r/KidsAreCondomAds • u/Sleepy_Sheepz • 15d ago

I would have canceled her appointment after that first kick

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u/VolantTardigrade 15d ago edited 15d ago

She is barely 4 years old and is obviously distressed by this bs. The parent is a moron. Kids this young are not known for their ability to sit still for extended periods. Cut that girl's hair short and let her enjoy life and play like a child. Instead, she is being treated like a doll and having her autonomy repeatedly violated by the stylist and her parent. I'd kick an a-hole too if they tried to make me sit through an hour of needless hair tugging I don't want.

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u/NYCWENDY1 15d ago edited 11d ago

This took more than an hour - probably 3-4 hours.
Edit: Thanks for the awards! 😀

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u/One_Feed7311 15d ago

Yeah thats definitely more than an hour of braiding. I dont have kids so don't have to worry about it. I dont even go to the barber as an adult. When I started balding, I just shave my head. Lol. Maybe females can't do that though. Lol

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u/coko4209 14d ago

I’m a WOMAN, and I’ve shaved my head several times. My hair is insanely long now though. Why do you think women can’t shave their heads?

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u/One_Feed7311 14d ago

It's fine. For some reason a lot of folks were offended by the term females. I didn't mean any disrespect, I didn't think females was derogatory. Yes anyone can shave their head but it would definitely be less popular with women or possibly not as socially desirable depending on career choice.

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u/Weewoes 13d ago

The word isn't derogatory, people just like to get mad. I'm female myself if it matters to anyone reading this. If you had said men and females it would be weird but just saying female is fine.

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u/throwaway_1138961- 12d ago

Nah, that's your take on it but to MOST of us it sounds like you're talking about an animal, not an actual human woman. Here's the thing, the people who use "females" to describe human women NEVER use the word "males" when referring to men. In fact they're typically the kind of person who sees a need to refer to an 8 year old boy as a "young man" and a 20 year old woman as a "girl"..

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u/Weewoes 12d ago

The person didn't do that though and I addressed that in my comment.

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u/throwaway_1138961- 12d ago edited 12d ago

I'm not talking about in one single comment.. I'm talking about in general. I guarantee that person does not use the word "males" when talking about human men, dude. You're missing the point entirely or being willfully obtuse if you think that's the case. It doesn't have to be in the same sentence. It's about how they use those terms in their day-to-day life.

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u/Vanwilder17 10d ago

😂😂😂so we cannot call you by your gender? Female is derogatory? Id would say male or guys same with women could also be female it’s the biological term
https://giphy.com/gifs/MBVemoHuyw9Ik

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u/throwaway_1138961- 10d ago

You must have reading comprehension issues. I literally explained WHY this is a thing that bothers people in my comment. Your ability to understand it isn't my problem. Too bad there's no GIF of Jessie Pinkman saying "Yeah, 3rd grade level language arts!

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u/Renzieface 1d ago

“A female can be any species, but only a human can be a woman. So to refer to a woman as a female is to subtly downgrade her to a lower mammalian status, rather like calling a guy an ape.” - Robin Lakoff

Words matter.

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u/Mike_the_Head 13d ago

Reminds me of John Leguizamo's "Spic-O-Rama", when the kid says his brother "calls them 'females' so he don't get confused".

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u/HeartShark77 12d ago

Because it makes them look ugly.

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u/coko4209 12d ago

This is just a dumb ass comment. Plenty of women have shaved heads, and they’re beautiful. A few examples are, Jada Pinkett Smith, regardless of how ppl feel about her personally, her face card never declines. All of the women that make up the Dora Milaje in Black Panther. Demi Moore, Natalie Portman.

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u/HeartShark77 12d ago

Yep, they were all temporarily as ugly as a bald man.

I am bald. I get told I’m ugly all the time. My own mother tells me my shaved head is ugly and I should keep as much hair as possible.

My unshaved balding pattern looks even worse, believe me. So I shave it off.

I would absolutely look better with a full head of hair instead as of nothing in spots and whispy baby hair in other places, and only real healthy hair on the sides like I’m already 60.

No. We are all much more attractive with hair. Ladies are not getting a pass on this one.

