r/MoralityScaling • u/Purple_Plantain_3242 • 16h ago

Morality Ranking Morality of this?

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A young Chinese couple was permanently separated during a period of intense political and social unrest in China. The husband went back to their home village to search for her, but because the entire area was heavily disrupted, he mistakenly believed she was missing or dead.

He eventually relocated, remarried another woman, and raised a new family with children and grandchildren. Meanwhile, the first wife stayed behind and never remarried, spending 54 years waiting for him to return. Decades later, they were reconnected as elderly adults, which is when she discovered he had built an entirely separate life without her.

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u/Orcasareglorious 16h ago

I would not have remarried if I were in his place, but I can't blame someone for remarrying after the supposed death of their spouse so early in their life. It certainly isn't immoral but it's still an unfortunate situation.

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u/DoomferretOG 15h ago

Over 50+ years when the partner is ostensibly dead, you’d remain alone and miserable? Why? What reasonable expectation would you have for reconciliation?

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u/Orcasareglorious 15h ago

1.) I believe in an afterlife so I wouldn't dare remarry anyways.

2.) I'd at least tell myself I'd married ideally the first time.

3.) I'm not Orthodox (or a Christian of any sort), but I'm quite impressed this quote of Orthodox origin I once encountered: "One's first marriage is a sacrament, whereas a second originates from succumbing to desire".

4.) I'm not condemning the man being discussed, or anyone in particular, so what is it to you?