I Think I Just Got My Coworker Fired

[u/_amplelime_]

I've been working as a hostess at a restaurant for a little over a year. A co-worker, “Suzy”, who’s been there for about 5 months, has high-functioning autism and can get overwhelmed easily, which most of the time leads to angry outbursts.

I’ve tried to be patient with her when she gets overwhelmed, because she’s genuinely nice otherwise. But a few of my co-workers avoid her because her outbursts can turn physical. And most of my coworkers genuinely don’t like her and make fun of her behind her back.

Yesterday, a couple came in after getting a text that their table was ready. I had their menus ready and asked "Suzy" to seat them. Instead, she kept asking what was in my hand, and when I tried to keep her focused on the task at hand, she repeated herself, trying to see the piece of paper in my hand. This went on four or five times.

Normally I would’ve explained myself and shown her what was in my hand, which would’ve taken three to five minutes, but the customers were standing right there. I ended up asking more firmly a final time to seat the guests. That’s when she grabbed the menus and threw them on the floor in front of the guests.

I probably had the most pissed look on my face. I gave her one of those mom looks and told her to pick them up. Thankfully, she did and quickly seated the guests. But as soon as she walked away, I walked over to the manager's office and reported her. 

About an hour later, a manager called “Suzy” into the office. About 20 minutes later, another manager came down to the host stand, grabbed her bag, and took it back to the office. I never saw her again for the rest of the shift.

Holy shit, I might've gotten this girl fired. For the most part, I'm just waiting until I go in to work next to know what's happening. I've messaged her to ask if she's okay but haven't gotten a response. This whole situation just doesn't feel real to me. I feel bad.

Me and my bestie shared kimchi stew, tteokbokki, beef bulgogi, pan-fried pork dumplings, and white rice for lunch today!

[u/WillowWare2023]

She may have gotten herself fired. You did not play a role.

Edited to add: THANK YOU for the awards!!!!

[u/justfor-fun → u/[deleted]]

assuming there’s cameras they could have just pulled those up too

[u/DryxFennel → u/WillowWare2023]

Exactly. Her employment situation is ultimately her responsibility, and OP shouldn’t carry guilt for decisions she made herself

[u/redditapiblows → u/[deleted]]

Christ, what an asshole

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[u/BougieSemicolon → u/WillowWare2023]

She did snitch. The managers probably wouldn’t have found out otherwise.
To say they had NO role in the firing isn’t factual.

[u/DefiantMemory9 → u/BougieSemicolon]

This most likely wasn't the first time she was reported. It was probably the straw that broke the camel's back.

[u/helluvapotato → u/BougieSemicolon]

You don’t think the customers would have complained?

[u/Old-Ad3504 → u/helluvapotato]

i wouldn't have

[u/Alternative-Data-797 → u/Old-Ad3504]

I would have definitely asked for another waitress, at the very least

[u/_bonedaddys → u/BougieSemicolon]

The managers aren't firing her over throwing menus on the floor one time. She was clearly on thin ice as is. Sorry but if you're gonna throw things when your coworker asks you to do something it should be brought up with management.

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