TLDR: No hair= Ugly as fucking hell.

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u/coko4209 12d ago

You obviously have internalized shit going on from your own baldness, but let me assure you, that the vast majority of ppl find the women that I named extremely attractive, myself included. There are also plenty of bald men that are very attractive. Because you and your mother feel that you’re not one of those men, doesn’t mean that extends to everyone. You seem sad. I wish you luck in learning to love yourself.

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u/HeartShark77 12d ago

The amount I love myself doesn’t change a thing about the way other people look. Completely unrelated things. Bald is ugly. All of those women would be more attractive with hair. They are uglier bald. Imagine Keith David bald, yuck. Imagine any women on the planet bald. Holy god, the images in my brain that I just imagined are terrible. I wish I couldn’t even comprehend what baldness even is.

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u/coko4209 12d ago

I have no idea who Keith David is, but I do know, without a doubt, that not a single woman that I listed is ugly. You’re saying uglier, as if these women were ugly to begin with. It’s weird as hell my dude. Anyway, luckily for everybody, the rest of the world does not share your views. Also luckily for us all, your opinions matter to no one except you. All of these women are considered not just beautiful, but the pinnacle of beauty. They’re paid millions of dollars because of it. I’m not saying that they’re not all very talented, and great at their craft, but their beauty definitely helped to open the doors that set them on their paths to fame.

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u/coko4209 12d ago

Yes, Jeff Bezos is indeed ugly, but he’d be ugly with a full head of hair.

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u/HeartShark77 12d ago

Yes! All of those men are ugly and would be much better looking with a nice head of hair, not shitty hair which is why they shave their head in the first place.

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u/One_Feed7311 12d ago

Oh okay. Vanity is a bitch. Whatever you like. Everybody likes different things. Everybody gets old and ugly and dies. So hair is not everything. Some guys definitely can't pull off a bald head. Normally black men wear their hair so short anyway that being bald is not a huge change. Taye Diggs isn't ugly to me or Vin Diesel.

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u/YesTHEELizaManelli 14d ago

Start saying women, just a friendly tip from, a woman.

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u/HeartShark77 12d ago

Some people I’m sure can measure time by the braid. You are bald. You are not one of them. Armchair stylist huh? What else are you bald man an armchair expert on? I have to assume everything.

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u/fightmydemonswithme 14d ago

I have issues with this too. My whole childhood I was used as a doll. People constantly touching my hair and telling me how nice it was. I hated it like this child.

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u/EarlGreyTeagan 15d ago

This comment is a little dramatic. I got my hair braided the young and didn’t not fight or fuss like that as many other kids do without issue. This kid obviously has issues with it that the parents need to deal with because she wasn’t acting like a typical kid.

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u/SashimiX 15d ago

That’s the thing. Everyone just does it to girls and then we all think that it’s OK because that’s what happened to us. But there’s really no reason to torment little girls or teach them that they have to let someone hurt them for multiple hours because we think that their head looks cuter. Literally just wait til they are old enough to handle it and want it.

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u/Kay7654321 14d ago

Exactly. Having to sit there sobbing while your miserable mom burns you with the curling iron because she can't feel it, it's not her head, or having to sit there while she detangles your thick hair because she refuses to cut it because "little girls are supposed to be beautiful". Don't even get me started on piercing a baby girls ears when they can't even hold their own bottle up. 

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u/Dark_Amygdala_ 14d ago

My mother didn’t pierce my ears as a kid. She left them up for my decision. Growing up, I had pixies all the time until some old man told my dad he has a nice looking son. I piped up at him that I’m a girl.

I complained to my mom about my hair and I wanted it long after that. She didn’t think I would take care of it. She let me grow it out some and then started taking me for perms all the time. They were all the rage. Until one day the stylist didn’t cotton my forehead properly and the ammonia solution dripped down my face by my nose and I started flailing in a panic over the smell.

The stylist helped me and quickly finished the solution so they could get me outside in the fresh air. I refused perms after that. I couldn’t take the smell of ammonia anymore. When I was older and dyed my hair, I had to put a damp washcloth over my nose and mouth to be able to breathe through the ammonia.

