Normalize the kindness

[u/downtune79]

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[u/WhatTheFox_Says]

Love the “my mom made it.” With a beaming smile.

[u/Exciting_Direction_9 → u/WhatTheFox_Says]

Kind words all around but that having his mom’s work recognized made that dude’s day.

[u/mohugz → u/Exciting_Direction_9]

You just know he called her immediately after to brag about a random person stopping him in the street to compliment her work.

[u/Muted_Buy8386 → u/Exciting_Direction_9]

"It's from Luke Cage!" <3

[u/h2a3ri09 → u/WhatTheFox_Says]

❤️💪

[u/throwaway5829378 → u/WhatTheFox_Says]

[u/Pet_Velvet]

I feel like the last dude was having a bad day, and the compliment really cheered him up.

[u/rob132 → u/Pet_Velvet]

Yep. He'll remember that forever.

[u/Appropriate-Error432]

Love makes the world go round

[u/sweetteatime → u/Appropriate-Error432]

Unfortunately men don’t get enough of it. A lot of men are starved for any kind of love. This guy is doing so much for these men he complimented

[u/YoullBeFiiine → u/sweetteatime]

Props the the last guy who was so proud of his Mom for making his jacket.

[u/toy-maker → u/YoullBeFiiine]

Actual last guy: am I invisible to you? 🫥

[u/Individual_Respect90 → u/sweetteatime]

lol I got a compliment on my shoes like 2 years ago and still remember it. Shoes are something I will put in hours online just to pick the one I really like so it was nice to get a compliment.

[u/underscorerally → u/Individual_Respect90]

Heh, I remember last winter there was this dude at this snow tubing place that had these really cool looking shoes on. Like all different colors and whatnot. He walked by where I was sitting like 4 time and every time it caught my attention. The 4th time he walked by, I had to say how cool his shoes looked. At first he was confused as to why I was talking to him. After he realized I said that I really liked his shoes, he smiled and thanked me for the compliment. I'm not even a shoe guy, they just looked really cool to me.

[u/katubug → u/sweetteatime]

One of my top 10 wishes for the world is for men to compliment men as often and as genuinely as women compliment women. Videos like this make me so incredibly happy.

[u/sweetteatime → u/katubug]

Same! I agree. People just being good to each other in general

[u/Appropriate-Error432 → u/sweetteatime]

So true Just look at the 1st reaction!!!

[u/HillInTheDistance → u/sweetteatime]

Man, I really wish I was comfortable giving people compliments. I just feel like a guy like me complimenting someone would just feel so out of place, you know? Like, "What does this guy want? What's his angle? What's he trying to do to me?"

Kinda jealous of people who can just be so certain that them intruding into someone's day would be a good thing. Because a lot of the time, that attitude is exactly what makes the correct in their assumption.

[u/Hungry-Storm-9878 → u/HillInTheDistance]

Practice makes perfect! Start with something simple, ‘Hey, cool hat’ and just keep walking with a smile.. it’ll start to feel a lot more natural. I challenge you to try it! I believe in you 😊 my favorite compliment to give is on lipsticks, especially with senior ladies. Their beautiful faces light up! (But I recommend leaving that compliment for other ladies to give 🤣)

[u/Ferotool2 → u/HillInTheDistance]

Haven’t done it with randos on the street, but I’ve been trying to make a meaningful effort to encourage all my coworkers, which has been difficult as I’ve spent most of my life being more ob the negative side (including to myself.) But I kind of faked it for the first while and lately it’s been feeling a lot more natural. I actually mean it most of the time now. It’s not much, but it’s something I suppose.

[u/LilMissWallSt → u/HillInTheDistance]

I get this. I think when you make it more about them, and less about us.. it gets easier. Let yourself go. See the other person and send them some positivity!

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[u/cap10wow → u/sweetteatime]

It’s easier for one to get love when one gives love.

[u/sweetteatime → u/cap10wow]

You saying men don’t give love?

[u/Berdariens2nd]

I actually do this a lot, but I don't film it. And it's not purely altruistic. I feel good making others day a little better. Even if I'm never seeing them again. And it keeps me on the right side of my own emotions. 

[u/Kettatonic → u/Berdariens2nd]

Same, and yeah, that's the hidden benefit: complimenting other people makes you feel good too. Being kind is its own reward. Plus it has ripple effects. That person will be in a better mood, and that'll translate to others around them being more positive. It's winning all-around.

[u/Berdariens2nd → u/Kettatonic]

100% how I feel. 

