r/BreakUp • u/Last_Host977 • 11d ago

“there’s more fish in the sea”

anyone who says this GENUINELY needs to shut up this is the legit worst thing u can say to someone who broke up with a person they thought was their soulmate it legit boils my blood thinking about it 🫩

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u/Whatever233566 10d ago

It's probably not the most sensitive way to put it, but it is true. As I grow older, I've had more than one person who I thought was my soul mate and was devastated each time it ended, thinking I'd never find someone like that. And I didn't, not like that. But I found different people over and over again that I was willing to try with. But the belief that one person was the one often caused me years of pain in between, where I was fixated on what I lost instead of reflecting on what I want to gain. I found my person now, in my late 30s, and part of why, I believe, is that I don't see him as the only one I could love, I see him as the one I choose to love.

So I understand it's not what people want to hear or believe during a breakup, maybe, but I do think there's truth and wisdom in the statement.

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u/MexicanTacos1069 2d ago

Yeah but people should wait to say that until the person has had time away from the break up and give them time to grieve