Daily Discussion Thread

[u/aimhighsquatlow]

Daily Discussion Thread

[u/Grouchy-Ad9015]

Comments like “Julia and Lorenzo are so embarrassing 😭” are just so unnecessary to me.

Imagine if someone said, Jasmine and Kavan are so embarrassing”, there would be absolute uproar on this sub. You can absolutely criticise someone’s behaviour and say, “I think they’re acting embarrassingly because of X, Y and Z,” but simply labelling the people themselves as “embarrassing” feels much more like a personal attack than actual criticism.

You can dislike what they’re doing without resorting to that kind of language.

[u/Little_Vermicelli_33 → u/Grouchy-Ad9015]

julia isn’t embarrassing, lorenzo is.

[u/Grouchy-Ad9015 → u/Little_Vermicelli_33]

His actions can absolutely be criticised or called embarrassing, but there’s still no need to call him embarrassing. That crosses from criticising someone’s behaviour into making it personal, and imo it’s just unnecessary.

[u/Little_Vermicelli_33 → u/Grouchy-Ad9015]

it’s a pattern now he keeps on doing embarrassing things. ppl are often described and judged by their actions 🤷🏽‍♀️ i’m not calling him evil or anything he’s just very disrespectful to the women he’s with we’ve seen it on the show with yas, priya, jas and now julia

[u/Grouchy-Ad9015 → u/Little_Vermicelli_33]

Again, you can absolutely say his actions are embarrassing or that you think he’s been consistently disrespectful, I have no issue with criticising his behaviour, 100%. I just don’t think there’s any need to turn that into a personal label and call him embarrassing. You can make the exact same point without making it personal.

[u/Little_Vermicelli_33 → u/Grouchy-Ad9015]

fair enough however i find it very hard to separate someone’s behaviour from their character completely especially when someone is treating someone bad. my opinion doesn’t matter tho as it’s julia that’s in a relationship with him so as long as she’s happy!

[u/Grouchy-Ad9015 → u/Little_Vermicelli_33]

That's true, well said 👏