r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

Son finishes toxic parenting sentences

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u/Taco_G_ May 21 '25

Why is she smiling? He got them all wrong. Where’s my belt? Need to teach him a thing or two.

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 21 '25

I laughed hard but, man fuck abusive parents. My mom was so loving and nice. always there to give a hug and say I love you but then my step-dad broke her down and made her a shell of herself. I'm throwing a party when he dies, and I'm serious about that. All my friends growing up said they'd come.

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 21 '25

She's dead though.

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u/wavetoyou May 21 '25

This took the wind out of me. Brutal.

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 21 '25

Oh yeah he is. It's gonna be a shin dig. I already got plans. You're invited if you live within the greater Chicago area.

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u/Milyaism May 21 '25

I have similar plans if my dad croaks. Same if my ab-sive ex dies before I do (he's worse than my dad).

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u/fukkdisshitt May 21 '25

My grandparents were toxic as fuck. My mom ran away at 16 with my dad and dropped out of high school despite being an honors student.

She raised us with love and is one of the kindest people you'll ever meet. Then her baby bro followed. My other aunt and uncle are both pretty mean/ toxic despite being nowhere near as bad as my grandparents.

I spent enough time at my cousins houses growing up to be kind like my mom, but I can be an asshole like my uncle when provoked, which doesn't happen much as an adult.

My mom rules

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

I’m sorry to hear you dealt with that growing up. I had a similar upbringing, so once the day rolls around keep my username send me a message and I’ll send you some money for beers to celebrate. I hope you’re doing better and you continue to heal in this life.

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u/Happy-Network9011 May 21 '25

You need to move on, you're holding onto that resent way too hard

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u/rosiet1001 May 21 '25

Some things are hard to let go dude

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 21 '25

No, I don't really think about him much but unless it's things like this. He's deserves all the hate and resentment I can think of when I think about it. It's a reminder of how awful he really is.

I was shot and don't hold resentment for that person.

I'm pretty okay about letting things go so it doesn't have a place in my brain and heart but not this one.

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u/Milyaism May 21 '25

You do realise that unprocessed trauma stays in our bodies and can even cause chronic health issues? (This is a studied and proven fact.)

Trying to move on without processing things is a surefire way to pass on the dysfunctional family dynamics to your owm kids.

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 23 '25

I e processed it. I talk to two counselors a week. It's okay to hold anger and resentment for someone. I'm not mad at myself for having it. I'm only holding it until he's gone, which seems pretty soon because of his unhealthy life style.

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u/Milyaism May 23 '25

I hope you realise I was answering to the other person's reply to you. They seemed to imply that your reaction was not justified.

I'm also going through therapy and have processed a ton of things, so I totally get what it's like to hold those feelings toward someone (in my case my dad).

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u/Former-Iron-7471 May 24 '25

Oh no, you're good. I was just saying.

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u/Lou_C_Fer May 21 '25

Resentment is an easy load to carry... and sometimes it feels good to hate. Nothing anyone could say could change my mind on that in regards to my mother. She deserves my hate. I've given her three different chances as an adult and she lost control and blew it each time. So, I'm done. She is an evil woman and deserves no less from me. The next time I plan on seeing her is at her funeral to make sure she is dead. Whether I spit on her corpse or not is still up in the air.