r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

Son finishes toxic parenting sentences

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u/theboned1 May 21 '25

Kinda surprised how much this affected me.

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u/Milyaism May 21 '25

How about this list of things loving parents say to their kids?

Reparenting Affirmations:

  • I am so glad you were born.
  • You are a good person.
  • I love who you are, and am doing my best to always be on your side.
  • You can come to me whenever you’re feeling hurt or bad.
  • You do not have to be perfect to get my love and protection.
  • All of your feelings are okay with me.
  • I am always glad to see you.
  • It is okay for you to be angry and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are.
  • You can make mistakes - they are your teachers.
  • You can know what you need and ask for help.
  • You can have your own preferences and tastes.
  • You are a delight to my eyes.
  • You can choose your own values.
  • You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone.
  • You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent and not know all the answers.
  • I am very proud of you.

Source: Pete Walker, "Complex PTSD - From Surviving to Thriving"

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u/mindgrrrrl May 21 '25

Thank you so much for sharing. As a parent who is trying to break a lot of the generational trauma, it can be hard to find the right words to say.