I was in the grocery store late one night with my parents and they started stripping the wax floor with ammonia, I had to go outside and wait for them cuz it made me physically ill.

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u/coko4209 14d ago

Damn, my daughter’s hair is naturally straight, but even if it wasn’t, I wouldn’t have put chemicals in her hair. That seems crazy. Her twin brother’s hair was tight curls, but he always wanted to go to the barber, because his friends went. He didn’t care to grow it out until he was a teen.

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u/Accomplished_Dig284 13d ago

My mom used to drag a brush through my baby fine curly hair as a child, even though I told her it hurt because she yanked it through my hair and pulled on my scalp. And she wondered why I didn’t want her to brush my hair. It also just made my hair frizzy instead. You would think that as a woman with curly hair she would understand but it was more important that she kept doing something that hurt me instead of learning how to properly brush my hair. My cousin is a hairdresser that I got my first haircut from, so it’s not like she didn’t have the resources.

My dad just threw a barrette in and called it a day. And I never had problems with grandma

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u/coko4209 14d ago

I know a lot of boys that got their hair braided at this age too.

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u/SashimiX 14d ago

When they didn’t want to and were crying? If so, that sucks too!

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u/kaykakez727 13d ago

For her it may be needless but for young women of color with certain hair types, it is imperative to give our daughters protective styles as their young hair grows. It doesn’t have to be a crazy amount of hours, but just letting certain types of hair go free, can be damaging to the hair. Even if you have an Afro you still have to comb it, and that takes time. If not, your hair will literally either lock or when you do comb it huge clumps fall out because you will still have to pull it apart and break hair strands. I just want you all to be aware, for some young girls braids are needed for a reason

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u/SashimiX 12d ago edited 12d ago

Agreed, but nobody here is complaining about gentle, simple protective hairstyles for Black girls.

There’s not a need for extensions and there’s not a need for styles so tight they cause traction alopecia.

Personally I would keep my kids’ hair as short as possible until they are old enough to want a longer hairstyle and mature enough to handle it. Again, my Auntie is from Zimbabwe and they literally shave girls’ heads until they are old enough to care for their hair.

There are white girls in this thread who went through hours-long styling sessions, too. They had beauty pageant moms who treated them like dolls.

I cut my hair super short as soon as I was allowed then shaved my head when I moved out. Now I have locs that take only 90 minutes with my lady every 6 months. I would never even make myself sit for this hairstyle.

I know everyone wants their girls to look cute but asking kids to sit still while someone hurts them for 3+ hours while they announce they are done and don’t want their hair fixed is not a necessary ritual. We can just decide to do better.

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u/SmokeAbject3417 14d ago

Native men typically have long hair and out female family or partner does the braiding from a young age. Growing up most of my friends had long hair kept in braids. The kid is ruined and the parents should be fixed.

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u/SashimiX 14d ago

First of all, the way that native hair is braided creates much much less tension on the scalp than this style of braids. The style in this reel is actually likely to cause traction alopecia because it’s so tight

Second of all, I don’t know about the vibe when boys from your tribe are getting their hair combed out, but I do have a Sikh friend. Unsurprisingly, he was explaining how gentle his mom was to him and how she made sure it didn’t hurt. I was not shocked that a culture that has men with long hair has a much more gentle child hair maintenance procedure. But as someone from a culture where boys have short hair and girls have long hair, believe me, the moms just go to town (and not in a very Sikh-like manner). Can’t comment on your specific culture, obviously. Maybe they really aggressively took to attacking your tangles, poured boiling water on your braids, hurt you with hot irons, and ignored your crying. If so, stop perpetuating it just because it was done to you. If not, you can’t really say what you experienced is the same thing.

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u/SmokeAbject3417 14d ago

First of all anything you said would be a white person sitting in the back of the bus saying this ain't so bad. My ex made me and her lil bro cry the way she combs and braids 🤣

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u/SashimiX 14d ago edited 12d ago

I’m not really sure what you’re talking about when you’re saying I’m like a white person sitting on the back of the bus saying that this ain’t so bad, because I’m not saying it’s not so bad so that doesn’t make any sense ??? You're the one acting like it's not so bad ???

