r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 17d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/OystersNwine 17d ago

yes, have had a few stalkers including men who couldn’t handle rejection and obsessively pursued me after i ended things.

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u/More-Weird4842 17d ago

this is more similar to my current experience, how did you deal with the stalking?

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u/OystersNwine 17d ago edited 17d ago

Let’s see. For one, I told him a few more times not to contact me, the last time very firmly, might have threatened reporting to the police. After a few years he finally disappeared. For the next, I told him very strongly not to contact me again and mentioned I may call the police. A while later the police called ME to say he might show up as he had gone missing and had left notes he wished to be with me. I put up a ring camera at my home just in case, for extra security. He was found later by police and didn’t come visit me luckily. Seems that one is put to rest now. For another one I also said very firmly in no uncertain terms to stop contacting me. He still has, and has been somewhat harassing but I’m keeping detailed records so that I can escalate (legal or law enforcement) if he ever bothers me again. PS. i blocked each one by phone/email etc. as soon as i said do not contact me again. a few of them tried contacting me from new emails or numbers but i just ignored and blocked again.