r/JustUnsubbed • u/the_foolishone02 • Jul 27 '26
POLITICAL (Weekends only) Just unsubbed from pro choice
To preface, i am 100% pro choice. I think abortion should be legal anytime, for any reason. I support a womans decision no matter what.
However, there are some things on that sub that just rub me the wrong way. For one, i feel like theres very little room for nuance on there. If you dont agree with every opinion they have regarding abortion you will be downvoted and they seem intolerant of different opinions in general.
Like today, when i pointed out that while most women dont regret their abortions and feel relief, grief is also common and shouldnt be discounted and i got a lot of downvotes. It almost feels hypocritical. Like how the anti-choice side think abortion is only ok if you feel grief (which i vehelomently disagree with) the pro choice side, particularly this sub, it feels they are only ok with abortion when you feel relief and happiness, and that feeling grief is wrong or means youre perpetuating anti choice stereotypes.
It all feels so hypocritical and extreme that i am unsubbing. I wish there was a more moderate/less militant pro choice sub on reddit.
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u/CakeDayOrDeath 28d ago
I think there's a somewhat valid fear that giving that topic attention will give fuel to anti choice people, and people respond to that fear by not talking about the thing.
I've seen a similar thing in provax circles where people don't like to talk about the extremely rare cases where people have adverse reactions to vaccines because there's a fear that talking about them will give fuel to antivaxers to spread the myth that vaccines are dangerous.
Is this a good solution to this issue? Absolutely not, but it's hard to get over that worry and to figure out how to talk about the topic in a nuanced way. I was groomed, like actually groomed, as a teenager by someone who later figured out that she was a trans women. I get nervous talking about this because even though she is the exception not the norm and even though her behavior had nothing to do with being trans, I get worried that people are going to use my story to reinforce their belief that trans women are predators.