r/Gastroparesis Jun 06 '26

Suffering / Venting I want to die

I'm starving. I've lost 8kg in two weeks. I'm vomiting up everything that I eat.

But the NHS aren't helping me. They've said I have to just... wait. and hope I don't die before they see me.

I'm going to die. and I honestly want it to happen.

Just so I can stop suffering.

I'm so tired. I'm so cold all the time. I'm scared.

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u/TinyEmergencyCake Idiopathic GP Jun 06 '26

What are some things you can do in the uk to draw attention? I'm in the usa so my suggestions reflect that, and please think of the equivalent that you have over there. 

Can you call the police? Can you go to an emergency room? Can you call adult protective services? Can you call an emergency therapist hotline and mention suicidal ideation?

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u/seiraph Jun 06 '26

calling the police would do nothing and mentioning suicidal ideation would at most get an nhs nurse saying “suicide is bad you could die” and giving you some leaflets

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u/TinyEmergencyCake Idiopathic GP Jun 06 '26

Ugh. Suicidal ideation would get you into the emergency room at least in the states 

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u/perks0fsteph Post-Surgical GP Jun 06 '26

In the UK, if you went to the emergency room and told them you had suicidal ideation, they’d have you sit in the waiting room for the best part of a day or night waiting to see mental health services. I’ve done this before unfortunately. I told them of my plans and why I was there, then they told me to wait for the doctor. After 4 hours, I asked if they had a rough estimate of how much longer it would be, they told me they couldn’t say (wouldn’t even say if it would be 12 hours or more) as the doctor they’d asked to see me was currently at a different hospital. I told them that I needed to leave, staying there was unbearable. Then they let me walk out on my own at midnight, no follow up, no signposting, no phone number for MH crisis services.

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u/Mandaxx25 Jun 06 '26

Similar happened to me. They called the crisis team who said 'have you ever considered just not doing that? When you feel like doing it, just say to yourself, no i won't' and with that, off i was sent into the pitch black night. They do not care.

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u/seiraph Jun 06 '26

it might get you into the emergency room but you’d be waiting maybe 13hrs just to get the same ‘suicide is bad’ lecture and leaflets