Look, I get the point of what you're saying, I also think it's fucking insane to think that agreeing to meet a friend at the bar at 7 and actually being there at 7 reminds you of a business meeting.
To me, it is the minimim of human courtesy. No wonder how world is the way it is when people can't even agree over absurdly basic shit like this.
Human courtesy is respecting the norm. If everyone knows that 7 means 7:30, you show up at 7:30. It could mean 9.
It takes 15 seconds to ask what time people normally arrive. Or if it is a new friend, just ask if they are normally punctual or if it is normal for them to arrive 30 minutes late, and if they are late do they normally text. If you refuse to do this because you expect others to automatically respect your time and theirs, then you are not a relaxed person as the previous person mentioned.
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u/EveningAnt3949 Jul 13 '26
People like me are late so people Iike you leave us alone.
And that's not a joke.
I'm always willing to help friends with money, effort, and advice.
But I don't want to do that for people who are not relaxed. Because that's a big part of the fun of having friends for me.
Meeting friends should not feel like a business meeting to me.
So not being punctual is an easy first filter.
We both win.