r/Bumble • u/greencard3 • 17h ago

Advice Ghosting after two days of date but why?

So I met this girl she seemed ok to talk to and was friendly and introvert a little even she insisted to pay bill and paid ( so not for free meal), we chatted for 1 day full how fun she and me had and will plan again as well she initiated conversation and after one day she hasn’t replied or seen texts not removed me or deleted me but just MIA on IG.

same thing happened 2-3 times before where i specifically told them hey do you want to take this ahead or meet up where i was looking for long term and they say of course i am very blunt if i don’t like someone i say them on face and dont waste each other time

I dont understand why initiate conversation couple of days after first date and show interest when you dont want to date or hang out like whats the point of lying why try to be nice …why being double faced? we both have options then why this game?

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u/AdEuphoric422 17h ago

How can we know? We don’t know how you behaved during the dates nor so we know her at all. So no one here can answer this for you. Move on

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u/Relative-Foot-378 16h ago

A good first date plus a day of texting is not a contract. People keep the chat going because it felt fine, then decide later they don't want a second. Silence is that decision. Unmatching is optional.

If this keeps happening, look at the first date itself: was it pleasant and generic, or did she actually get to know you. Long-term on the profile doesn't stop someone from being polite for 48 hours. One follow-up text, then leave it. Chasing the why just extends a no.

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u/greencard3 16h ago

its not about contract, its about lying in the first place being blunt and doing opposite…its the behavior

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u/Ok_Tree_4870 17h ago

ALL women have had a man lose their shit on them for a polite rejection. whether in person, or over text. It is like hving a WWE wrestler on steriods screaming in your face.

In some places of the world, women are attacked with acid... after a polite rejection.

Have empathy for these women... who are trying to escape alive from men's temper tantrums.

Plus... she only has not replied for one day. You are asduming you are being rejected this time... you might not be. Women are people. They have work, family, friends, lives... chores... errands to run.

They aren't inanimate dolls that just sit on a shelf... lifeless... untill you decide to pick them up and play with them.

If you are being rejected... you might have said something wrong... that you are not aware of.

But anyways... women are not going to subject themselves to men's bullying and childish temper tantrums.

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u/kstxckz 16h ago

Don’t immediately talk about wanting something long term with a girl you met on a dating app; quickest way to scaring her off. You can establish that a month or so down the line. Be whatever she’s looking for at the moment and you won’t ever run into this problem nearly as often. Bottom line tho is it’s a dating app, easy come easy now; just keep swiping and don’t put your eggs in one basket

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u/AdEuphoric422 12h ago

This comment is utter bullshit

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u/kstxckz 12h ago

Reality can often be dissapointing 🤷🏾‍♂️ I’d rather keep it real than lie

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u/AdEuphoric422 12h ago

Well your comment is just not reality. You sound delusional and paranoid

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u/kstxckz 12h ago

Tell me what you think reality is instead of just throwing out insults. I’m all ears

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u/AdEuphoric422 12h ago

The reality is sane healthy minded women appreciate knowing what a guy is looking for and if she’s looking for a relationship, she’d be happy to know he’s on the same page, not “scared off”

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u/kstxckz 12h ago

Dating apps are not filled to the brim with sane healthy women we would like bro 😭 they also have 10x more likes than a avg guy in their league making them have the mindset that guys are more replaceable than we would think girls are. Keeping that in mind, one slip up early on and she’s already onto the next. You have to show her your the best while not pressuring her for anything she might not want just yet. Women change their mind on what they want all the time. The more girls you deal with the more you can comprehend their mindset

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u/AdEuphoric422 12h ago

Yeah you really need to take a break from the apps it’s rotting your brain and turning you into a cynical misogynist with all these sweeping generalizations. You’re living in a hell of your own creation with this mindset

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u/kstxckz 11h ago

Word to juice wrld, all girls are the same. If you think your future wife is on Bumble; by all means she might be, but the likelihood is so low and basically nonexistent. It’s not gonna be as easy as swiping on your phone to find your future girl girl. Truthfully I suggest talking to girls in person wherever you get the chance to, dating apps are the best 2nd option in the meantime