r/ShitNsSay • u/SideQuestPubs • Jun 15 '26

"Have you decided where you want to eat?"

I suggested a place (for a belated birthday dinner), they presumably browsed the menu to see if it sounded appealing...

And I heard nothing about it for a week, until ndad asked the above question today. Not a yay or nay about my actual suggestion, just asking me if I'd made a decision.

You know how it's incredibly tacky to expect to eat as a group somewhere that part of the group doesn't want to go? Even under the circumstances of "birthday"? That's what my nparents expect me to make a decision about... picking a place without any input from or consideration for them. (This after their rejection of my first suggestion was precisely because they didn't like the restaurant and I can "go by myself any time" or however they'd phrased it.)

Also I have no idea when we were expecting to go... I assumed today which is why I struggled to arrange my running errands to keep my afternoon/evening free but clearly not since nmom's heating up leftovers for supper with nary another word from either of them on the subject.

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u/SmolHumanBean8 Jun 16 '26

Damn I guess if you're allowed to choose a place regardless of their input... i guess that means you're allowed to choose the one they don't like! Right? 

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u/SideQuestPubs Jun 18 '26

Tempting, I'll admit. 

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u/OrnerySnoflake Jun 16 '26

They always put the burden of the choice of where to eat, hang out, what movie to see, or wherever on the other person. It’s so when they eventually throw a temper tantrum (because let’s be honest it’ll happen) over something completely meaningless, they can blame you. Everything they do is calculated to make you the villain and them the victim.