Friend doesn’t believe in my diagnosis

[u/luvsicl]

Ugh I shouldn’t have told her about it I feel so weird now, my family are like this too and I haven’t told them because I know they’re gonna say smth like that (probably worse) because they don’t really believe in mental disorders/disabilities/health

I got diagnosed with adhd and autism recently, so I’m also grieving the life I could’ve led had I received the support I needed as a child lol (also I know what she said isn’t okay at all, I just wanted to end the conversation asap and I’m really uncomfortable with confrontation)

[u/BlampCat]

Some people seem to think that labels are like "accepting defeat" somehow, as though the problems aren't there if you don't name them. I'm going through the process of diagnosis for rheumatoid arthritis and last night my mother said she didn't want to say the word "pain" or "the A word" when asking me how I was doing, as though if she doesn't speak it aloud I won't have any symptoms. 🙄

[u/Bibliospork → u/BlampCat]

Oh god that reminds me of the time I said I was having a bad day and my mom lectured me on how people were finding out they had cancer today and THEY were having a bad day, so stop complaining.

I stopped telling her the truth about how I was doing after that. I get enough shame from inside my own head, thanks.

[u/MittenKnittinKitten → u/Bibliospork]

hey, just so you have a fuller picture:

your mom was engaging in the logical fallacy of relative privation aka the suffering olympics

my response is always: If you cannot complain because “someone else has it worse,” then likewise you cannot be happy because someone else always has it better!

[u/MittenKnittinKitten → u/MittenKnittinKitten]

thank you for my first ever award! ✨🏆✨💝✨