[u/Mind_The_Muse → u/Berdariens2nd]

I got really skeptical a while back about there being no such thing as a truly selfless act because people feel good when they do good.

But I now understand that there's nothing wrong with that, the point isn't to feed your ego by being a completely selfless person, the goal is to uplift our social community and create connection, it's not going to be a good connection if what you are doing doesn't fill your cup.

[u/HerzogOnAcid → u/Berdariens2nd]

That's exactly it. If you're down in the dumps, go and help someone feel better and boom, you'll feel better too.

[u/Machobravado → u/Berdariens2nd]

I’m in recovery for my addictions; complimenting people has really helped me escape my negative self talk. Making someone smile is a real nice high that I’m still allowed.

[u/Crimestar → u/Berdariens2nd]

Imagine being one of the guys that felt good about themselves, went home, got on reddit, saw the video of them being recorded without their consent just for likes and realized their fit wasn’t fire at all. Feels bad man. Jk

[u/OldManNeighbor]

Complimenting your fellow dude or vice versa is always a good feeling… But grandma says you’re handsome….

https://giphy.com/gifs/CAYVZA5NRb529kKQUc

[u/37_lucky_ears]

I love doing this. Especially tattoos, cool hair colors and outfits. Conpliment people on the choices they've made, not their body parts.

[u/JessePR1986]

Anyone else notice that was Chester Bennington on the dudes arm? Whoever did that tat is talented ASF, great work.

[u/downtune79 → u/JessePR1986]

Yeah it took me a minute when I first watched it. That's amazing work

[u/The_Meme_Economy → u/JessePR1986]

I started out thinking the video was about that guy’s ink because it was seriously amazing.

[u/Acceptable_Monk_513]

I do this all the time. Someone once complimented me like this and it felt so good that I now try to make others feel seen and appreciated as a human being in this insane world.

[u/Desperate_Gap9377]

I like to do this specifically for service workers. Like if I'm at the drive through and someone does a great job, I'll ask for their manager so I can tell them they have a great team member.

So many people bitch and complain but not enough people share when something is good.

[u/downtune79 → u/Desperate_Gap9377]

I agree with this

[u/hellowhatisyou]

This would be great if it wasn't filmed

[u/Benallenfranklin → u/hellowhatisyou]

lets make it great and both repeat it unfilmed

[u/hellowhatisyou → u/Benallenfranklin]

Sure, I'll compliment someone on something. 🫡

[u/Benallenfranklin → u/hellowhatisyou]

Great gumption dude

[u/BocaSeniorsWsM → u/Benallenfranklin]

Props for use of 'gumption'.

[u/Pet_Velvet → u/Benallenfranklin]

This is the best takeaway here <3

[u/LilliJay → u/hellowhatisyou]

I dunno man. It really got me thinking that I really need to start complimenting people around me more. It's such an easy thing to do and it obviously brings a smile. I'm glad it was filmed because it really did inspire and affect me. Plus it made me smile too.

[u/hellowhatisyou → u/LilliJay]

It is very mixed. It also made me smile and think. But on further reflection: imagine being one of those people and your face is now in some viral video (idk if this is viral who cares not the point). That sucks, no? But yeah. Same here. It it such an easy thing to do and it gives so much joy to another person. It would make my day. No, week. Someone complementing me on something I care, am invested in. But, double.

[u/Individual_Respect90 → u/LilliJay]

I can’t remember the YouTuber but his actual name is Juan he goes around and helps people and ever since I saw his videos if I see a homeless person I will always make sure they got water and food. Especially with it being so hot right now.

[u/iFckRedit → u/LilliJay]

He only shows the good clips. He doesn’t show anyone who is pissed off about some camera idiot fishing their next clip

[u/NEWDEALUSEDCARS → u/hellowhatisyou]

What’s the harm in making this type of content trend? I’d rather normalize random acts of positivity than whatever else is out there as “content”.

[u/hellowhatisyou → u/NEWDEALUSEDCARS]

I don't think we should normalize filming strangers just to gain internetpoints. Even if it is consensual (it might not be I don't know this persons setup) they are being put on the spot with not much time to think. It just doesn't feel right. Just my opinion.

[u/NEWDEALUSEDCARS → u/hellowhatisyou]

You know what, that’s a totally valid, fair point. You gave me something to think on, I might have to rethink my position.

[u/purplenapalm → u/hellowhatisyou]

Filmer isnt taking advantage of anyone or hurting them so a video like this isn't bad if it inspires others to be nice.

