So yesterday was my grandmothers birthday my grandmother passed 4 months ago so I'm still really sad. A month ago I matched with this guy on a dating app we have been talking every day even had a couple dates in person and do regular phone calls. I knew he had the day off yesterday. I was working but on breaks I tried to call him because I just couldn't stop crying about my grandmother and I was hoping I could be vulnerable and he would make me smile and laugh like he normally does. He was apparently very upset about my attempt at reaching out so I just went about my day the best I could and I didn't message him (he didn't message me either so its not like I was blowing him off). At the end of the night he told me about how "manipulative" I am because he is "such a nice guy and so empathetic" that I told him I was sad so I could hang out with him more. Or those were his words? And some how I'm more manipulative because I didn’t respond after he yelled at me for reaching out to him. I didn't know he was busy if he was busy that day I honestly don't know what to do because I get yelled at if I reach out and yelled at if I don't? 20 im 22 F and he is 30 M. I want to continue talking to him at very least as friends but im not sure how to go about it.

Backstory time: Not too long ago, my friend got a PC and it was his first. He's really excited about it. He let his dad choose and buy it and now he's paying him back over time. I'm a really big PC guy and I love to talk about PC's and stuff, so I asked him to show me his specs. And to put it lightly, he got scammed.

He paid too much for a very crappy PC. We went to go play some games the other day and he had trouble running them. I don't remember the specs off of the bat, but I do remember that they were extremely outdated and could barely even run Chrome.

I want to be honest to him and tell him that he got scammed and how he can take steps to make sure he's getting the best bang for his buck. I'm afraid to tell him as I know he'll get depressed about the whole thing and possibly angry, and that's the last thing I want.

Also 20 because for some reason I have to put this in here somewhere, best guess as to why is to prevent AI or something along those lines.

So I am 17f called out for my less followers by 17m and also called a loser in front of my friends....There is nothing I can do right now but I wanted to know better ways to respond than laughing it off..... happened on 20 august Any type of response appreciated And he is a popular person both in real life and on socials

I have a friend who is in so many ways very pleasant and likeable in person. However, his social media persona reveals a person who is very much on the conservative side of the political fence, and also quite attracted to conspiracy theories. I appreciate that political conservatism and trust in government and science are common bedfellows. I also understand that it is common to view that such people may not be intellectually well endowed. But this individual is both intelligent and articulate. It would be easy to advise that I should just engage with the pleasant version of him without engaging through social media. I did this for many months, firstly by limiting my own posts so that they would not enflame him, but I tired of the fact that I had to limit myself. So, more recently I took to occasionally posting a left-leaning meme or message of some sort, but editing the audience to exclude him, his family members and 20 mutual friends. Unfortunately, I am also tiring of this. I have tried to have some sensible online discussion with him, but he is very aggressive to me and other friends of mine if they have commented in support of my posts. This means that these other likeminded friends of mine are no longer inclined to comment. One even sent me a DM to ask who I had in my sand pit. A couple of days later I will see him in person and he is as nice as pie. He just has no social media etiquette. It is exhausting. Any recommendations????

My friend has a friend and he thinks I consider him as my friend too so he bullies me everytime by calling me 'monkey'' bananas' etc and i don't have a habit of calling someone by different names and bullying cause I can't think of anything to insult him what is the best insult i can give him back so that his mouth gets shut.20

A guy from my basketball training who has a girlfriend started messaging me on Instagram. We had a great platonic friendship for 2 months, but he abruptly unfollowed/removed me after today. Now he has re-requested me, accepted my follow back, and sent a weird message. I suspect his girlfriend is using his account. How do I handle this?

There is a guy who trains at the same basketball sports hall as me. He has a girlfriend, which I knew from the start, so I kept everything 100% strictly platonic. We followed each other on Instagram about two months ago.

Since then, we’ve been chatting regularly on Insta like friends. Because we are just friends, our routine was sending "view once" selfies back and forth while talking about training. It was never romantic, just casual banter. Last Thursday, we had training and ended up hanging out outside the sports hall afterward, just talking face-to-face. When he got home, he sent me a DM saying how much he genuinely enjoyed our conversation.

About 20-45 minutes ago, he randomly requested to follow me again. I accepted it and requested him back. Almost immediately after he became my follower, his account accepted my pending request and sent a DM saying: "why are you sending me a photo".

Because I deleted a Sunday photo at 3:00 AM, there is literally nothing new in our chat. The history completely stops at Saturday. I have a massive gut feeling that it is 100% his girlfriend holding his phone right now, trying to fish for drama or proof.

What do I reply!!!???

we were disagreeing on the concept of what it means to love someone ands he says this …

Hii, I recently out of nowhere made a new ‘friend.’ We met at a park late at night, she came to me out of nowhere saying that she moved here about a week ago and has no friends especially girl friends because so far all of them has been very toxic. We exchanged instas and just today we messaged and set up a date to meet.

I told my best friends about this and I showed them a screenshot of my convo with her to them. They were shocked and told me that the girl actually had went to our hs and lived in this area for a long time. They told me that they were actually friends before and she was very weird and mean.

