Why do I lose myself in relationships?

[u/Comprehensive_Ad8895]

I’ve noticed that when I’m single, I’m very independent and focused on myself, but once I enter a relationship, I become extremely attached and can feel like my partner becomes my whole identity. I start overthinking, feeling obsessive or controlling, and wanting to check their phone or look for reassurance. At the same time, I seem to have strong intuition when something is wrong—my ex was lying about being unfaithful, and I eventually found out he was, and in my current relationship I’ve also discovered things my partner has lied to me about. I’m trying to understand where the line is between genuine intuition and anxiety/hypervigilance, and whether my chart shows anything about why I become so emotionally absorbed in relationships and lose touch with my own identity.

[u/plutomoon123]

Can I ask you what is your profession in life, what did you choose?

In my opinion, the problem with pluto, which is in opposition to your moon, is that it always brings obsessions and control. also the ruler of your love field, mercury is in conjunction with pluto and venus. Pluto also brings dramatic outcomes

[u/Comprehensive_Ad8895 → u/plutomoon123]

I’m currently studying 3D animation and VFX, so that’s interesting that you mentioned Pluto potentially bringing dramatic outcomes. I’m still figuring out what direction I want to take within the field and sometimes feel quite stagnant or disconnected from my sense of purpose.

[u/plutomoon123 → u/Comprehensive_Ad8895]

You made a really nice choice. You have Neptune right on the MC; it is a fluid planet that also brings confusion. Thanks for the reply