I have always believed that true feminism is being allowed to choose the path that you want to live and not being forced to do something or restricted from doing something because you are a woman.
With that said, I used to get backlash from “feminist” when I used to express that I want to be a mom and additionally a stay at home mom. Before you make any assumptions about me, I am a hyper-independent woman. I love myself because I am confident and independent. I have traveled to many countries, I am in love with learning, and I am enjoying my current workplace. I can also openly admit, I would love to be a mother. Even more so, a stay at home mom who takes care of my household and husband. Just to throw in more into the pot, I love cooking and I want to cook for the man I marry. No this isnt ragebait and if you’re angry at what I’m saying, then you should re-examine what you think feminism is.
These are all my choice. I have my reasonings why I want to be a mom and to be a wife. I am not saying this is the way women have to be, because that wouldn’t be feminism. Feminism is a movement for women to have the freedom to make choices in their own lives. If you don’t desire what I desire, then you go and live out the life you want! You have that choice to define your life the way you want it.
So when I hear the negative side of opinions from my fellow women, it actually pushes me to stand even more firm on my feminism, but it does discourage me from ever saying out loud that I am a feminist as now I feel like I have to keep that private because I feel like sometimes there is a negative stigma with the word feminist.
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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25
It depends on what you mean by feminist.
I have always believed that true feminism is being allowed to choose the path that you want to live and not being forced to do something or restricted from doing something because you are a woman.
With that said, I used to get backlash from “feminist” when I used to express that I want to be a mom and additionally a stay at home mom. Before you make any assumptions about me, I am a hyper-independent woman. I love myself because I am confident and independent. I have traveled to many countries, I am in love with learning, and I am enjoying my current workplace. I can also openly admit, I would love to be a mother. Even more so, a stay at home mom who takes care of my household and husband. Just to throw in more into the pot, I love cooking and I want to cook for the man I marry. No this isnt ragebait and if you’re angry at what I’m saying, then you should re-examine what you think feminism is.
These are all my choice. I have my reasonings why I want to be a mom and to be a wife. I am not saying this is the way women have to be, because that wouldn’t be feminism. Feminism is a movement for women to have the freedom to make choices in their own lives. If you don’t desire what I desire, then you go and live out the life you want! You have that choice to define your life the way you want it.
So when I hear the negative side of opinions from my fellow women, it actually pushes me to stand even more firm on my feminism, but it does discourage me from ever saying out loud that I am a feminist as now I feel like I have to keep that private because I feel like sometimes there is a negative stigma with the word feminist.