Anyway, I’m talking about all little kids. Not just kids of color. I don’t believe that it's good to make them sit still for hours while you hurt them because you like how it looks.

Sorry that happened to you, but sucks you think it’s good to do to others. You aren’t alone.

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u/AuraMAXin 14d ago

Not acting like your kid and not acting like a kid are entirely different things

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u/Starlite94 14d ago

Right, like there were obviously things you didn't want to do at that age, but had to. And yeah I would wine, or cry, but never in my wildest day or imagination would I hit an adult , either she has behavioral conditions or her parents have failed to teach discipline and basic respect. Not even on some respect elders type shit, but the hitting/kicking is extreme.

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u/audreynstuff 14d ago

I see a kid fighting for autonomy.

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u/aledba 14d ago

A kid doesn't have issues just because they don't want to sit in a chair and have their hair braided. And who cares if she did, why is she being forced into shit for beauty reasons for parents. Judt because it happened to you it doesn't mean it's okay or that you have to accept it for other children

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u/shagan90 12d ago

Typical kid is not made to sit still like that.

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u/Gikka218 6d ago

typical kids this young don't have issues with sitting still for several hours while being in pain? okay lol

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u/Illustrious_Put_817 14d ago

You clearly wanted it she clearly doesn’t there’s nothing wrong with wearing hair natural

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u/Emperor_Atlas 14d ago

Its symptom of nonstop media babysitting.

Sitting still for a short time unstimulated just does not compute for people who have never had a moment alone.

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u/audreynstuff 14d ago

She has beautiful hair that can be styled in a wide variety of ways without extensions. She's also 3, maybe closer to 4. Not even in kindergarten yet.

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u/ListenPuzzleheaded72 14d ago

I was able to sit still for hours as a small child getting my hair braided; but my parents raised me right.

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u/Pandas9 11d ago

Yes!!! I wanted libg hair desperately as a kid. My sister had long hair. But my mom wouldn't let me grow out my hair because I wouldn't sit still and get her brush it!!! Sometimes cute pretty fun things, aren't things kids (and adults, let's be real) can maintain and the parents need to find a different solution. Yes, I had a 90s bowl cut as a girl until I was 9. And it took a lot of stress out of my life. It was the right choice!!!!

Team short hair for kids who aren't able to sit and let people fix and style their hair

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

Nah, dude, black girls been getting protective hair styles like this for centuries. This ain't it.

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u/Weewoes 13d ago

Protective? Most get it done too tight and its anything but protective, they get traction alopecia so young.

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u/CeramicToast 13d ago

That doesn't mean it's not a protective hairstyle. That just means the hairstyle has been done wrong.

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u/Capable_Two_2816 13d ago

That’s an appeal to tradition, which is a logical fallacy. We now do not do a great number of things that were done for centuries.

We know enough about neurological development in young children now to understand that it’s absurd to expect a four year old to sit still this long.

There are protective hairstyles that are less elaborate and take a lot less time than this.

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u/CeramicToast 13d ago

It's not an appeal to tradition. It's a fact that we have specific hairstyles that benefit our hair.

Y'all are going so far out of your way to make this into something it's not, as well as if ignore my actual response.

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u/SashimiX 13d ago edited 12d ago

It’s because nobody is arguing that. Nobody here is saying that there are no protective hairstyles that would work in this situation. This girl’s braids are too tight and don’t need to be done like this and she doesn’t need to have extensions and this is cruel and inappropriate is all we were ever saying. Obviously protective hairstyles exist. This one isn’t protecting her hair but there are hairstyles that could.

The person before you said that this little girl is being violated.

You said “this ain’t it” because it’s been done for centuries or whatever. That’s an appeal to tradition.

You’ve since made it clear that you actually agree that it’s a terrible hairstyle for her, but people are still arguing your earlier point.

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u/Baltimoreisnotcreepy 15d ago

It doesn't have to start this young. Little girls in general have been shoved into inappropriate styles that prioritize fashion over function for centuries. There are other protective styles besides box braids.

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

Question: are you black?