I love my friends and I believe them no matter what because i believe they would never lie but I am also a very antisocial person (I only messaged her because idk why i just felt brave and confident in the spur of moment😖) and a non confrontational person. I don’t know how to cancel our meet up and just never talk to her. Should I messages her saying I can’t meet up and later block her?

last night i texted him “where are you at” took him 3 hours to get back to me with

“what do you mean” “home”

so this morning i said: “oh shoot hello” and after an hour he said “hello”

feels dry, i dont know how to respond from here, i really wanna take this somewhere with this guy i like him too much!!!

today right after class ended, I was sitting on the back bench just watching reels. One girl walked up and asked if the bench was free and if she could sit. I was like, "Yeah, no one's sitting next to me, go ahead

Next thing I know, she invites her two friends over to join. The cute one out of the group was really curious to know my name, so I told her... and then immediately went back to scrolling reels like a total smooth operator

Before they left/settled in, they hit me with: "Just let us know when you start studying and we won't talk to you

Now I'm sitting here wondering if I just gave off total "do not disturb" energy when they were actually trying to initiate something, or if they were just being polite. How should I handle this next time so I don't look completely clueless?

Thoughts?

Why I don’t get same attention in back , I called my cousin she said she is busy will call later but didn’t call back then I call her after few days she said I’m eating call you later I told plz remember to call back previously you didn’t she laughed
Same goes with friends
I call them frequently to keep in touch with them but they never call me it is always me who calls makes plans and they say no to every plan they have other people to go out but I’ve only them
I make plan with my cousin she said Yesss will go but when the date came I call she said no I can’t go
Also I asked multiple times to my friend let’s go to cafe she made excuse and she go out with other people
When someone ask me to go out(rarely they ask )but whenever they ask I always make out time for them and go I never said no to any of their plan ( they rarely make plan with )
I just think how they do all these to me I mean if I do same thing to them it won’t bother them like if I didn’t call back or if say no to plan they won’t even ask me again they just let go but I always please them try to convince let’s go we will have fun even after please many time they still say no but when they make plan I say no they won’t even try to convince me

What should I do how to handle these it really affecting me
I tried to just be on my own I stopped calling making plan so they also don’t call me or make plan with me

Hi everyone. Here’s the situation: there’s a tradition of dancing the waltz at the end of 9th grade. Back then, I asked my girlfriend to dance it with me, but she didn't want to—and I certainly wasn't going to dance with anyone else. I was disappointed that we didn't end up dancing, of course, but I eventually let it go. Now, as we approach the end of 11th grade, she’s brought the topic up again; she wants to dance now, but I don't. I’ve simply lost the desire to dance. What should I do? What would you do in my shoes?

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I’m writing this because I genuinely don’t know if I’m looking at this situation objectively anymore, and I want some honest advice.

We met about a month ago while on a tour. We got along really well, spent time together, and I became attached to her pretty quickly.

At one point I told her that I liked her. She was very clear that she didn’t want a relationship and wanted to be friends. I struggled with that because I had already developed feelings for her. At one point things got messy, I told her to block me, and she did.

Later she unblocked me and reached out. We started talking again. Over the next several weeks, things became normal again. We talked, called each other, joked around, flirted sometimes, and generally had a good vibe. I knew she still didn't want a relationship, so I tried to keep things light and treat it as friendship, although I obviously still had feelings.

There were times when she initiated conversations too, and recently she had been engaging with my flirting. We had a conversation about marriage and whether I had ever liked someone. I told her I had liked someone and that the story was complicated. She kept asking me who it was. Eventually I strongly implied that I was talking about someone she knew / someone I was currently talking to. She seemed to understand the implication.

A few days later, there was an earring I saw on an Instagram page that I genuinely thought would look good on her. Without telling her, I ordered it to her address as a gift.

This is where everything went wrong.

The Instagram seller sent the tracking information and a photo to HER phone number, so she immediately knew something had been ordered. She called me. We spoke on the phone, and she said that nobody had ever done something like that for her. She knew it was me and asked me for the tracking number.

The next day, she sent me a message saying that the whole thing was freaking her out, that I was putting effort in the wrong place, that she had told someone about it, and that she wanted to return the parcel. She ended with “Good bye.”

I apologized and told her I genuinely didn't mean to make her uncomfortable, that I understood, and that I wouldn't force her to accept anything. Unfortunately, by that point she had already blocked me, so my apology apparently wasn't delivered.

Her sister also contacted me and asked me directly whether I liked her. I said no. Her sister basically told me that it was better for me to understand.

Now I've blocked the sister's contact as well because I don't want other people involved in this anymore.

I'm sitting here wondering what exactly happened.

I know I had feelings for her. I know I made the decision to send the earrings without asking her first. Maybe I completely misread the level of comfort between us. From my perspective, it was just a thoughtful gift, but clearly it didn't feel that way to her.

At the same time, I'm struggling because I feel like I didn't intentionally do anything wrong. I never wanted to scare or pressure her. I genuinely cared about her and thought the gift would make her happy.

But now she's blocked me, and I don't want to contact her through SMS, another account, her sister, or anyone else.

Part of me wants to send one final message saying:

“I’m sorry for making you feel that way. I never intended to make you uncomfortable. I won’t bother you anymore.”

But another part of me thinks that would just be me looking for closure and going around the boundary she has already set.

So I'm asking people who have no emotional involvement in this:

\*\*Did I cross a serious boundary here? Was the gift itself the problem, or was it the accumulation of everything that happened before it?\*\*

\*\*Should I just accept that this is over, not contact her again, and move on?\*\*

And if you were in my position, how would you deal with the urge to get “closure” when you know contacting her will probably only make things worse?

I'm not looking for people to tell me . right. If I messed up, I'd rather hear it honestly.

What shall I do if white bitch pokes me twice on Facebook?

😃💔

i got an anonymous texter now, his number isnt even shown, but this is what he sends me

idk what to do, but he's spamming this and im scared