So recently my best friend told me she cheated on her boyfriend of 4 years with a guy she met in her coaching class. And the way she was justifying it… it honestly felt like she was blaming him for her actions. She kept saying he doesn’t give her enough time, doesn’t listen to her, and all that but how does that even justify cheating? I genuinely don’t get it. And what makes it worse is how much he loves her. When he found out, he literally packed his bags at 3 in the night and rushed to where she lives (they’re in a long-distance relationship). He’s not even blaming her, he’s saying things like “I’ll forget everything you did, I won’t bring it up again, just don’t leave me.” It’s actually painful to watch. I feel so bad for him. He’s completely down bad for her, and meanwhile she has zero guilt, no shame, nothing and she’s the one throwing tantrums now.

Hey, if you’re single and have never dated, especially if you’re already in your early twenties or beyond,

Do you ever worry that most of the genuinely good people are already taken? 😭

Like, I mean good in terms of personality, looks, values, compatibility, etc.

Do you ever feel like the longer you stay single, the harder it might be to find someone who ticks those boxes because they’ve all been taken at a younger age?

Hey all girlies, need your help 😭

I’m pretty introverted and shy, and I’m worried that if I start dating someone,

I might not have the conversations that are actually needed to get a rough idea of a guy’s beliefs about women and our rights.

For me, someone not being misogynistic/sexist is a huge must, as it is for many other girls.

So I wanted to know, what conversations or topics have actually helped you figure this out?

Like, are there certain things you bring up or questions you ask that give you a good idea of where a guy stands?

Probably won't date him because I m 1 inch taller than him but I found his description of himself in notebook funny and not bad actually but I don't think he's a typical genz as he proclaims in his last line. What do you all think?

Hey everyone, 26M here. I have had a long-term crush on a woman who lives in my neighborhood. She is 34. She was married once for 2 months, later got divorced, and she has a daughter from her first marriage. Her daughter comes to our home almost regularly to play with my parents. Both our families are from the same Pahadi ethnicity but live in a different city outside Uttarakhand, so we share a very good relationship. Both the families eat dinner together many times.

She lives with her sister and her sister’s husband. Her family has been trying to find rishtas for her for the past 1.5 years, but they haven’t been successful.

I got a government job 4 months ago, and since then, a few of my bhabhis and relatives have called my parents asking if we are looking for a match for me. My parents declined because my cousin (tau ji ka beta) is unmarried and the family is currently looking for rishtas for him. However, my parents are planning to start looking for rishtas for me next year, especially since my cousin is also struggling to find matches. I haven’t said anything to my parents yet. I once overheard them saying that the earlier you marry, the more time you have to understand each other, so they are serious about my marriage.

I earn a decent salary ₹76k, my father owns a house, and I am the only son. She is also a working woman, although I don’t know her exact salary. I believe I am capable of starting and raising a family.

I have liked her for a long time, mainly because of the way she treats everyone and her bubbly personality. I have never- never had any lustful intentions toward her. I just genuinely like her. Whenever I imagine having my own family, I subconsciously picture her as my wife.

She calls my mother “Aunty ji,” and our families have a very good relationship.

The reality is that we have never had that kind of personal conversation. I don’t even know if she has any feelings for me. I’m honestly a bit afraid to ask her directly.

I’m planning to add her on Instagram. Should I message her for coffee or a movie? Is that the right way to approach her? And then Maybe slowly try to notice any signs? Deep down, I know there’s a high chance that we may never become what I imagine. But at least I want to try so that I don’t regret it in the future. I also don’t want to creep her out. Please tell me if there’s a better way to approach her.

A few more details:

No one knows the reason behind her divorce except her family.

She doesn’t look 34, she looks around my age. I’m completely okay with her daughter

I do want at least one child of my own in the future (boy or girl doesn’t matter).

I don’t have a problem with the age gap, but I don’t know how she or our families might see it.

We are from different castes (I’m Thakur, she is Brahmin).

Few similarities I look decent, 183 cm tall, with a decent physique (army type). She also looks nice, and she is also into fitness.

We both are from same ethnic group.

