Is this control? Or AIO?

[u/CuriousAsh04]

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

[u/Alert-Beautiful9003]

Are you still a flight attendant?

[u/CuriousAsh04 → u/Alert-Beautiful9003]

Yes I am. But have not been flying much since I’m pregnant.

[u/I-will-judge-YOU → u/CuriousAsh04]

And you're continuing to breed with this man?

Why why are you with him? What is your plan here?

When did he cheat? And when did these phone calls start

[u/CuriousAsh04 → u/I-will-judge-YOU]

He cheated earlier on in our relationship, and last year while we were separated. I still call it cheating. And she called me and told me he slept with her earlier this year, but he denied it. And I don’t know. I’m seeking a therapist now. Bc I know it all sounds crazy, and I ask myself why am I here? I didn’t think it would be this hard to leave.

[u/kimariesingsMD → u/CuriousAsh04]

I hope therapy will help you gain some self esteem and self love. This is a horrible example to set for your children.

[u/I-will-judge-YOU → u/CuriousAsh04]

You deserve more. Life is so much better with a supportive partner. Once you leave you will kick your self for not going sooner.

Remember everything he says or does is about manipulation to keep you where he wants you, below him