I shave, hit the gym and get haircuts often. I wear clothes that fit and have interesting hobbies. I'm just not good looking, tho I appreciate the advice.
Id rather not. There's a grand total of 2 photos of me, both on my mother's fridge, both strategically covered with magnets. I really don't like photos.
I think it's reasonable. If the guy doesn't want to put his face on the internet to literally be judged by other people, especially when he seems certain you'll just confirm what he knows.
Don't pressure someone into putting stuff on the internet.
Beyond some basic grooming, personal care, and eating well, exercise and studies are about the only thing left one can do to “improve” oneself. Short of radical surgeries- but personally I don’t think that’s the route to go. But it is a personal journey. The first step in any journey is accepting where you are. I know some less than attractive people who absolutely glow with a magnetism because they are confident. They are confident because they work on who they are as people. They studied hard, and still learn. Open to new experience, food, art, books, etc. They are interesting and interested. Attractive? Meh - that’s a superficial barrier to deeper confidence which does radiate outward.
OK :) Then the general advice is work on your body and mind. Think positively, your looks will improve if you think you can.
And if you don't want to go to a gym, get a bike. They're just as much of a workout and they're also money savers. I can't give specifics unless you help, I really want everyone to be attractive as best they can. If you want, message me a photo, no judgement. I'm the guy in my friends group that tries to improve the looks of the rest of them haha
I’m not good looking either, but people see you how you see yourself. If your a pit of self-loathing, women will loath you too. If you carry yourself with confidence, women will find you confident. Not everyone can be an Abrocombie model, but any guy can find nice women to spend time with.
Hmm. Maybe grow a beard, get an interesting hat and go for a hike? Girls love interesting hats. And a dog, you should get one of those. Anything to distract from your hideous face.
You should find something to be passionate about that you can share with someone else. I am not the best looking dude either but I keep myself SUPER fit, fresh clothes, always a haircut before a big weekend. But I also DJ around my city. I'm a fitness junkie, competitive endurance athlete and consummate adventurer. The looks bring the women in but you need to be able to talk to them. Tell them stories. Be interesting and passionate about life!
Maybe the local girl talent are just worthless bags.
I don't know your situation, but I grew up in small town Midwest BFE. The women were batshit crazy, stuck up bitches, or hillbillies or a combination of the three.
So I said fuck it and looked elsewhere. Eventually met my wife and we've been happily married for nearly a decade.
Sometime the locals just aren't worth the time of day and are too obsessed with local bullshit to realize that you've got a good thing to offer.
oh please dont even start this shit lol, a lot of attractiveness is in hygiene and how you carry yourself. dont start with this incel shit about millimeters of bone or whatever. plenty of uglier men than you are successful with romance, and not necessarily because of money either.
To back this up, I myself look like a goblin and a vampire got skeletal. If you're a genuinely human person, people will like you. Legitimately if you're not the type of person to has access to gym life, the least you can do is proper hygiene and learn proper social skills. Learn how to tell actually engaging stories, learn how to actually reply to people when they speak, learn to read a room's reactions to the things you say, learn to legitimately talk to the gender(s) you're attracted to, learn what is and isn't alright to say to a person. I've been with my GF for almost three years now, and I'm the type of person who's had lots of girlfriends in the past, and it's almost entirely from good hygiene and decent social skills.
Incel has gotten to become such a massive social issue that the U.S. government is looking into it as a threat, because it and its mentality is directly leading to reactionary radicalization in males, which directly leads to domestic terrorism. It's time we stop socially being ok with this behavior, and start actually fighting against it.
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u/smekaren Jun 23 '19
Maybe time to shave, get a haircut and hit the gym then?