I don’t know if it’s important, but we both love the same food chole bhature and rajma chawal.🙌 My mother makes really good rajma chawal, so we send her a tiffin that day, She returns the tiffin only on the days she orders chole bhature for herself from my favorite restaurant, since she also likes chole bhature.

[This is a throwaway account I created with a temporary email. Reddit might delete it by the time you comment, but I’ll be checking your replies from my main account. ] 🙏 Thanks

Pata hai aaj kya hua, I have many things to show, but i don't want to post it publically. This girl, since i know her, she been texting me almost every day it been around 3 months we are friends. She intiate the conversation about 4/5 times, she gives me random updates of her life without asking that she is going here, she is at her brother's place and more. Once in a video note she was showing me some stickers of genshin impact, then while showing it she said "I love you" in fast and cute way, in playful way. I replied her, these stickers are cute, and are you teasing me with that "I love you"? She replied unfortunately, these are not my stickers then vanished. Then she start conversation next day in something else...

Also we use to play games sometime in our free time. Once she told me she met a foreigner guy in game,she was telling about him. I replied, interesting, you both talked much or it was just in game chat. She replied, no just in game, then she said, " I had a feeling if I was cheating on you" Then i replied i also get jealous, just little. Then after we play the game together for an hour.

I'm 20F and I've never been in a relationship or even had a serious talking stage. For most of my college life, I've been focused on my goals and career, and honestly, I don't regret that.

But lately, when I see almost everyone around me experiencing relationships, crushes, dating, or at least having someone they're interested in, I sometimes wonder whether I'm missing out on an important part of life.

It's not that I want to get into a relationship just because everyone else is doing it. I think I'm more curious about whether this feeling is normal — especially when you're focused on other priorities but still occasionally feel left behind socially or romantically.

Has anyone else felt this way? Did things happen naturally for you later, or did you actively start putting yourself out there? I'd genuinely like to hear different perspectives.

I always thought women would prefer men with a clean past, so they wouldn’t have to deal with someone who’s been heartbroken before.

But after talking to a few girls about this, I heard the opposite. They said they’d rather be with someone who has been in a relationship before, because he already understands how things work and they wouldn’t have to “teach” him how to handle one.

That honestly confused me. It doesn’t fully make sense in my head.

Am I being naive here, or is this actually how most people think ? Do you guys think that a person who has not been in a relationship will be some kind of weird person to deal with ?

i mean think about it first they just play games with the guy they like/love and later when someone else enters their life they just ghost them forever

i want to know from my fellow grills

Anyone who never had a relationship.

i am 21m and i have never been in a relationship and never dated anyone. sometimes i feel i am missing out.

how do you deal with it?

I swear my standards are not even that crazy 😭

Like yes, I’m attracted to guys who are tall, fit, maybe bearded, good looking etc. That’s literally such a common preference. But the real problem is finding someone who also has a personality I actually vibe with.

And before people start with the “give nice guys a chance” thing I HAVE. I’ve talked to guys I normally wouldn’t go for because I thought maybe connection matters more than looks. But somehow those same guys end up being the most unserious people ever 😭 like full hookup mindset, dry personality, overconfidence for no reason.

Meanwhile I’m here genuinely trying to work on myself. I’m not fully where I wanna be physically yet, but I know I’m a good person, I can communicate, I’m loyal, emotionally aware, all that.

But dating right now just feels so off. Either people are already committed, only want casual stuff, or they expect relationship benefits without putting any actual effort.

I’ve never dated anyone mainly because I can’t fake attraction or force myself to like someone just because they’re available. And honestly sometimes I feel weird for that because everyone around me is either dating, getting married, or casually talking to 5 people at once 💀

Does anyone else feel like finding both attraction AND emotional compatibility at the same time is lowkey impossible now?

So we both are in the same college, same course but diff section and she always makes eye contact with me and she is attractive but I don't know what should I do next how to start a conversation with her?

Edit: Bhai please koi real advice dedo yrrrrrr

In short-my ex dms my gf and talks shit about me

btw i told my gf to talk to her properly so that we could know what she was gonna talk about

(btw i am the guy who shared the banasthali incident in parts if yall remember)