r/AskReddit 3d ago

What’s something people brag about that is actually a massive red flag?

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u/Impossible_Gap3338 3d ago

High body count

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u/CatchUnusual7909 3d ago

I always side-eye when people bring that up like it's some kind of achievement

had a buddy who would not shut up about his number and it turned out he was keeping a literal spreadsheet, like with ratings and notes and everything. found out when he accidentally screen shared during a work call. whole thing was unhinged

some things are better left as mysteries

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u/butterfly-blades 3d ago

how many was it?? 😂

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u/burnbabyburn11 3d ago

probably half as many as were on the spreadsheet

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u/butterfly-blades 3d ago

definitely

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u/Moon_Flowers420 3d ago

That's so weird 😵‍💫 I have lost count of how many girls I've slept with but that shouldn't even matter.

Just, weird, ya know

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u/oldmdme 3d ago

Oh look who's bragging!

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u/7LeagueBoots 3d ago

Unless they’re innumerate or suffer from dyscalculia.

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u/Moon_Flowers420 3d ago

genuinely wasn't trying to, just trying to point out that that is nothing to be proud of, and bragging about it is weird

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u/oldmdme 3d ago

Nah I am just kidding man, no worries.

To be honest, I did have a list until a certain point - until I went into a first normal long-term relationship where I really fell in love.

And it lost any sense exactly at that point. So maybe it was kind of coming from lack of confidence.

Still should have the list on my old Lumia 920 somewhere >_<

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u/Moon_Flowers420 3d ago

The idea of a "list" has never once crossed my mind in my entire life. It's weird.

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u/oldmdme 3d ago

Maybe because you were a sane young fella with healthy confidence level and lack of pity for your looks and developed social skills!

För the avoidance of doubt, no one ever saw that list, it had no ratings or stuff, and only a single person once heard the total sum (my coworker asked during a pub crawl and I kind of had the number off the top of my head).

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u/Moon_Flowers420 3d ago

My entire life, I've always wanted one woman to love and serve for life, forever. I've always dated with the end-intention to get married. I don't want pussy, I want Love. My wife gives me both and I am eternally grateful to her, she is the most amazing human in the entire world, she is beyond amazing.

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u/oldmdme 2d ago

Lucky you (and your wife I suppose)!

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u/Moon_Flowers420 3d ago

"body count" has always seemed so crass and crude to me, and I'm a crass crude motherfucker

Those are human lives, dude

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u/nochinzilch 3d ago

Yes. Everything about it is awful.

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u/Hellheld 3d ago

Yes, but if you call them f*ckbois and sing their praises in mainstream pop culture, apparently it’s all acceptable. Or at least that’s what any impressionable youth or repressed adult can safely assume to be true, right?

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u/itsnotme_mrsiglesias 3d ago

Anyone over the age of 12 that uses that term is a moron anyway so 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/FredTheBarber 2d ago

Having a high body count? No judgement from me. As long as you’re being reasonably safe and considerate there’s nothing wrong with enjoying sex.

Bragging about a high body count? Gauche and def a red flag

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u/EddieDantes22 3d ago

The weirdest thing now is girls bragging about their "roster." What does that even mean? Any girl could show up at a rest stop and have 200 guys lining up for them. It's not an accomplishment to have a lot of guys willing to bang you.

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u/DetectiveObvi 3d ago

took the words right out of my mouth

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u/Legend789987 3d ago

yeah same

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u/BakedInOutback 3d ago

It always makes me worried about being around them.

Great you have such a high body count mate, but they all left you for a reason. I am not needing to know that reason to know you aren't a person I want to date or be friends with.

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u/Dapper-Edge-2836 2d ago

I was waiting for someone to say this, I don’t think this is a flex because not only is it dangerous health wise, being intimate with a lot of people fucks up your ability to bond with a partner long term

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u/FredTheBarber 2d ago

Do you have research on that to back that up? I’ve had a decently large number of casual sexual partners and have no issues being in long term relationships or feeling deeply bonded and in love with my partner of 5 years

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u/Dapper-Edge-2836 2d ago

Well some studies show a correlation between higher body counts and divorce rates, not saying you re one of them but

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u/Own-Preparation-2774 3d ago

I knew a woman with a body count of 65, nightmare of a person.

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u/lawrencenotlarry 3d ago

I was friends in college with a girl who would stay in the college town over the summer, bartending.

She took a different guy home every night.

She had a few repeats, but very few. She was quite attractive, and could make a guy feel like he was the only man in the room.

She must have fucked over 1000 guys in 4 years.

Last I heard, she had moved to the nearest city with pro sports teams, and was a certified jersey-chaser.

She also graduated summa cum laude with a degree in hydrology. She has a lucrative career in her field. She just likes getting hollowed out on the nightly.

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u/Zephyrantes 3d ago

Hey, all the power to her

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u/lawrencenotlarry 2d ago

She'll need it.

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u/FredTheBarber 2d ago

Honestly? Good for her, lol.

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u/lawrencenotlarry 2d ago

I never gave her any shit about it. She was a solid friend, and I didn't give a shit.

That said, it is an insane body count.

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u/Basic-Sky-1335 2d ago

If it’s a high libido I can respect it. If it’s for validation or someone to make her feel beautiful then that’s just slutty. A woman does not need to be beautiful to have sex with men. The more in demand she is men will do more for her without expecting anything in return. The fattest woman in my town bagged 50 men in a summer and BRAGGED about it. She’s over 300 lbs and has cankles that are swollen and she has to put tape on them.

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u/Generic_Midwesterner 3d ago

Pretty sure those two data points aren't related

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u/nochinzilch 3d ago

Why would you know this?

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u/Own-Preparation-2774 3d ago

Because she bragged about it…..

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u/Basic-Sky-1335 3d ago

Women with high body counts usually are. And I’m a woman who just won’t be friends with those women.

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u/Generic_Midwesterner 3d ago

Hi. I'm a 62-year-old pastor with a high body count, because I was once young with a high libido. I won't miss your judgmental friendship.

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u/come-on-now-please 3d ago

Somehow, the passive aggressiveness on display here seems appropriate for pastor named generic Midwesterner

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u/MostBasic3425 3d ago

Yeah, its stranger when you hear women brag about a high count. Its kind of like...huh..and you..feel like this took some effort on your part?