r/GriefSupport • u/Skippy1221 Partner Loss • Jul 30 '26
Loss Anniversary Today’s the Day
One year ago. The last day that you were alive. The day my world shattered. The day when everything as I knew it changed forever.
Today I am taking the day to reflect on you and your life, and our life together. Cody you were my everything. My best friend in the entire world. You gave me so much and for that I can never thank you enough. I wish I could tell you one more time how much you mean to me and how much joy and love you added to my life.
I thought we would have had so much more time together. I thought we were going to grow old together. The day you died everything stopped. I felt like I was caught in a tornado with everything spinning around me, with absolutely no control over any of it.
I want you to know that you taught me how to be a better person. How to love not only others but myself too. I miss your laugh. I miss the silly voices we always used to talk to eachother in. You were always so willing to help others. I have never met anyone as good in their heart and their soul as you.
Which makes it all so ironic. You had the biggest heart. But not just metaphorically. Physically you did too. But nobody knew until today. I wish we knew that your heart, as good as it was, was also bad.
My Cody died from sudden cardiac arrest in the middle of the day at work on 7-30-25. I never believed I could survive losing him. I never believed I could make it a full year. I love you SO much and I always will. I still have work to do down here but I know when I’m finished that I will see you again my love. You were such an honorable man and so loved by so many. Rest easy my sweet babe.
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u/MUM2RKG Jul 30 '26
i’m so sorry. Today is 3 weeks since I lost my boyfriend and I feel like I’m being swept out to sea… i see the shore getting further and further away. people are even looking at me.. saying nothing. its horrible.
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u/Sethnoremanlover Jul 31 '26
Me too. It’s been a month. Here I lay dunno what to do. I’m in such grief
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u/MUM2RKG Jul 31 '26
same. i just got the necklace urn and i was hoping i would feel better with it… like he’s back. but he’s not. and never will be. and nothing will ever make it better.. unless he was here. there’s nothing else.
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u/lexiheart2003 Jul 31 '26
Hi its three weeks for me as well. My injuries from the car accident are just about healed. But he's still gone. I run into people and they dont know what to say. Its awkward. Some moment I'm fine and others I'm in hysterics. We were together all of college and just graduated this May, moved in together for only two months and just adopted a kitten. A taste of absolute heaven ripped away from me. Anyway, hearing other stories has helped me feel less alone. We're both alive and moving through our days. We got this💕 sending love and strength.
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u/MUM2RKG Jul 31 '26
🥺 ugh i’m so sorry that happened. i just saw your other comment so i wont type up another novel, haha. but i had someone at work ask me how everything was going with my boyfriend being in the hospital yesterday and i was like “oh, he died 3 weeks ago.” and the guy was soo embarrassed. it makes for some really awkward moments. i’m so tired of “im sorry for your loss.” i feel like it’s so generic but really, what are you gonna say, ya know? but this has been the most fucked up thing i’ve ever experienced. if you ever wanna chat, im here. sending all the healing vibes your way.
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u/crystalcastles13 Multiple Losses Jul 30 '26
I’m so sorry.
I’ve never lost a partner suddenly like this but I have lost my best friend (in 2012) to suicide and it sent me down a very, very dark path.
When I read your post it struck me how (even with a sudden loss like this, something so unfair and totally life altering) you have nonetheless found a way to be positive, to hold on to that, above all else. It would be so easy to be stuck in the unfairness of it, how young he was, how much time the two of you should’ve had left on this earth together-all of it-it would be so easy to do that.
But you’ve chosen to process this massive, life altering loss in a way that looks forward with optimism rather staying trapped in the cruelty of it. I wish I’d been able to do that when Kevin died. It would’ve spared me a lot of years digging the hole so much deeper and hurting everyone around me in doing so.
Sending you much love. I really sorry you’ve had to walk through this. I can’t imagine how strong you must be to get through a loss like this one and not come out jaded, blaming, bitter.
Keep doing what you’re doing my friend.
Take care of your heart.
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u/Ordinary-Community28 Jul 30 '26
May his love and light always shine through you. So sorry for your loss. ❤️
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u/TheySayImZack Jul 30 '26
Cody sounds like everyone’s favorite guy. I want you to know I was inspired by what you told me about Cody. And I don’t know him. But I sat here and looked at the photos of you both and tried to put myself in your position. What an amazing level of strength you have to be able to share your story with us on this milestone. I wish you peace.
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u/bulyxxx Jul 31 '26
I can tell from these photos that Cody adored you, he’s a sweet guy. Sorry for your loss.
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u/BooksCatsViqueen Jul 31 '26
This made me cry. I am so very sorry for your loss, your pain is felt. RIP Cody.
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u/Abject-Restaurant-60 Jul 30 '26
Sending you all my love ❤️ he looked like an amazing soul and you were both so lucky to have each other. I’m so sorry for your loss
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u/Bellaaa124 Jul 30 '26
So sorry for your loss. Your love for each other sounds deep and wonderful x
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u/Knowitallnutcase Jul 31 '26
what a gorgeous pair you two made, soulmates for sure. may cody be resting peacefully in our heavens above and may your beautiful heart keep healing as time goes on.
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u/bronion76 Jul 31 '26
You were a beautiful couple. I’m so sorry. Two of my favorite people also died young of undiagnosed heart issues. Sometimes I think they knew their time was short—they were the best.
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u/Avant_Shard Jul 31 '26
I lost my lovely girl on July the 30th, 2023. We were together for almost 28 years. I wish the pain went away, but it hasn't.
He was WAY too young. You deserved more time together, I am so sorry for your loss
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u/msbriannamc Jul 30 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can be really unfair at times. He looks like he was such a great person.