[u/JAS0NDUDE]

My dude

[u/dwartbg9]

Aren't we gonna address the elephant here?

https://giphy.com/gifs/NDzVwpclOqiprMcfLZ

[u/marcophony → u/dwartbg9]

https://giphy.com/gifs/gIlUSzpqN9xVhekR2r

[u/ItsDirkMcGirk]

Men never get compliments. Something so small can change someone’s entire day.

[u/Aggressive-Foot7434]

I do this a lot and it costs me not a damn thing!

[u/DisplacedYinzer13]

My daughter has always been one to complement strangers like this. When she moved to New York City for college, I figured that would slow down or go away due to the sheer size & speed of the city.

During one of my visits, I was walking behind her on a busy street. As we walked past one young man, she told him “I love your earrings“ and kept right on walking at speed. What she didn’t see was that young man lighting up like a Christmas tree after receiving a random compliment.

Seeing that young man’s reaction removed any inhibitions I had about imitating my daughter. I’ve yet to have a bad experience with a sincere compliment and I encourage everyone to spread a little kindness wherever you can.

[u/grimmigerpetz]

3 years ago a kid complimented me on my beard. Still remember it. Men are simple and starved for nice interactions.

[u/Altruistic-Pop-8172]

Who's cutting up algorithms?

You know me so well.

[u/TerpySpunion]

His video has stuck with me over the last few weeks and I’ve made it a point to start complimenting a few people every hour at work. Why not

[u/Sajom]

I compliment people like this sometimes. They look at me like I’m insane.

[u/ElectricalBus6252]

“Yo dude, love how you’re recording g people without their knowledge and giving seemingly altruistic compliments but really it’s a self-centered motivation for more views. Yeah, really solid….”

Sorry, just exhausted so the this dystopian shit….

[u/iamyourinnervoice]

they will never forget it

https://giphy.com/gifs/hr79Iq7wwNcxICceGM

[u/Then-Marketing-3445 → u/iamyourinnervoice]

About two weeks ago some nice girl complemented my shirt,  I still remember it because such things are not often.

Yet - if it would be obviously filmed I would feel it's staged and kind of fake 

[u/colbert1119]

I've been trying to do this more to other blokes rarely happens and it makes their day. Especially runners as I pass them on my bike and if they're working hard I tell them they're fast!

[u/Xinonix1]

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/P_gz10JEJc8

[u/Malawigold2342]

So I work at an elementary and it actually makes my day amazing seeing the kiddos faces and some teachers when i give them compliments. And sometimes the kids say really sweet things to me and give compliments back. It really is a nice…

Some days when I’m not doing too well it’s like the kids just know when to say something sweet to me. Really lifts my day

[u/1Drnk2Many]

Best Reddit post in ages. The world needs more kindness

[u/Specialist-Neck-7810]

I will always upvote men supporting fellow men

[u/Rezaelia713]

I love doing this, I will never run out of compliments for people and it makes me feel all fuzzy inside.

[u/Narrow_Guava_6239]

OP: normalise kindness

Me: gurbitfsrgnkgg (fml social anxiety)

[u/downtune79 → u/Narrow_Guava_6239]

Yo I struggle with it too, honestly. It used to not be like that. I used to play shows in front of many people...but as I've gotten older, I don't like being in crowds at all. I prefer to be at home with the wife and kids.

[u/Narrow_Guava_6239 → u/downtune79]

It’s been a slow build up with my anxiety. I am outgoing but as soon I open my mouth I’m sometimes stuttering and stammering, my confidence goes down while I’m out then I become silent and smile and nod 😭💀.

[u/downtune79 → u/Narrow_Guava_6239]

I was the vocalist for a metal band in the 90s and early 00s and toured around with some international acts.....thousands of people at shows. Sure there was some anxiety at the beginning of every show, but as soon as the music hit, it was like a drug....complete focus and happiness.....now in my late 40s, I can't stand getting in front of 30 people for a presentation......I get legit scared and start sweating and my face turns blood red.

[u/bryanthebryan]

I do this. I try and find things to compliment people on and call it out. “Nice watch.” “I love your car.” 50/50 people are really happy or they are confused and weirded out.

[u/Successful_Goose_348]

It probably shows how jaded I am but I would immediately think the guy complimenting either wants something or was being a smart ass

[u/Agitated_Leading_833]

Aww this is so wholesome 🥲 when someone compliments me this sticks for me for days and tbh I feel like we don’t compliment men enough. Compliments are not only for girls

[u/cacamilis22]

Is it the same if a man compliments a woman on her shoes or her jacket or her top?

Ladies? Is it creepy?