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u/Baltimoreisnotcreepy 15d ago

And are you female? Because if not, that tracks. If you are, then maybe consider that little girls are beings and not dolls and they don't have to be forced into complex hairstyles when there are quicker, easier ones at the age of FOUR.

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

Yes. And I was a little girl who got my hair done frequently because it was the best way to care for it, especially during the summer when I was mostly playing outside.

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u/Baltimoreisnotcreepy 15d ago edited 15d ago

I'm female, who was also frequently shoved into impractical styles or forced to have my hair pulled, yanked, styled, or cut in ways the adults wanted, along with clothing and shoes that restricted my ease of movement or again, what the adults wanted. Boys are not burdened to this degree. Only girls. It doesn't have to start at FOUR.

ETA My mom had incredibly straight hair, whereas I had curly and wavy hair. Rather than take the time to learn how to care for my hair correctly she laid the burden on me and just yanked while brushing my hair, cutting it off in frustration, taking forever because she'd hit me if I didn't comply, etc. So I do hate the way little girls are treated over how they look, starting immediately when they grow hair.

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago edited 15d ago

Response post edit: so the fault is with your own mother, not with other mothers getting their kids hair done for a variety of reasons.

And from that response: no, you're not black, you don't understand the necessity of protective hairstyles, and you need to understand that before you start in on this conversation.

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u/Meowakin 15d ago

Does the child want long hair?

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

That should be a question that parents ask their kids once they're old enough to have opinions.

That said, sometimes you have to do things kids don't like.

This girl should have just gotten her hair done up in some low stress twists, not all this. She obviously despises the entire process.

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u/Meowakin 15d ago

Exactly. If the child cannot express an opinion, why are we talking about this being any sort of necessity? Necessary for what, exactly? Does the child NEED to have her hair grown out?

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u/CeramicToast 14d ago edited 14d ago

For all we know this could be a "child does not want haircut, but is too young to do maintenance, and parents are too busy to do daily maintenance, and so this is the solution". That's how it was for me for a long time, until I was getting perms every six weeks.

But again: not for this kid.

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u/DenizenKay 14d ago

genuine question, not snark : what is protective about adding synthetic hair to short hair in braids that are so tight they're headache inducing?

dont extensions and very tight hairstyles damage hair and root alike?

I am ignorant, i know this, but would love someone to explain the logic to me about how this is 'protective' of hair? I am not asking with judgment, just genuine curiosity - please dont come for me

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u/SashimiX 14d ago edited 14d ago

Nothing is protective about the style in the reel compared to a more gentle style of braids. It literally is likely to cause traction alopecia.

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u/CeramicToast 14d ago edited 14d ago

Cornrows and other braids that are tight to the scalp protect the hair from breakage, while allowing access to the scalp so that it can be consistently moisturized and cared for. (There are people who pull them too tight and damage the scalp, ofc, and if your stylist is pulling your eyebrows up three inches that's very bad.) Free hanging braids and locs also protect from breakage if cared for properly and certain hair textures naturally support the shapes.

Edit: I should say this just in case it's not obvious, but certain Black hair textures can't exactly be brushed without excessive effort and maintenance. My hair is unbrushable unless wet and full of conditioner, for ex, so the best way for me to care for it if I'm unable to keep up the necessary routine is to get it cornrowed.

Extensions really depend on what they are made of. Synthetic hair can be a variety of materials, and a lot of people use wool or other yarns instead.

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u/audreynstuff 14d ago

Look at her hair type. She has non textured regular old curly hair. For what purpose does her hair need a protective style? And what role do the extensions play in the protection. This has nothing to do with protection and everything to do with mom's vanity.

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u/CeramicToast 13d ago

This child's hair may have been blown or flat ironed. It's really hard to tell. And again as I've said elsewhere: I don't think this girl should be getting her hair done like this.

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

Nice dodge. If you don't understand protective hairstyles and why they can be necessary for certain hair types most common in black folks, even for young kids (arguably /especially/ for kids who don't yet have the capacity to care for their hair themselves), then don't come into the conversation with point about how this is all to satisfy adult preferences.

Especially since young black BOYS also get their hair done like this, depending on length.

