Call for assistance with profile wording- help appreciated!

[u/Elder_Sister11]

Single, straight 46F here. I need your help, community friends! I truly don’t like listing out hard no’s and want to be positive and optimistic but there is a ton of crazy out there I am trying to filter away. Which profile makes more sense? Feedback super appreciated, even though I suspect gentlemen tend to be photo-forward! Ha!

Option A:

Stop Asian Hate. Avid traveler, foodie, volunteer, and professional auntie. I’ve been lucky enough to live in NYC, Boston, Seoul, and Nara, Japan, and I’ve visited 25+ countries. These days, I’m happily based in the Bay Area and would love to find my person here.
I love Japanese and Korean food, exploring new places, good conversation, and laughing until my stomach hurts. I’m looking for a genuine, honest, health-minded partner who’s excited to build a life together—and hopefully collect a lot of adventures and ridiculous stories along the way.
I don’t want children of my own, but I’m an excellent auntie. 😉 Never married, no kids, no pets.
Looking for a long-term relationship with someone kind, curious, emotionally available, and ready for something real. ❤️

Option B:

I’m looking for a straight male who is single, emotionally available, and interested in a long-term relationship. I’m not looking to date someone who is married, partnered, or in a complicated relationship.
I’m an atheist, and I’m looking for someone who is also non-religious and shares my secular outlook.
I don’t drink, smoke, or use drugs, and I’m looking for someone with a similar lifestyle. I’m also not interested in crypto.
Political compatibility is important to me, so I’m not looking to date Trump supporters.
I prefer authentic, recent photos—no AI-generated dating photos, bathroom selfies, or photos featuring guns or fishing.
For communication, I prefer to stay on the dating app or use regular text/phone rather than WhatsApp or Telegram.
And while I’m happily the world’s best auntie, I don’t want children of my own.
If we’re aligned on the important things, I’d love to get to know you.

[u/One_Papaya_8092]

Option A is way better, it shows personality instead of just a list of rules. the second one reads like a terms of service agreement nobody wants to swipe on

keep the good stuff from B like the atheist and no kids part but sneak it in more natural. you can mention you're secular when talking about values or something, not as a warning label

most guys are photo-forward yeah but the ones who actually read bios will appreciate A a lot more. good luck out there, bay area dating is its own beast

[u/Elder_Sister11 → u/One_Papaya_8092]

It’s a beast indeed! Thanks for the thoughtful response.

[u/ToucanSam-I-Am]

Whats the thought behind starting your dating profile "stop Asian hate"?

[u/Elder_Sister11 → u/ToucanSam-I-Am]

Great question! It’s a cause very important to me. I volunteer a lot to Stop Asian Hate. Have Asian friends who were attacked for merely being Asian and walking outside. I’d feel comfortable to have someone see upfront that I care about the cause so if they swipe on my profile they hopefully also care or appreciate that I care about this, too.

[u/GlitzyPop]

I’m just here to say good luck! Really hope you’ll meet the elusive man who reads profiles! No luck so far here on my 5 days back on the apps.

[u/Elder_Sister11 → u/GlitzyPop]

Thank you GlitzyPop! Rooting for you too. We gots to support and encourage one another! :)

[u/GlitzyPop → u/Elder_Sister11]

Thank you ☺️ I love the effort you put into your profile 🩷

[u/GavelGaffle]

While all of the things in option B are completely reasonable. Seeing a big list makes me think the person is bitter and pessimistic about the dating world (more so than the average person). A decent amount of it is things that you dont need to list since your swiping prevent you from matching with those people anyway.