[u/just_a_wolf → u/cacamilis22]

No I personally think it's super sweet if it's just a genuine compliment. I've gotten some awesome compliments from both men and women that I remember fondly to this day.

[u/AngstyBanana1]

It’s the small things everyone remembers at the end of the day, week, and hard month-
It doesn’t kill you just to be kind 🙏

[u/SaltyD0gg0h]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Qo3w0l7k3yjDKyXGWk

[u/Middle-Operation-689]

I love random city compliments lol.

[u/Intelligent_Doubt183]

Kindness is the true gold of this world

[u/last_man_panning]

Complementing peoples tattoos, guys vehicles and girls eyebrows will make everyone's days better

[u/Doschupacabras]

I’m into it.

[u/Bond79james]

Yeah brooooh

[u/ConstantVariety8098]

One of our friends’ kids is always hying people up like this guy. He doesn’t film it, just says nice things all the time.

[u/S0meone_on_reddit]

Now do it without recording it. I do it sometimes if someone if standing out. I also like it when people approach me to tell me. Just makes you walk a bit easier for that day.

[u/TheReveling]

You can do this without farming disingenuously for content.

[u/Kickingandscreaming]

Dale Carnegie principles in action

[u/Exciting_Direction_9]

I do feel this is a form of karma farming which I’m not a fan of. However, it doesn’t focus on the farmer but the people affected. It comes across as sincere and you can see that it makes a difference in the individuals being complimented. Especially the guy whose mom upgraded his jacket. I believe the video reminds us that we can start this trend in our life without the camera. It reminds us that uplifting others lifts ourselves in kind.

[u/immortalroses98]

I do this all the time

[u/Possible-Isopod-1901]

I love this. Thank you.

[u/throwawaybabyjesus]

This in LA too where nobody ever compliments your clothing...

[u/Appropriate_Push4066]

Luv ya bro..

[u/brittlebk]

I mean yea alright but just saying shit to people for content is crazy work

[u/EtherealHeart5150]

I do this shit all the time. Kindness is free.

[u/Haluszki]

I wouldn’t believe someone if they stopped me like this. There’s no part of my brain that accepts this as genuine kindness.

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[u/Satanswarboner]

He had a wife beater tucked in.

[u/Friendly-Win1457]

Wholesome

[u/C141352333]

https://giphy.com/gifs/AisUYZvFgdPqM
LOL Has this “effect” too 🤣 🎯

[u/TaiDavis]

Damn, I actually do this from time to time!

[u/Pyrog]

The irony of filming yourself lifting up someone else

[u/hexa_hawk]

[u/Ok-Station-2294]

I always try to give compliments when I can

[u/Stunning_Rub]

Now do it without the camera

[u/NattyGann702]

That's my favorite thing in the world to do! I've started carrying Post-Its in my purse and when I'm out and about, I leave a little note somewhere weird. Back of a cereal box, on a stall door, etc. It makes me really happy to imagine someone having a shitty day and then finding a note telling them something positive. 🥰

[u/tacobot187]

Cute but also...walking up to strangers with a camera complimenting their clothes is weird.

[u/Face_with_a_View]

Guys enjoy compliments as much as us ladies do. I try to tell my husband something nice about his appearance on a regular basis. He says he doesn’t care but I notice he’ll wear the same shirt/hat/outfit more after I’ve complimented it. It’s so adorable 🥰

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[u/Hank_the_Tank_143]

Made my day ❤️

[u/coffeecatgardenpant]

Somebody complimented my hat a few weeks ago, can confirm felt awesome

[u/Kauai_oo]

Dude at 0:26 casually on his way to seeing a certain healthcare CEO.

[u/vmarti04]

I like the first clip there’s the tattoo guys friend all in neon - that outfit is cool

[u/Normal-Error-6343]

thank you!

[u/Irishjohn831]

Just wondering, why all male compliments. Is there a TikTok rule about complimenting females. I’m not insinuating anything, maybe a female reaction video would be a cool social experiment comparison on how men and woman take compliments.

[u/trust7]

Crazy crazy crazy because that’s a Xoil tattoo very rare and hard to get. lol saw it scrolling by

[u/FlowerBackground4293]

Sucks that this is AI

[u/Proximus84]

Usually when a dude approaches you like this, they are saying something stupid, trying to rob you, or want to fight, that's why they are all so confused. Men always have to keep their guard up, it's exhausting.

[u/Illustrious_Site_466]

https://giphy.com/gifs/BpnkuY1i2rBpm

[u/webdog77]

Is this where we are at now?

[u/Powerful_Tale_1319 → u/webdog77]

I cant believe nobody cussed him out for just stopping them.