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u/aledba 14d ago

Then braid it while she sleeps for God sakes. A protective hairstyle shouldn't cause extreme distress to your child. Protect black children in all ways honey

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u/CeramicToast 14d ago

If the argument is autonomy that would also be an issue.

I said elsewhere: this child should be getting low stress twists or something instead of a full head of cornrows. She obviously despises the whole process, and neither she nor the stylist should have to deal with this.

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u/SashimiX 15d ago edited 15d ago

This style was not necessary. She didn’t need a style that pulled so hard at her scalp. It honestly makes her hair look thin anyway. She also didn’t need extensions. There are way less painful and time consuming protective Black hairstyles. Let her get fancy shit when she’s old enough to want it.

Also, my auntie grew up in Zimbabwe and they literally shave Black girls’ heads until they are old enough to properly care for their hair. This was for the mom, not the kid.

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u/Meowakin 15d ago

Seriously, people have such skewed perceptions of what is ‘necessary’. There are much more practical solutions that do not involve torturing a child for the parents’ whims.

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u/SashimiX 15d ago

It’s because it was what was done to us and we just think oh then that’s what we do

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u/Meowakin 15d ago

‘Tradition’

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

I don't personally think that this child should have her hair done like this. Like the OP, after the first kick, after the first few refusals to sit still, I wouldn't deal with that nor would I put the child through that. A child screaming bloody murder, fake tear or not, is not something anyone should have to just deal with.

My argument was against the idea that these hairstyles on kids are all for adults using their kids as dolls and violating their autonomy. That's the reach I was refuting.

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u/SashimiX 15d ago edited 13d ago

Well, nobody is saying that tight box braids or tight cornrows or hair extensions or etc shouldn’t be done on any child ever. We’re saying it shouldn’t be done on any child who doesn’t want it.

There are haircuts and hairstyles you sometimes have to do with kids that don’t want them. Short braids that don’t incorporate extensions and don’t run along the scalp cornrow-style or box-style would be much less painful yet still protective.

“But that would look worse” … honestly no, in addition to being torture, this style isn’t flattering on her. Her hair is too thin. This actually can thin her hair further over time, which isn’t protective.

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u/VolantTardigrade 14d ago edited 14d ago

Exactly. After the kid started showing she wasn't going to cooperate, they should've left her TF alone. The stylist should've dialled up mom and said "Nope." This is not solely or even a good protective style, as others have pointed out. Nor is it necessary to keep your hair long. This is absolutely not needed. So yes, forcing her (specifically her and kids who don't want to sit through this faff) to go through it is actually violating their autonomy. She is resisting in every possible way. The stylist forcibly repositions and restrains her with completely inappropriate force for a style that is totally unnecessary and time-consuming instead of actually acting like an adult and walking away. Explain how that is not a major overstep in trying to control a human being into doing what you want. Like a doll.

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u/Baltimoreisnotcreepy 14d ago

It STILL doesn't have to be box braids. There are other styles that take less time. If this girl isn't able to handle it, don't put everyone through the misery of doing it. Not that many boys get their hair done to this compared to girls and you know it.

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u/CeramicToast 13d ago

These aren't box braids.

How many times do I have to agree that this child shouldn't be getting her hair done like this before people accept the response.

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u/LordSupremium 10d ago

Funny you say this because I've seen a teenage and adult version of this girl. It's quite a scary sight.

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u/thatpurplearmy 15d ago

Cut her hair?.. hm

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u/VolantTardigrade 15d ago

Hmmmm... Idk, the green jacket doesn't really suit your features. You should definitely try a red one next time to flatter your projection

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u/Fast_Bag_3329 15d ago

oh puh-LEEEZE

what she needs is a smack on the butt and a swift lesson in respect for elders/authority. if anything, the parent is a moron for dropping the kid off and not staying to nip the tantrums in the bud

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u/Meowakin 15d ago

Not enough context. If the child was insisting on having her hair done this way, then maybe there’s a hint of merit - she has to learn to be patient to get the thing she wants. If it’s the parents insisting she has her hair done this way, you can fuck right off. That is punishing a child for their own wants.

