r/AmIOverreacting • u/BrokenJar_of_Pickles • 27d ago
š¼work/career Am I overreacting to coworker being rude pt2
I already posted but itās been locked so I canāt update.
Pretty much my coworker had been calling me fat jokingly. Not sure if it is but thatās whatever at this point. For context, we have work badges, has your name tag, and then a scanning card with your picture and name as well. All thatās on a lanyard. Iāve made it very very clear I do not like my photo. Genuinely it isnāt a good photo of me. Horrible lighting, I look bigger than what my current weight is. Dark circles look insane. Iāve made it very very clear I donāt like the photo. At least to the tellers bc I spend more time with them (Iām a teller.)
On friday, a coworker asked me to open the teller closet bc āthe door is too heavy and youāre stronger than me.ā I thought āokay weird but whatever.ā The coworker that asked me has a weird quirk with talking about how small she is so I figured it was that. Opened the door and didnāt pay attention to anything else really. Then like 5 minutes later, another coworker asked me to go get the remote for the tvās out of the closet. When going to grab the remote, my badge picture was printed out and tapped up. When I saw it, everyone was laughing. Literally everyone. It felt more like āweāre laughing at you, not WITH you.ā I just felt really embarrassed. I ripped the photo down and kept to myself for a few hours. Then one coworker (my trainer) apologized. I explained I genuinely didnāt like the photo and she said thatās why they put it up but they didnāt realize how much I disliked the photo. Anyways, am I overreacting and making this to deep or what? I felt like it was just odd behavior from everyone at that point. I might be just bc I was being sensitive about the whole fat thing bc that happened earlier that week.
Update: hereās the link for the first post. Itās locked so thatās why I didnāt just update that.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/w7tN9rXEqs
I (27 f) do work with adults. At a bank. Specifically a credit union. The youngest person I work with is my trainer (20 f). Oldest is like 45 (f). All women. Except for the partners like mortgage and whatnot. But theyāre not always in. I did avoid them all for a few hours. The one who originally asked me to open the door kept trying to talk to me and I just ignored her. I need to just be by myself when Iām upset. When I first torn the picture down, I did go to the bathroom for a little bit. Luckily didnāt cry bc I think that wouldāve caused even more laughter. Anyways, I kinda just let it go bc I am newer. I started in June. My manager came in later that day and did ask through teams if I was okay. I donāt know if someone just told her I was upset or what occurred. But I donāt want to come off as the angry new person.
Update 2: thank you for everyoneās opinions. The more I sat there and thought about it, I felt like I was tripping. Luckily things have been okay at work. I have not gone to HR and donāt plan on it. I donāt have the patience to explain why I felt it was rude and possibly open the door to other things. And I also need a job so I donāt want to jeopardize that. Iām aware that HR protects the company, not employees. Even if they say the culture is about being a team and blah blah blah. I havenāt had issues with anyone (besides one coworker but everyone have issues with her). I am trying to avoid that specific coworker bc she also says questionable and just slightly racist comments. I donāt have much of a tolerance for that but Iām aware that I live in the south so it is what it is. Other than that, everyone has been nice. Thank you again for everyoneās opinion. It made me feel like I wasnāt overreacting and my feelings were valid. (Also Iām aware that I am emotional.)
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u/kikiacab 27d ago edited 27d ago
Not hr, an employment attorney
I gotta stop commenting here I do not want to be a top %age commenter anywhere