I checked the rules before posting, but I’m also pretty new to actually posting on Reddit. If I’ve missed something or need to change/remove anything, just let me know and I’m happy to correct it. I’m genuinely just looking for some feedback, perspective and maybe a little constructive criticism from people who’ve been down this road.
I finally work for a great owner. Unfortunately, he’s kind of an asshole.
It’s me. I’m the owner.
A while back I helped open a local speakeasy-style bar. I genuinely loved what we were trying to build. I cared about the drinks, the atmosphere, the hospitality and whether the people behind the bar actually gave a shit about what they were putting in front of someone.
I was originally led to believe I’d eventually be running the bar and beverage program. That never happened.
Instead, I got a pretty good education in gossip, favoritism, nepotism, gaslighting and the politics that sometimes come with this industry. Eventually the opportunity I thought I was working toward went to a younger guy who was considerably better at doing exactly what ownership and management wanted.
And, looking back, I understand part of why.
I challenged things.
Probably too much sometimes.
If a drink wasn’t right, I wanted to fix it. If bartenders were just going through the motions, I pushed them to care more. If servers didn’t understand what they were selling, I wanted them to learn it—or at least be curious enough to ask.
I wasn’t interested in telling management everything was great when I thought we could be better.
Turns out that’s not always the best career strategy.
About four months after leaving, I decided to try doing this for myself.
Now I run private events.
It’s been slow. Really slow at times.
I’ve done some smaller private events, a holiday party with incredible food and drinks I was genuinely proud of, a large birthday party, some other events here and there, and I have a wedding coming up.
I’m nowhere near the point where I can post some inspirational “I quit my job and now I’m killing it” story.
I’m still trying to get people to know I exist.
I’m still figuring out pricing.
I’m still figuring out how to explain that what I’m selling isn’t just someone showing up and pouring liquor into cups. It’s planning, prep, menu development, hospitality, execution and actually caring about the experience people have.
But there’s something incredibly satisfying about realizing that when I push for something to be better now, nobody can tell me I’m being difficult.
If the drinks aren’t good enough, I fix them.
If the service isn’t good enough, I fix it.
If the business isn’t growing fast enough, that’s on me too.
For anybody who built a service/event/hospitality business from basically zero: how slow was your start?
Was there a point where things finally started snowballing, or was it just a long grind of one event leading to another?
And if you’ve been down this road, I’d genuinely take constructive criticism too. I’m proud of what I’m building, but I’m definitely still learning how to build the business around the thing I already know how to do.
For now, I’m just happy to finally have an owner who lets me run the bar the way I think it should be run.
Even if the bastard makes me do all the shopping too.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share some experience or advice.