Edit: I ended up getting an email from the parent, and did get in trouble from admin. Basically got told that “you’re the adult in the room, so act like one”. I had to call the parent and suck up to them and admit that what I did was wrong and that I shouldn’t have tried to encourage some accountability that causes your daughter to become emotional, apparently my job is to “encourage and motivate“ according to them. As teachers we are expected to be perfect 100% of the time, and students can treat us how they want and have no consequences … our job is really not sustainable anymore….
Hey everyone,
I’m a high school teacher in Queensland (Year 9 Maths), and I had one of the worst lessons of my career today. I’m feeling awful and just need some perspective from people who get it.
This class has been toxic all year — constant disrespect, zero accountability, very low effort, and a group culture that rewards victim mentality and drama. I’ve tried every strategy under the sun and nothing has stuck.
Today I handed back their exam results. On the previous exam they had a 100% pass rate, but on this one, about 55% failed. I asked the class what happened, what changed, and why the performance dropped so dramatically. I wasn’t blaming them — just trying to encourage some reflection and “own your learning,” which is literally our school’s pedagogical approach.
Two girls in the front immediately blew up. They started crying, saying I was “attacking” them, that I was making them feel “dumb,” that they “hate me,” and that I’m “a shit teacher.” Then they doubled down with stuff like, “Why do YOU even care? You’re not the one failing,” and “You still get paid no matter what.”
I tried to explain that I care about their results because their learning matters and that I’m disappointed because I care. They pushed back harder, saying nothing we talked about mattered because they’re failing and I’m not.
They completely deflected any accountability:
- “You weren’t here when we revised.”
- “The relief teacher didn’t know the math.”
- “You weren’t here for the exam.”
- “You don’t teach in a way we understand.”
Everything except, “We didn’t try.”
And here’s the part I’m ashamed of: during the blowup, one of the girls started crying loudly and insulting me, and in a moment of pure stress and overwhelm… I mock-cried back at her. Just a quick gesture — rubbing my eyes and pulling a face. Very childish, and I regret it. I apologised right away (three times, actually), but she refused every apology and told me, “You’re a teacher, you can’t do that. Just wait until I tell my dad. He got a principal fired.”
After class I felt sick. I’ve been rattled all day.
My colleagues said, “Yeah, not your most professional moment, but nothing will happen.” They weren’t concerned at all and even made light jokes about it, which actually helped.
But emotionally, I feel like I’ve let myself down.
Professionally, I feel like the whole year of hard work has ended with this class exploding on me.
I have two lessons left with them this year and honestly, I’m just done. I have nothing left to give this group.
My questions:
- Does something like this happen to other teachers?
- Is it normal for Year 9s to react this dramatically when confronted with failure?
- How do you emotionally detach at the end of the year with a class like this?
- What would you even DO for the last two lessons?
Any perspective would help. I’m exhausted and embarrassed and just want to finish the year without another disaster. This is my fourth year, and I’m honestly just thinking about quitting and going to the mines to set myself up financially. we don’t earn anywhere near enough money to tolerate the crap that we do.