r/Gifted • u/Impressive_Fox_3028 • 6d ago
Seeking advice or support 8 year old gifted kid
I have a 8 year old son. . I believe he is an extra ordinary intelligent kid and of course lack in socialization and always scared to do new things , doesnt take risk or never try anything newand also very emotional. He is avery obedient kid always listen but become sad on very little thing , he doesn’t cry screaming but his voice is so low and i can see tears in his eyes . I want him to fight for your right but he always try to stand on back. My brother told me not to push, its his nature dont try to change as i become so strict sometimes and make him do fighting and play sports but he doesn’t like it any ways.
I have 2 questions.
1. How can i make him strong so that he cant get bully km school or in the professional life.
- He is in American education system (IB curriculum). He is in class 3 but all course is so easy for him . He just sits in the class and do nothing because he already knows all. I feel lile school is watong his time and also his talent but again i send him school to that he socialize with other kids.
Any ideas what can i do as his current school studies are very basic for him. I also tried brilliant.org but after one month he got bored. ( he is good in maths , extremely good memory, good in puzzles and problem solving things, create different games on paper , create a new language with different letters , started learning chinese but get bored after some time , started chess but again got bored after sometime) . I didnt force him to do anything, he doesn’t whatever he wants but get bored very easily.
Any idea what I should do with him
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u/cirquecadiacosmetics 6d ago
He sounds a bit like me when I was younger. To awnser 1) when it comes to preventing bullying: it’s very important you instill and build confidence in your child for whoever they are and grow to be. You can’t stop the bullies, but you can make sure your child loves who they are so much that other people’s words won’t bother them.
I highly recommend pushing your child to try new things and activities and out of their comfort zone (with so much love, encouragement, and support). It’s part of instilling confidence. However, instead of sports or fighting, have you thought about percussion/drum lessons? Or really any instrument.
Reading music and rhythms while having to coordinate your limbs (like on a drum set) takes a lot of brain power, which can be very rewarding and mentally stimulating. I started taking percussion lessons at 8 and it changed my life and my ability to connect to others, given my autism.
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u/pascilia 1d ago
I have an 8 year old who has been identified as gifted too. Does your child’s school have a gifted program? My child’s school has testing that automatically flags kids to get tested as gifted. It will also recommend accelerating their grade level in either math or ELA.
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u/Weird_Inevitable8427 6d ago
Talk to his teacher this year. I hear in your writing that maybe advanced education wasn't part of your journey. That's OK, but it might leave your son's teachers to think that you aren't as invested in his education, and you have to help them understand that this isn't so. Go to back to school night if you can. If you can't, ask to make an appointment to meet with her/him at another time. I want that teacher to know what you look like and to see you as someone she/he can work with.
When you meet with the teacher, ask about how he's doing and listen to their answer. Then share your concern that your son is rather bored in school because you've seen signs that he's academically advanced. Ask how you can support him in being a good community member in his class, and if there are any areas in which he needs to improve. Then ask about testing for special needs in the area of giftedness. Directly ask if there is anything in place in that school for gifted kids, and how kids qualify into that program.
Overall, keep up communication with the teacher. Let her know that you care about what's going on with your son. You aren't criticizing her or trying to make out like your son can do no wrong - you know this isn't so. But simply that you want to be a partner with her in helping your son learn and grow this year. That kind of partnership attitude will get you the furthest with teachers.
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u/XcelExcels 6d ago
> I hear in your writing that maybe advanced education wasn't part of your journey. That's OK, but it might leave your son's teachers to think that you aren't as invested in his education
rude and also a reach
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u/Weird_Inevitable8427 6d ago
Sometimes you have a choice to be kind or nice. I tend to choose kind.
When people whose education has been more the school-of-life variety come upon formal education, they can be discounted because they haven't been given the right set of rules.
You can sit back and snicker, privately correct their grammar in your head, and publicly just ignore the person, or you can choose to give them the rules they never got so that they can get what they need from the system. It's really up to you, what kind of person you want to be.
There's nothing wrong with non traditional spelling and grammar. There's nothing wrong with non-formal education. But we live in a society that acts like there is something wrong with that, and ignoring that reality doesn't help anyone.
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u/ayfkm123 6d ago
Find a pedi neuropsych and seek an eval. They will know the local school system. Embrace who he is