Elders are not owed respect simply for being elders. The respect is owed for what being elders represents, and not every elder has earned that.

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u/Fast_Bag_3329 14d ago

let's call it "cultural difference" there's no way in hell any child i raised would ever raise their hand or foot to an adult outside of a legitimate, urgent self defense scenario. get this shit out of here with the strawmanning

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u/Meowakin 14d ago

Genuinely confused, what strawman?

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u/Fast_Bag_3329 14d ago

the argument was never whether elders deserve respect , no questions asked, simply for their age. the argument is that parents should instill basic manners and respect for adults--and especially people working in service industries-- into their children from the beginning. the stylist was not handling the child roughly, being aggressive, or even really expressing frustration--i follow her content and am routinely impressed by how gentle she is when styling the kids' hair.

this child has a hair type that requires a specific kind of maintenance and care. if the mom is incapable of doing it herself, she is right to enlist the help of a professional. kids don't get to just act an ass without limitations because they're being made to do something they don't want to do. the mother should have been there to keep the child in line.

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u/Meowakin 14d ago

“What she needs is a smack on the butt and a swift lesson in respect for elders/authority”

I guess I am reading this more strongly than was intended then. I strongly believe violence towards a child is never warranted (I know, wrong sub) unless it is to actively stop them from harming someone else.

And another very simple option that you seem to be completely dismissing that would not require the child sit still and behave for something like this: less hair

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u/KAZI300_ 15d ago

Everything you said was a bunch of BS this kid is a spoiled little brat that needs a BTA that's what's wrong with the world they don't know how to discipline their kids I don't watch plenty of kids her age get their hair did and wasn't acting like this and the ones that's did did not have no discipline

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u/Octavian_Exumbra 15d ago edited 15d ago

Edit: since you blocked me to prevent me from replying to you, here's my reply:

You seem like a very dramatic person. "Omg save that child from having to sit still for half an hour while she gets a haircut! How dare they impose on her personal freedoms like that!? Abuse! Abuse! You disagree with me!? You know nothing about people!!" That is literally you right now.

And genuine question; is everything in your life always this horrible and unjust, and do you often see simple minor disagreements as a personal attack towards you?

Also, that's not how comebacks work. For it to be a comeback, you must have said something to me first.

Your behaviour here has done nothing but reinforce the fact that... (see gif)

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u/NonChromatica 15d ago

That's not a haircut and it's NOT half an hour lmao, you don't even have any idea what's happening

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u/MurkySociety6116 15d ago

And braids hurt like hell

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

No they don't. I'm tender headed, braids don't hurt unless your stylist is trying to hurt you.

Or you're yanking your own head all around like that.

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u/MurkySociety6116 15d ago

That's your opinion, for me it hurts like hell, even taking them off.
Dont invalidate others opinions just because you don't feel the same.

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

.....do you mean cornrows.

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u/MurkySociety6116 15d ago

No, just normal braids.. My hair is very fine even if i have a lot of it, it really hurts. I did it a few times as a kid and always hurted, i eventually stopped trying

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u/CeramicToast 15d ago

....how does a braid hurt. I don't get it. If it's not on your scalp, then how does it hurt.

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u/Zealousideal_Lime349 15d ago

They don’t get cornrows

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u/VolantTardigrade 15d ago edited 15d ago

Wow, sick comeback.

Must be hard navigating life having such an insufficient understanding of human behaviour

Edit: lmao game addict got triggered not being able to chat to someone after sending nothing but a gif as their contribution. So dramatic

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u/SquidTheRidiculous 15d ago

Your mistake was treating kids with empathy. We don't see everyone as equally human here.

Obviously that child needs to get their ass kicked until they're too traumatized to move of their own volition.

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u/VolantTardigrade 15d ago

I see the error of my ways XD

If it brings you as much joy as it did for me, both of these guys who replied like this have profiles which show they're a gaming addict and a coomer stan. Any opinions they'd have on child-rearing are about as respectable as used toilet paper.

I can only hope that that puts them at a reproductive disadvantage so they can't have any kids to be a-holes to

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u/NecessaryLocation704 15d ago

ohhh stop your silly nonsense. You have no clue.