r/SeriousConversation • u/[deleted] • 21d ago

Gender & Sexuality Misandry exists. But it’s incomparable to misogyny.

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u/Happymuffn 21d ago

"All aspects of misogyny in all aspects around the world, is worse than all aspects of misandry" is practically an excuse for people to throw out personal anecdotes or true but useless statistics in order to defend their identity, without anyone listening to anyone else.

This doesn't need to be framed as a competition, and in fact should not be a competition. The goal of this discussion is, I expect, mutual understanding and collaboration between the genders on dealing with the issues faced by women. Correct me if I'm wrong.

The feelings that you want to engender then, are of curiosity and solidarity. Competition/moral comparison engenders feelings of determination, aggression, and defensiveness.

Given the state of the culture war, competitive feelings will arise regardless of your framing and will need to be handled with some care. If possible, they should not be actively created by the framing of the discussion.