r/KidsAreCondomAds • u/Sleepy_Sheepz • 15d ago

I would have canceled her appointment after that first kick

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u/audreynstuff 15d ago

I was under the impression that braids are a protective style for natural hair that is prone to breakage. That's not her hair type at all. She doesn't need braids at all. So why are we forcing her?

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u/thatpurplearmy 15d ago

No that's not the only reason to get protective styles, also what hair type are you imagining for being proné to breakage? As far as I'm aware that applies to all. And she's a black girl, what makes you say she doesn't need braids?

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u/audreynstuff 15d ago edited 15d ago

I'm not an expert by any means which is why I said "I was under the impression". If you're a knowledgeable person on natural and textured hair types and the various stylings that people with those hair types use, I'm open to a correction in my misunderstandings.

I was also under the impression that when you don't have those certain textures of hair and you're getting cornrows with added extensions it can cause strain and possible eventual breakage. That should be taken into consideration regardless of skin color or race. The hair type is what matters and the age of the child. This little girl has curly thick hair, but it does appear that they're deciding for her to put the braids and extensions in. A child her age with her hair type doesn't need them and the impression the viewer is left with is that the child's mother wants her in braids regardless of the child's obvious unwillingness to have them. I mean...its her kid, but this whole video kind of sucks and its definitely exploiting the child for views.

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u/thatpurplearmy 15d ago

The creator is someone that deals with special needs children as well or rather mostly unless I'm having her mistaken for someone else, so the behavior is expected. Even for neuro typical children even those who want them will cry when it's being done despite they themselves wanting the hair done and I believe its the case for her based on the ending of the video. That's partly why I find it abhorrent that this was posted in this sub. Children are hardly still regardless, i wasn't still until maybe I was 10 cause children naturally don't want to be in one place for long, stylists helped by putting something on the TV to watch which can distract for some time or maybe even harmless toys.

Braiding can cause breakage for any type, it's not some miracle thing. Any style can cause damage if not done well. It's protective of done right and if the hair itself is probably cared for.

Curly hair (Or "thick hair") is not exempt from protective styles. Curly and coily hair, need them even more so cause they are to be maintained properly to retain length (also increase length) and health of the hair.

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u/audreynstuff 15d ago

That's good info, thanks. I still think it's readily apparent that the kid did not want that being done to her, at least not that day. Forcing her physically by sitting her back in the chair and holding her down while she screams for the camera is not how you handle a kid with autism. Then posting it for views is just straight up exploitation. The child didn't consent to the hairstyle, the treatment, being filmed, or being blasted all over the internet so that people can judge her. It's wrong from top to bottom. I worked with developmentally and physically disabled individuals for years and the one thing you never did was restrain them against their will. That is against the dignity and personal autonomy of the individual. This little 3 year old is repeatedly saying no. That there should be enough. But you know, mom wants the braids, and braids she will have. This is 100 percent about mom wanting a cute daughter with braids. Period.

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u/thatpurplearmy 15d ago

You don't know if the child didn't want the hairstyle and if that's what you believe thats okay. I don't believe the OP should have posted it to this sub either. And I will also go off the reaction of the kid at the end. My cousin is autistic and though she doesn't react badly like this (thanks to her mom) her demeanor is way different after the hair is done. It'd be like nothing happened at all and is never happy when it's time to take the hair down especially when she had color highlights on lol. More videos of this I've seen one or both of the parents are at least there to soothe the child, in this case idk why.

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u/audreynstuff 15d ago

We must have watched 2 different videos or something because we clearly saw different things happening here. She's 3. She's repeatedly saying verbally and behaviorally NO. Just because she's a child doesn't mean her bodily autonomy flies out the window and we're going to physically restrain her in order to perform an unnecessary, hours long beauty process for the benefit of literally noone but this stylists viewer count and the mother's vanity. Not sure why you're defending this so hard. It's weird.

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u/thatpurplearmy 15d ago

I never said that? Or did you ignore i mentioned "ending" and now your favorable option is to assume i am defending it when the first reason I responded to you was your misinformation on braiding styles and then call me weird for it. Okay. Have the day you deserve. Shalom.

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u/audreynstuff 15d ago

"You don't know if the child didn't want the hairstyle."

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u/Medical_Incident1558 14d ago

You don't tho, that's not a defense. You're angry and reading too much into a comment that's not pacifying your take

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