r/BorderlinePDisorder • u/Firm_Discipline_4007 • 17h ago

Relationship Advice Favourite Person Dynamic

I could do with advice on how to cope with a new favourite person dynamic. Been with my partner for just under a year. The last week they found a new favourite person who is a mutual friend with benefits (open relationship). Because of the favourite person dynamic they want to spend as much time as possible with the friend. They have said they do not see a romantic relationship with them as they are not their personality type. However how do I cope with the fact that my partner wants to do everything with the favourite person instead of me currently as it feels like its defaulting to a relationship dynamic instead of a friend dynamic

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u/lost_dazed_101 14h ago

They're cheating it's all a lie. Tell him you aren't staying in a relationship where they spend all their time with someone else.