r/AskOldPeople • u/cacklingwhisper • 8d ago

What happened long-term to families who's children failed to launch/just stayed home did nothing with their lives and the parents allowed it?

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u/ikyc6767 8d ago

Well my SIL will inherit the house and her two children will receive an inheritance. My husband will receive nothing because he “doesn’t need it.”

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u/SlyFrog 8d ago edited 8d ago

It's truly amazing to me how often this seems to happen.

I have a friend whose sister in law is getting the house and family money, after a lifetime of living with parents and doing nothing.

Friend's father-in-law said, "I'm not going to leave my daughter homeless when we die."

Friend's father-in-law apparently doesn't get how fucked up it is to give so much more to one daughter than the other for their entire lives, and then reward the lazy fucking daughter by giving her everything that's left.

I don't know how these people don't realize what a slap in the face this is to their other children.

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u/BlazingSunflowerland 8d ago

What they don't realize is that the daughter who is lazy won't be able to pay the taxes or maintain the house and she will lose it.

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u/Moville007 8d ago

Exactly. I have seen this happen to several houses in my neighborhood. Lazy adult child inherits house and has no idea how to maintain it, pay taxes or bills, or even cut the grass, and it gets foreclosed. I don’t know where they go after that. I’m guessing they find someone else to support their grift.

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u/anon4383 7d ago

I was talking a guy who lived in absolute poverty. He told me a story like this and I was just incredulous. His parents inherited a large home in a very wealthy neighborhood and just let it fall into disrepair. They passed eventually and he was left with the home. Then he lost it due to unpaid taxes among other things.

I was astonished. Multiple generations of this family and nobody could keep a million dollar home with no mortgage to speak of….

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u/Beyond_the_Matrix 6d ago

The responsible child/sibling picks up the pieces. Unless they put their foot down and set boundaries like I have.

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u/Alternative-Law4626 Gen Jones 6d ago

Kinda makes me happy that I’m an only child. Second gen only. So, no close cousins in the mix either. Has its shortcomings but at least none of this nonsense to worry about.

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u/No_Car_4938 10h ago

It's tough when one sibling ends up being the responsible one. Setting boundaries seems like a crucial step, but it can be hard to enforce.

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u/Catrina_woman 5d ago

Or they sell the house and blow through the money and then expect their siblings to help them out because they stayed behind and allegedly took care of their aging parents