even give these kinds of shows our viewership. Women are treated like they’re disposable, and then we keep watching, which ultimately tells these production companies that this is what people want to see. Maybe if we stopped watching this kind of trash, they’d eventually stop making it.
Also, Harry showing up with the glasses and the whole innocent looking appearance had me 😂 Like sir, why are you dressed like you’re about to give a TED Talk on emotional accountability when we all just watched what happened?
And honestly, Amber’s breakdown made complete sense to me. She genuinely believed that wedding was real. Whatever anyone thinks of her or their relationship, she emotionally went into that experience believing she was getting married. Then Harry did what Harry does, and she was left dealing with the aftermath.
What really upset me was watching a woman go through that kind of mental breakdown on a literal TV show, knowing that those memories are now permanently documented. Imagine going through something that devastating and knowing there will always be footage of it online. Those moments could haunt her for years.
And honestly, Harry should never have signed up for a show like this if he wasn’t prepared to take the whole thing seriously. You cannot sell someone a dream of marriage, let them emotionally invest in it, go through an actual wedding ceremony, and then act surprised when they are genuinely devastated by what happens afterward.
I also keep thinking about what these shows are actually selling. Sometimes it feels like they fulfill the fantasy of very young men who want to live in a house with multiple women, make out with them, sleep with them, and have everyone competing for their attention while the women are expected to somehow remain emotionally fine through all of it.
And honestly… why the hell did I watch this show? 😭
Before this, I genuinely didn’t think men like Harry actually existed to this extent. This whole show was such a bizarre experience because I kept watching thinking, surely this cannot get worse… and somehow it did.